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Sally

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I will admit from the beginning that I did not watch all of any debate - I get frustrated or bored very easily with politicians and campaigning in particular-but I was able to stay awake through a good deal of them.

Enough to know that one candidate was putting forth the same plans and goals in all three debates while the other changed his not only from debate to debate but almost mid sentence (a comic exaggeration).

In spite of this the polls are now the closest ever - what were they listening to?

The really frightening part of this is that according to Stephen Colbert, "History indicates that in case of a tie George Bush becomes President."

Who runs this country for the next for years matters - who runs Congress matters even more - if you make less than $250,000 a year, are female, gay, lesbian, bi or transgender and vote Republican I would just like to remind you that if you do so to somehow punish yourself - remember we will all suffer.

This is the time where the community needs to show its solidarity and stand up for ourselves - Vote - Vote your conscience - Vote your heart - Vote for the people who acknowledge us as human beings.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest MsGsptlsnz

The Republican voters were watching Barak Obama and remembering how much they hate the fact that a man with such a great suntan is in the whitehouse. They prefer a pasty skintone. The Republicans could have run Daffy Duck and they'd still vote for him over Obama. There is a hate there that transcends common sense.

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Guest KimberlyF

What were they watching?

I'd guess they were watching two unqualified people stretch the truth and be uncivil towards each other while talking of unity, just like just about any other debate.

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Guest Jenni_S

The Republican voters were watching Barak Obama and remembering how much they hate the fact that a man with such a great suntan is in the whitehouse. They prefer a pasty skintone. The Republicans could have run Daffy Duck and they'd still vote for him over Obama. There is a hate there that transcends common sense.

Thank you. I have voted Republican in the past, and may again in the future. But good to know I'm racist and practice blind hatred. After all, that's all i see, is the color of one's skin, right? Is that really what you're saying?

It never ceases to amaze me. Here we are, a group of people with something in common, we all are trans, and in the group we have diversity of all sorts as well. We all think differently, have different talents, have our own ways of expression; the list goes on and on. But we all come together on this thing we all have, here. We decry being stereotyped, the intolerance some of us have faced, the injustices that have occurred. We say we want that to stop.

And yet, time and again, there is no problem with shouting out stereotypes at anyone else. Don't agree with someone? They're racist, phobic, stupid, ignorant, uninformed; again, the list goes on and on. The amount of "Do as I say, not as I do" that permeates the trans community is getting to be, quite frankly, laughable.

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Guest KimberlyF

Jenni,

Do not google Mann Coulter to see how some liberals or progressives think Trans is a joke or a reason to mock someone. Instead just assume its all of them.

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Guest LizMarie

Jenni, most Republicans are not racists. But do you know what the Southern Strategy is? It was brought to life by Nixon's primary campaign advisor, Kevin Phillips. It was continued by Lee Atwater for Ronald Reagan and George Bush Sr. Karl Rove has admitted that it's a core part of how GW Bush got elected, how McCain ran his campaign, and how Romney is running his campaign now

Here is Lee Atwater's own words about the "Southern Strategy":

Questioner: But the fact is, isn't it, that Reagan does get to the Wallace voter and to the racist side of the Wallace voter by doing away with legal services, by cutting down on food stamps?

Atwater: You start out in 1954 by saying, "black person, black person, black person." By 1968 you can't say "black person" — that hurts you. Backfires. So you say stuff like forced busing, states' rights and all that stuff. You're getting so abstract now [that] you're talking about cutting taxes, and all these things you're talking about are totally economic things and a byproduct of them is [that] blacks get hurt worse than whites. And subconsciously maybe that is part of it. I'm not saying that. But I'm saying that if it is getting that abstract, and that coded, that we are doing away with the racial problem one way or the other. You follow me — because obviously sitting around saying, "We want to cut this," is much more abstract than even the busing thing, and a hell of a lot more abstract than "black person, black person."

This is a clear admission that certain policies, while sounding fiscally conservative, are also designed to be codified for a specific voting bloc - white southern racists (not all southerners are racists but there are some). Thus, this is a clear admission that Nixon, Reagan, Bush, Bush Jr, McCain, and now Romney run their campaigns using tactics that are specifically designed to appeal to a particular racist voting bloc.

Does this make all Republicans racist? No. What it does mean is that when the Republican Party continues to engage in these same behaviors, decade after decade, and members of the Republican Party do not publicly disavow themselves from publicly admitted racist behavior that they are silently giving assent to that behavior.

I worked for many years inside the Republican Party trying to turn this racism around, reduce it and hopefully eliminate it. Instead it has gotten worse, not better. I began by not voting Republican at the national level back in 2000. I've reached the point where, after 37 years of being a registered Republican, that I will re-register independent after this next election. And no, I will not vote for Mitt Romney, purely because of his constant lies and flip-flops.

