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Guest Elizabeth K

I know we have very few post-op people here, but I need some feedback?

Our surgery is set for near here in Florida. But we will still be a two days drive away from our usual support in New Orleans. Also, Dee Jay and I are getting our surgery at almost the same time so we cannot depend much on each other during the early recovery time.

WHAT is a serious estimate of the time between the surgery/hospital recovery time - until the time we would be able to travel back to New Orleans. Is it best to travel two days by rental car or to fight the airlines all day to fly home?

What is a realistic expectation of what we will be able to do and not be able to do during the immediate weeks afterward, when back home. And how long before we are mobile enough to return to a regular routine? What do we prepare in advance to make it easier back here when we return?

What do we need to take for the two weeks we will be recovering while still in Florida? What am I forgetting that I might need but probably won't be able to get for a while because of limited mobility?

What are types of food recommendations - good and bad? especially at first?

And what else am I forgetting - or should know?

Lizzy

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Guest Ney'ite

Hey - not JUST you Shilo gosh dernit - me too! Don't forget me!!!!

But in all seriousness, I am so very happy for you both - and wish for everything to go smooth as silk!

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hon, you ask a very serious question and I do hope that you get the responses that you need. I would hope that those who have been through this can help you now.

Congrats dear.

Love.

Brenda

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Yes, I also hope that someone post op- hey how about Paula Ault. She's had hers with McGinn this past year and would pretty much know. I think she's still around the playground here.

Mike

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Guest Lacey Lynne

Girl, you KNOW you're tops in my book! However, there are actually more postops at Susan's Place. You may want to pop in over there and ask too.

I believe some of the surgeons in Florida have off-site convalescence. That's good and bad. My recommendation to you would be to have somebody available somewhere (it can be over The Internet and via celluar phone these days) who you trust and can contact to get either or both of you to the hospital or to the proper doctors pronto if need be if you're off-site from hospital immediately postoperatively.

Paulault and Kelise here can surely help you. Private-message them. Surely, they'll be happy to help you. I've spoken with Paula 3-4 times via phone, and I'll tell you, she's a gem! Kairi, I'm sure, would be happy to advise you too, although Paula is in our age demographic.

Peace & Joy :friends: Lacey Lynne

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I know we have very few post-op people here, but I need some feedback?

Most surgeon's send a packet after you have paid your deposit and selected a date, the packet should answer most of your questions, in case they did not i will answer going by Dr. Mcginn recommends.

Our surgery is set for near here in Florida. But we will still be a two days drive away from our usual support in New Orleans. Also, Dee Jay and I are getting our surgery at almost the same time so we cannot depend much on each other during the early recovery time.

WHAT is a serious estimate of the time between the surgery/hospital recovery time - until the time we would be able to travel back to New Orleans. Is it best to travel two days by rental car or to fight the airlines all day to fly home?

From the day i had my surgery till the time we left to return home was 13 days, 5 in the hospital and 8 at the bread and breakfast, we had a 9 hour drive, that turned into 12 hours because we stopped at almost every rest area so i could stretch, Dr. Mcginns does not recommend driving long distances just 2 weeks after surgery, i believe this is mainly due to the pain killers, you need to check with your surgeon on what they recommend, a 2 day drive with the two of you switching off driving is going to be uncomfortable even if you are sitting on the doughnut and that 2 day drive could turn into 3 days. Even with all the hassles at the airports these days i would fly, i imagine the flight at most would be no more than 2 hours, get wheelchairs, you would be the first to board the plane.

What is a realistic expectation of what we will be able to do and not be able to do during the immediate weeks afterward, when back home. And how long before we are mobile enough to return to a regular routine? What do we prepare in advance to make it easier back here when we return?

I was not allowed to lift more than 5 pounds or exercise in any way other than walking for 2 weeks after the catheter is removed, i was fairly active about a week after i returned home, though things down there were still sore, again check with your surgeon.

What do we need to take for the two weeks we will be recovering while still in Florida? What am I forgetting that I might need but probably won't be able to get for a while because of limited mobility?

I would not over pack, a robe, nightgown or pj's are what i mainly wore except for my two checkups and travel home, loose and comfortable clothing for traveling would be best. I would make sure any post op supplies that your surgeon wants you to have are purchased and ready when you return home.

What are types of food recommendations - good and bad? especially at first?

High protein like meat and eggs help with healing, cranberry juice to help prevent uti and yogurt to prevent yeast infection, bad would be anything that would raise your blood sugar.

And what else am I forgetting - or should know?

You might want to bring a laptop computer, cell phone, i pod etc. to help pass the time.

