Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Archived

This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.

Guest Mia J

How did you find a Hair Salon?

Recommended Posts

Guest Mia J

I have a question on how some of the people here found a hair salon that were accepting of you.

I know I can't go to one of the two local salons in the town that is closest to me because of comments my spouse has heard them make when she would go to them.

But I am only about 15 miles from the metro area and there are a lot of places there that are not too far.

My hair is now past shoulder length and I want to get it styled and take care of the split ends. I not only want to find a place that is accepting but one that will not do anything that will damage my hair because of personal prejudices.

What kind of experiences have you had.

Mia

Share this post


Link to post
MackenzieB

I found mine via the resource pages on a local support group website. Yea, I know, I cheated. But I do need to find a closer one. I'm probably just going to look on Yelp for a salon in the Capitol Hill area here (that's the predominate LGBT area). I know... cheating once again.

Share this post


Link to post
VickySGV

My favorite cosmetics "warehouse", ULTA, where I get my Derma Blend foundation has a styling salon in it. I was in girl mode, buying one of their hair extension pieces one day, and one of the hairstylists had walked over to where I was attempting to get the right color and offered to help me match it to my then natural color, but did a nice sales job by telling me that the next day, and for a week after, they were having a special on Color & Cut services. I made an appointment with her for the next afternoon, and she told me to bring the hair piece in and we would match it with a color that would get my gray under control. The cut part of the job was easy for her, since it was just a tiny bit of layering, and a "dead end" removal. I've had two root jobs and trims since then. I have behaved as girl and been treated accordingly. The first hair job was right before Thanksgiving and she was cooking for her family, and since I am a better than average cook, we had fun talking about the cooking as she was working on my hair.

Share this post


Link to post
Guest Lizzie McTrucker

My mom and I have been going to this particular salon for ... well since we pretty much moved down here to FL in '89. She's almost family so once my mom told her about me being transgendered she's been a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen and then with me she's given me ideas and suggestions about how to look more female and just watched my progress.

Share this post


Link to post
Guest mistygirl7

As for me that works in a salon, most likely No one cares. but there there can be few that makes comments. The best you can do is make sure the stylist doing your hair is polite and nice and just ignore the others.

Share this post


Link to post
Guest Mia J

Misty I suppose I could make the 880 miles between us and come in for an appointment but that is a little further than I want to travel.

I had thought about calling some places and asking if they were gender friendly but I do not want to out myself even before I step through the door.

Mia

Share this post


Link to post
VickySGV

Mia -- the subject of my being Trans has not come up where I go. After two years on HRT, my hair did not give me away all by its lonesome during the first shot. In fact, the girl commented on how much healthier and femininge mine was for my admitted age, at 60+. I guess post menopausal women develop a more male type hair, so who will know??

Share this post


Link to post
Guest Pammy

I found mine by word of mouth. Just find someone who has a really nice cut or style that you like and ask where she had it done and who did it. Most women will freely share this information. If not, there are always phone calls. While I was casting about in this strange place for a new stylist, I just called ahead and asked if they were trans-friendly. Those that said yes got a try, those that said no or demurred, did not.

You can also follow other's advice and ask around at meetings or look for online referrals.

Love

Pamela

Share this post


Link to post
Guest Gwendolyn Elizabeth

Misty I suppose I could make the 880 miles between us and come in for an appointment but that is a little further than I want to travel.

I had thought about calling some places and asking if they were gender friendly but I do not want to out myself even before I step through the door.

Mia

Misty wasn't that far from me. And I think she did a wonderful job. Thank you Misty...

Share this post


Link to post
Michelle 2010

I just started using mine this year, after no hair cut until I had a 6 inch pony tail. she came recommended from a trans advocate who has her trans daughter visit the stylist when in town. I called and referenced the customer and said "I was told you are trans friendly and would like to give you a try." She made no issue of it one way or the other. I've been twice and sought input from her on layering, color, how to prevent breaking the hair, etc. I tip well and she spends what I think is quite a bit of time just combing it and grooming as the hair finished air drying. A very sensual experience...

The shampoo girl may or may not know I'm trans (yeah, right...lol!) She loves the length and color. It is a bright, busy, feminine salon which specializes in coloring hair, so maybe the customers are not kids or twentysomethings. I don't think I've seen another man... Although its a large room, each station has a sense of its own space due to the displays, mirrors etc. And I luuuv the experience.

