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Do you love the feel of shoes[Pumps,Heels or Flats} when you are at home with your desires and your internal lover? Or do you prefer nylons, panties and bra only?

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Depends on the time of day, which day it is, and if I feel that I can dress, even a little for a while.

If the opportunity arises, I'll be really happy to spend the (winter's) evening after work and it's dark enough to close the curtains to come home from work, draw the curtains and get fully dressed. That's bra, panties, tights, or stockings, blouse, skirt, wig and shoes and I LOVE the sound of my heels on the wooden kitchen floor! I seem to take twice as long to do anything then as normal, as I find myself carrying a cup from the cupboard to the table, then a saucer, or a knife, then a fork and so on!

Other times, like this lunchtime in fact, I've tights and panties on under my male trousers with my white heeled court shoes, but I will also have a pair of socks and slippers to hand, just in case the bell rings!

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Guest Elizabeth K

:P Court shoes - oh my goodness, so BRIT - I LOVE the idea of shoes at a formal gathering, with hats and gloves and a cold gentle rain... perhaps a fantasy, but that is what the name evokes - sigh. I wasn't aware of court shoes until I did a little researching. Elegant, simple, feminine...

In the USA - weddings take on that feel of glamour - ah weddings... the young girls new to heels, in those impossile shoes... so sexy on the dance floor it seems impossible that they aren't immediately swept off their feet and ravished. But the overdressed young males on the side, uncomfortable in tux - modern cut and cumberbun, oblivious - such fools.

Me on the side, my heart begging to be a young girl - aching to be one of these angels...

I can't enjoy the pink sherbert punch and overly sweetened cake, I an so enthralled...

But at home I have shoes.

Back home I can be me - court shoes - super high heel pumps - strappy backed open toes - anything goes... If I can find it in my size :D

Oh yes - nylons, panties and bra? Sure - but the shoes... ah the shoes...

And the clicking heels...

And how they make us walk just a hint differently... don't mince now dear... but dance across the floor in all the glory of womanhood

Yikes - we have it bad :lol:

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Guest Donna Jean
:P Court shoes - oh my goodness, so BRIT - I LOVE the idea of shoes at a formal gathering, with hats and gloves and a cold gentle rain... perhaps a fantasy, but that is what the name evokes - sigh. I wasn't aware of court shoes until I did a little researching. Elegant, simple, feminine...

In the USA - weddings take on that feel of glamour - ah weddings... the young girls new to heels, in those impossile shoes... so sexy on the dance floor it seems impossible that they aren't immediately swept off their feet and ravished. But the overdressed young males on the side, uncomfortable in tux - modern cut and cumberbun, oblivious - such fools.

Me on the side, my heart begging to be a young girl - aching to be one of these angels...

I can't enjoy the pink sherbert punch and overly sweetened cake, I an so enthralled...

But at home I have shoes.

Back home I can be me - court shoes - super high heel pumps - strappy backed open toes - anything goes... If I can find it in my size :D

Oh yes - nylons, panties and bra? Sure - but the shoes... ah the shoes...

And the clicking heels...

And how they make us walk just a hint differently... don't mince now dear... but dance across the floor in all the glory of womanhood

Yikes - we have it bad :lol:

Ground control calling Liz...come back to us, sweetie! LOL LOL :P :P

Ha ha ha , you're a peach!

Donna Jean

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Guest Elizabeth K

Ah reality... yes :mellow:

Cloud nine sitting in an early posting at Laura's... life is good

Its the real world that can be a bit hard... getting away for a bit keeps us sane, I think - I have to laugh.

Oh yes - I now wear flats most of the time, sensible loafers mainly - practical - but I still dream... HA! :P

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Guest Kelly Ann

at home...ballet slippers...plain black leather simple/elegant. It would have to be flats outside the house...unless I was around a lot of basketball players or Amazons...LOL...so I'll never be called tiny...hmmmm...thinking on it...I never was...maybe I SHOULD look for some heels...it's been a loooooong time for THOSE, Kelly Ann

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Guest Karen-1954

At home I usually wear sandals or flip flops. Out, I wear either flats, tennis shoes or heels. It just depends on what I am wearing and where I am going.

