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Getting my legs back


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Guest ZoeG360

I realize I had been a little disconnected for a bit when I look at this forum and see how many posts I havn't read.

But I have been a bit disoriented of late and am getting my legs back, finally.

My wife of 20 years left me to go live 1200 miles away and last week was, how should I say it, a bit challenging. :>)

With the help of my friends here at LP and here in Minneapolis, I seem to be coming out of the darkness. I have busied myself with reclaiming my disaster of a house,and keeping in touch with a few very close, important people in my life who have helped me through it.

Since I took a few days off work, I have been living more or less full time and loving it and started to realize that a great weight has been lifted. I don;t have to spend so much energy dealing with a collapsing relationship and I am generally happier, I even caught myself just grinning for no real reason yesterday. (Something Lizzie warned me about!)

So life is moving on and so am I. Sometimes we have to go through a dark tunnel to get to the other side.

Thanks to all here that have supported and encouraged me.

Zoe is back in the building!

Zoe

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Guest Guest_SL

Zoe,

There's no way to end a long standing relationship with some disruption. Even leaving lousy jobs after years is stressful.

I don't know for sure but it's my opinion you weathered the change pretty well.

SL

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Welcome back Zoe!

That is why we never lock the doors here - everyone is free to come and go as needed.

I am so sorry that you had to go through the end of a marriage but it is a price that so many of our community have to pay.

From the grinning for no reason and the weight being lifted I can tell that you already know that this is worth any price.

Just being yourself is a tremendous reward.

Love ya,

Sally

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Good to see you back. So many times I have initially reacted badly to dramatic changes only to find the positives outweighed the negatives. The negative energy in a failing relationship builds a day at a time and can come to seem normal. For me, it took redefining out relationship for the weight to be lifted and it truly has been freeing.

So I'm happy that its working for you. :)

Hugs

Michelle

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Zoe,

Hip, hip, hooray!!

Sooo glad you are seeing some of the upside now, I know you've been to hades and back, you deserve this good stuff, you really do...

We DO miss you when you are gone, but we all need to fall back and regroup on occasion, don't we?

Love and success to YOU!

You make me proud, ya know?

:) :) :)

Svenna

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Guest Krisina

Zoe, I'm so glad you are back in the building.

I really really hate those dark tunnels too! It is so nice when get to see the light again and come out of those dark periods of life's struggles.

Hugs

Krisina

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Guest CariadsCarrot

I'm glad you're feeling some better Zoe. Sometimes we don't see the heavy weight that holding onto things puts on us until we are forced to let go.

Gabe

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Guest LaciGirl

Same, I'm glad to hear things are looking up for you. Divorce is hard, I'm still dealing with the aftermath of mine being finalized about a week or two back.

We all love you & are here for you. *hugs* :D

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Outstanding, Zoe's is back and at her best. Just think, your Ex had a 1200 mile trip ahead of her to just think and think and think. Just imagine how long that trip turned out to be. I've let go of my wife of 31 years and I just heard I'm closing on my new house maybe early next week and it's all mine. So Zoe, what say about 7:00 pm tonight we make a toast to Ex's and good bye's. We are free of encumberances. We are strong woman with a great future ahead of us.

Kathryn

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Thanks everyone. Life is good.

Zoe

Indeed it is!

So let's all be sure to LIVE it, and LIVE it well...

Our freedom comes at a cost, so let us never forget how sweet and precious these victories are...

Love for ZOE! Svenna

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Guest Sarah1967

Hi Zoe I am Happy that you are back an doing okay , I went through the same thing married for ten years an my wife left me that was back in 1999 an in 2006 we got back together an that lasted a year and we slpit up again still married to her though an I still talk to her an we are friends. When she left in 1999 the world around me felt like it was caving in an the hurting was so bad but I got through it.

I hope everything goes well for you Zoe take care now,

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Svenna:

You are such a sweetie.

What would I ever do without you?

Love and hugs

Zoe

Aw, Darlin'...

Ain't nothin' to it, you deserve all the goodness you can get..

Love for YOU! Svenna

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