I have received no weird glances, no comments from others. As I have become more comfortable in my feminine nature, I don't question if I am "spotted" as "femme". I simply assume I am recognized as such if I have my hair down and earrings in. People are comfortable with me if I am comfortable with who i am; that is, a customer enjoying the salon experience.

I highly recommend trans folks find a salon where they can be comfortable. The experience is too rewarding to not include it in being who you really are :)

Hugs

Michelle

Share this post


Link to post
Cyndee

Hi Mia,

Thought I would answer this thread this morning. Word of mouth led me too a very nice place in downtown Seattle that is accepting and professional. I get my custom hair piece(s) there, and they take care of my natural hair which is down my back.

Cindy -

Share this post


Link to post
Paula ult

The stylist i go to was recommended to me by her brother, she ran a beauty salon for many years them retired, she decided to set up a room in her home that is very professional, with low overhead she charges less than going to a normal beauty salon.

Paula

Share this post


Link to post
Candykane

I think I would just walk into a few shops(hopefully with info from friends as to which shops are GOOD) If a shop is trans friendly it is not naccessaraly a reccomendation of thier skills. Pick a few shops and walk in and look it over. Give it a try. If you like the shop and some one is talking behind your back, well thats life. I hate to be Catty but shops with gay guys seem to do the best with hair, and no way can they comment about us.

Candy Kane

Share this post


Link to post

  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    No registered users viewing this page.

  • Who's Online   3 Members, 0 Anonymous, 60 Guests (See full list)

    • Dannie
    • VickySGV
    • QuestioningAmber
  • Topics With Zero Replies

  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      69,031
    • Total Posts
      623,390
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      5,719
    • Most Online
      8,356

    BrittneyIB
    Newest Member
    BrittneyIB
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Brienne
      Brienne
      (47 years old)
    2. ShyAshley
      ShyAshley
      (33 years old)
  • Posts