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Guest Amanda L Richards

I do it as the mood strikes me. One time cleaning the house, I wore a pair of jeans and a t-shirt with, ov course bra and panties with flats. I have also been in a dress to clean. Once in a year the summer was real hot I had a couple of pairs of shorts that worked quite nicely and t-shirts.

Otherwise just for lounging around even right after getting home, it is shower and straight into a nightie and panties and barefoot if I don't have to go anywhere. :blush:

Amanda L

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Guest brain(katie)

I deffinetly prefere a nice skirt, pantyhose, and some heels or boots. For right now no top until i start the transfomatuin. Cant wait till i have real boobs

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Guest JoshuaJennifer

Gotta love the shoes ^^

I usually where flats - i love wearing heels, but it can be a bit awkward sometimes when you don't want to put in the extra effort to walk - so i usually wear flats :)

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Funny when I was younger I used to love wearing high heel ,now a nice comfortable pair of sandles with open toes are so comfortable.Plus they feel so feminine. Sensible shoes for now, and I am happy. I used to have a pair of woden Dr.Scholls that I loved and wore them from April thru Oct. I loved the clicking sound they made, and showed off my back side so well. Can't find them any longer.

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Guest Elizabeth K

Hey - looking at this old post... How did you people stand me! I was so outta orbit. :P

Okay - update SHOES :huh: Flats now, my therapist likes my shoes, even. I am tall so I am CRAZY to wear heels unless its an extra special event.

But everyday? sensible heeled penny loafers - and most importantly I can also wear most of them to work - women's shoes, but not noticable - makes me able to combine 'out' at home, 'not out' at work, much better, head-case-wise. :D

And hey - I did an inventory last night after the bath - softer skin in some interesting new places... won't need heels to show off my legs after a while... gonna be that way natural like. I was worried about losing muscle, but it seems to be filling up with female distribution softness... Hey girls, there may be hope afterall... B)

And I like the idea of wood clogs. I had some YEARS ago - really nice to claaack claaack around the house - forgot about that. :rolleyes:

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Guest Donna Jean

Lizzy said....

And I like the idea of wood clogs. I had some YEARS ago - really nice to claaack claaack around the house - forgot about that.

LOL Hey, Lizzy...years back I wore wood clogs to work (worked at an airport) well, they made lots of noise in those big 'ole hangars and everyone thought I was nuts...Go figure :P But, I LOVED them,,,leather tops and big 'ole wood soles...CLACK {{{ECHO}} CLACK {{ECHO}} HAA ha ha ha , snort!

Clack Donna Jean

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Guest brain(katie)

Love those heels but i really perfer to wear heeled boots. I just like the way they look and feel. Always have. The amazing colors and they seem to go with every outfit :D

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If I'm just lounging around, I'll usually go shoeless. Although, I'll wear some nice heals while cooking and cleaning whenever the feeling strikes.

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Guest Kelly Ann

I actually did have a pair of 4" stilletto pumps once and almost put out my eye when I abruptly inserted my foot in my mouth :o , it happens occasionally :blink: when I go into motormouth mode. Had a really nice pair of 3" ankle strap sandals too that had a larger footprint heel and they were easier to walk in for me...when the strap broke so did a little piece of my heart <sigh> Mostly I'm barefootin' (that was/is a fun tune to dance to) and keep my feet and slippers clean...er just in case...the Nude Nailpolish I've taken to using on my little piggies does taste better than bright red...dunno why. Gurning...er...learning to be more ladylike by the day, Kelly Ann

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Guest Christy.dancer

Its the dead of winter here. Around the house? cute sox and cute sweats and a t-shirt and usually a flannel shirt over that. I've got some cute sleep shirts now (before I "came out", I slept in boy-boxers and a t-shirt, but still they were cute).

When I first came out to Mom and Cathy, we did some dress-up practice, but it's still winter here, and NO ONE wears a skirt/dress unless they have tights on underneath. The first time I wore even a skirt in the house was a couple of nights ago when we went out to dinner and I was practicing sitting for a few minutes before we went out (and even then wearing tights underneath).

Maybe when the weather gets warmer I'll have something to report. By the way, in this part of the country, no one wears shoes inside the house.... sort of an asian influence around here.

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