Lizzy

I think Dee Jay has my phone number if you want to talk more.

Paula

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Girl, you KNOW you're tops in my book! However, there are actually more postops at Susan's Place. You may want to pop in over there and ask too.

I believe some of the surgeons in Florida have off-site convalescence. That's good and bad. My recommendation to you would be to have somebody available somewhere (it can be over The Internet and via celluar phone these days) who you trust and can contact to get either or both of you to the hospital or to the proper doctors pronto if need be if you're off-site from hospital immediately postoperatively.

Paulault and Kelise here can surely help you. Private-message them. Surely, they'll be happy to help you. I've spoken with Paula 3-4 times via phone, and I'll tell you, she's a gem! Kairi, I'm sure, would be happy to advise you too, although Paula is in our age demographic.

Peace & Joy :friends: Lacey Lynne

Lacey, most of the post op's have been driven away from Susan's, including myself.

Paula

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Guest kelise

Hey girls, I would have to suggest a minimum of three weeks recovery time down south before you even think of taking on a road trip like that back to New Orleans. If possible, I'd drive down and fly back. If you do that I'd say two weeks should be sufficient.

P.S. If you're driving through my neck of the woods (O-town) why not stop by and say hello?

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Guest Lacey Lynne

Girl, you KNOW you're tops in my book! However, there are actually more postops at Susan's Place. You may want to pop in over there and ask too.

I believe some of the surgeons in Florida have off-site convalescence. That's good and bad. My recommendation to you would be to have somebody available somewhere (it can be over The Internet and via celluar phone these days) who you trust and can contact to get either or both of you to the hospital or to the proper doctors pronto if need be if you're off-site from hospital immediately postoperatively.

Paulault and Kelise here can surely help you. Private-message them. Surely, they'll be happy to help you. I've spoken with Paula 3-4 times via phone, and I'll tell you, she's a gem! Kairi, I'm sure, would be happy to advise you too, although Paula is in our age demographic.

Peace & Joy :friends: Lacey Lynne

Lacey, most of the post op's have been driven away from Susan's, including myself.

Paula

Paula:

Oh, my! Hey, I had no idea having actually just popped over there once the other day to post a rock 'n roll thread (Stones, of course!), so I didn't know ... so sorry! Just wondering, what made 'em all leave, if we may ask?

Thank You :friends: Lacey Lynne

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Guest Donna Jean

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I believe some of the surgeons in Florida have off-site convalescence.

Peace & Joy :friends: Lacey Lynne

We'll be doing offsite convalescence...it's adjacent to the hospital and the doctor and nurses will be caring for us there after we leave the hospital.....

Dee Jay

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Well I wish we had a working car... we could come see you while you're in FL recovering! I can't offer much help other than to let you know I will definitely be thinking of you and hoping it goes smoothly and all that... wish I could do more.

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Girl, you KNOW you're tops in my book! However, there are actually more postops at Susan's Place. You may want to pop in over there and ask too.

I believe some of the surgeons in Florida have off-site convalescence. That's good and bad. My recommendation to you would be to have somebody available somewhere (it can be over The Internet and via celluar phone these days) who you trust and can contact to get either or both of you to the hospital or to the proper doctors pronto if need be if you're off-site from hospital immediately postoperatively.

Paulault and Kelise here can surely help you. Private-message them. Surely, they'll be happy to help you. I've spoken with Paula 3-4 times via phone, and I'll tell you, she's a gem! Kairi, I'm sure, would be happy to advise you too, although Paula is in our age demographic.

Peace & Joy :friends: Lacey Lynne

Lacey, most of the post op's have been driven away from Susan's, including myself.

Paula

Paula:

Oh, my! Hey, I had no idea having actually just popped over there once the other day to post a rock 'n roll thread (Stones, of course!), so I didn't know ... so sorry! Just wondering, what made 'em all leave, if we may ask?

Thank You :friends: Lacey Lynne

It is best discussed off board, since the topic became a flame war over there, call me if you would like to know more.

Paula

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

I can drive you both down there but one of y'all has to ride in the trailer since I can only have one passenger in the truck with me. I'll let you two draw straws on that one.

p.s. the trailer isn't air conditioned. or comfortable.

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Guest Elizabeth K

I can drive you both down there but one of y'all has to ride in the trailer since I can only have one passenger in the truck with me. I'll let you two draw straws on that one.

p.s. the trailer isn't air conditioned. or comfortable.

SHOTGUN!

Lizzy

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Guest Guest_SL

I applaud your courage and your humor and I hope things go well and your recovery be as easy as possible.

All my very best.

Sara Lee

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