    • Jani
      This is nice Michelle. We can all be an inspiration to someone, whether we know it or not.   Jani
    • michelle_kitten
      A friend at work today sent me a message he wanted to talk to me.  I was leery, because he can talk on and on, and lecture if he thinks someone's done something incorrectly.  Sigh.  I asked him what he wanted to talk to me about and he replied, "Nothing. Just something personal."  Okay.  Well, that's sounds better than, "You should have done..."  So, after my shift was over I went by to see him.   He said, "I have to thank you." "What for?" I asked. "Because, of  you I went and got help for something that's been a problem for a while and I was too embarrassed to get help." Of course, at this point my mind is going.  Is he gay?  Is he trans too?  He is a bit effeminate.  "What's happened?" I asked. He tells me he's been feeling really run down, and sleeps away his weekends for some time.  He went to the doctor, and they diagnosed him with low-T.  He's on hormones now, and may end up on estrogen blockers as well.   That's exactly why I have been open about my transition with folks.  I believed if I was living a lie, by coming out others might find the courage to stop living lies as well.  I am very happy about this.  I am glad he is getting help.
    • AJ Baumann
      Thanks gennee. It is nice to find supportive community 💚 AJ
    • Nivegnal
      I ponder what I would really do if it all was just handed to me tomorrow.  Would I jump in both feet or not.  It’s easy to say you want this or that and different when you can actually get it.  I know this well enough.   I’m not in a hurry to have more surgery.  SRS is not on my scope but seems like a possible step.   Like you I’m more interested in an orchy and shed my T.   But I’m still healing from my last tangle with a scalpel.    Before I go on with that I want to understand my feelings and place in all this.  I’m hoping the therapist can show/teach/explain what’s what and why.  
    • NB Adult
      Back in the early 1990's I was fortunate being in a VA related counseling program for PTSD issues. My counselor was in a long term lesbian relationship, so when I broached the subject of what I intended to accomplish as a trans person, she had no qualms about writing me all the necessary letters. Prior to that I had been seeing Dr. Anne Lawrence, I know some people detest her, but she saw fit to put me on feminizing HRT and she also wrote me a letter of recommendation for SRS. Later it turned out that the endocrine specialist at the local VA hospital knew Anne, and he bought into my plan to transition and set me up for free meds. He also wrote me a letter recommending an orchiectomy and or SRS as I had complained about having to take Spironolactone as a testosterone blocker. So when I hooked up with Dr. Bowers I had both feet in the door but in the finale analysis decided that it wasn't the ultimate panacea for me. The reason I blathered all this past history out is that I felt at the time that if anything that you desire to accomplish is really valid and that important to you, then you will be manipulative and as devious as necessary to achieve what you need to. I am a bit embarrassed by putting all this out there, because in the end I dropped the ball entirely and in retrospect I have to concede that we should take our time going through the process step by step and not try to circumvent the system. It is what it is for our own good.
    • Nivegnal
      I am hoping to feel “the weight” lifted.   It is nice to know there are those here that understand.  
    • Nivegnal
      I wish you all the best with your conversations and your marriage.  The first time I came out to my first wife it was easy and she was totally supportive.  We shopped together and she taught me make up. It was wonderful. Then we got divorced a year later and my world crumbed.   She eventually couldn’t do it any longer even though I was not truly out still being in the military.  Still a guy in public and at work or every where outside our home.   ot was crushing.  Having to go deep in hiding again. I almost took my life.  My fear of this happening again is crippling.   I hope to work through my fear and one day tell my wife now.   Good luck this weekend ❤️
    • Amanda Thomas
      Thank you for your kind support Jani. More and more, I'm reaching the point that I realize I can't go back to my old life no matter what I do. Strangely, this is a source of courage. I have to move forward now and I feel a strange sort of calm knowing that my transition is beginning no matter what I try to do to stop it. It seems I am not letting my fear stop me from living anymore.
    • Jani
      I don't know much about Italian protocols in therapy but hopefully you can search online for therapists.  Might there be a society that they belong too (such as the APA) to search for members and qualifications?   I googled "therapists in Italy" and found this.  https://internationaltherapistdirectory.com/listings/italy-1/   Jani
    • Jani
      I love cars and all things automotive. I used to race a dedicated car; high strung race engine, full safety cage, trailered, etc.  While I no longer race since I don't have the stamina I do still have a small fleet of vehicles that I love.  I have a well equipped shop to play in.  I also love to cook and sew, always have.  While I once fretted over my "male-centric" hobbies I've found it to be a non issue.     Enjoy what you do.   Jani
    • Jani
      I was terribly nervous going in and walking on air on the way out as I had finally unburdened my soul to someone. This will hopefully be a good thing for your too.    Jani
    • Jani
      This was me too so you're not alone.  I found it difficult to explain to my wife something I couldn't explain to myself.  Counseling helped me a lot.     All my best.  Jani
    • NB Adult
      Being willing to sit down and talk through all of the issues she has is critical.
    • Jackie C.
      Best of luck Sara! My conversation was a little different from what you're going to have, but Susan and I are closer now than we've ever been before. Over the weekend she was telling an old friend how much more pleasant I've been to have around the house since I've started transitioning. Note here is that I'm OUT out. I present as female all the time, I'll happily answer questions to the best of my ability and I'm not ashamed of being transgender. I'd rather I wasn't mind you, but I think part of being trans is making the most out of a difficult situation.   Your wife sounds like a wonderful and caring individual. You're still the person she fell in love with, you're just sharing a little more of yourself. I think it's telling that you came out to her and she stuck around. I think you'll be OK.   Hugs!
    • SaraAW
      @Nivegnal  My wife is still upset I hid it from her. What she can’t grasp is that I wasn’t ready to tell her as I had almost no answers at the time and was really feeling shame. We have had only very brief conversations since as we have had people staying with us almost non stop since the initial conversation.    I honestly don’t know that I would I have really done a whole lot different if I could have a do over. It was one of the most stressful things I have ever done in my life. It took everything I had to bring it into the light. I am still stressed about it both the situation with my wife and the fact I am not out to anyone else other than my therapist, my GP and my endo.    I am going to have a much more in-depth series of conversations with my wife this weekend, as we are finally going to have some alone time. We will see how it goes.    I wish you the best of luck in coming out to your spouse. Everyone is different and will handle the news in their own way. You may end up with a super supportive partner.    *hugs*   Sara
  • Upcoming Events

×
×
  • Create New...