P.S. Atwater was actually using the "N" word, not "black person" but the forum word filters are changing it. That's how blatant this strategy is among top Republicans. They know exactly what they are doing.

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The fact is what we were watching was two people trying to get the same job - and both trying to figure out how to do that.

On the last debate one was more dominant and the other decided to jump onto the more successful band wagon to get votes - nothing said in a debate has anything at all to do with the future policies - Presidents do not have unlimited power - there is still Congress and a Supreme Court - it is called Checks and Balances and after seemingly endless campaigning you can clearly see the need for them.

Some people do vote by skin color and gender -admit it most of us tend to want someone most like us to be in charge - you would be knocking down the doors to vote for a Transgender candidate - it is not really racist until you vote only on skin color - ignoring qualifications and past histories becomes racist.

The Race Card is often played when it is not appropriate or needed - let's keep that one back in the deck for now and vote for the man who has already helped us and will most likely continue to do so.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Jenni_S

Does this make all Republicans racist? No. What it does mean is that when the Republican Party continues to engage in these same behaviors, decade after decade, and members of the Republican Party do not publicly disavow themselves from publicly admitted racist behavior that they are silently giving assent to that behavior.

I worked for many years inside the Republican Party trying to turn this racism around, reduce it and hopefully eliminate it. Instead it has gotten worse, not better. I began by not voting Republican at the national level back in 2000. I've reached the point where, after 37 years of being a registered Republican, that I will re-register independent after this next election. And no, I will not vote for Mitt Romney, purely because of his constant lies and flip-flops.

You've missed the point of my post. It's unfair to paint all Republicans as racist, just as it's unfair to go around saying "all those transpeople are freaks." How would the crowd in here react to someone coming here saying that?

We hammer it all the time. Tolerance. We want tolerance. And yet we toss out ad-hominem attacks the moment we perceive ourselves being wronged. Transphobic! Hater! Ignorant! We don't want to allow a differing opinion, it seems, but we require everyone's opinion to agree with ours, even if they have a differing one. That seems awfully intolerant, to me. How can we be taken seriously, if we can't even practice what we preach?

I don't care how anyone is voting. Your vote is your business, and my vote is mine. We all decide on how we think, believe, and make our choice. But I'll say this, whoever shouts the most epithets the loudest isn't going to convince me of anything, except that they have nothing better than epithets to shout in the first place. And I do believe you'll find that plenty of people do disavow plenty of abhorrent behavior by their predecessors, if given the chance, rather than dismissed because of a label.

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Guest KimberlyF

Welcome to the world of politics where everyone is seen as a box. Obama admitted in a debate during the Dem primaries in 2008 back when Hillary Clinton had a lot of the black vote that his people started rumors of Bill and all being racist. It turned the election. It was a major impact on how super tues played out.

http://m.lvsun.com/news/2008/jan/15/debate-transcript/

RUSSERT: In terms of accountability, Senator Obama, Senator Clinton on Sunday told me that the Obama campaign had been pushing this storyline. And, true enough, your press secretary in South Carolina — four pages of alleged comments made by the Clinton people about the issue of race.

In hindsight, do you regret pushing this story?

OBAMA: Well, not only in hindsight, but going forward. I think that, as Hillary said, our supporters, our staff get overzealous. They start saying things that I would not say. And it is my responsibility to make sure that we’re setting a clear tone in our campaign, and I take that responsibility very seriously, which is why I spoke yesterday and sent a message in case people were not clear that what we want to do is make sure that we focus on the issues.

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By the time the smoke cleared, the Clinton camp would never do well with black voters again. But Obama was sorry. Strike those comments from the record!!

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Guest Lacey Lynne -  Free Spirit

Go to Google. Do a search for the book "Robots' Rebellion" in PDF format by British Author David Icke. He puts these out there for us to read. Start reading. Just look at the chapter of contents.

Then, go to YouTube, and watch George Carlin's videos and routines WHEN HE'S AN OLD GUY socking it to everybody and telling the plain truth.

Lastly, go to YouTube, and watch Bill Hicks videos too.

Some of you have seen the move "V for Vendetta" and, most likely, "got it" and its intended message. Most folks don't; however, we transgendered are a bright lot, right? Sho' 'nuff! Is there even any need to mention The Wachowski Brothers' surpassing superb movie "The Matrix" which is right on the money as to what's going on?

Folks, we're being had! Doesn't matter who wins. Nothing important is going to change. Sally's right, by the way. We're screwed.

Crazy Lacey :thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup: Lacey Lynne

Smart like a fox, baby! Whoowee! Power to the people, right on!

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In my lifetime I have seen the complete degradation of politics into a constantly attacking mud sling. Now all candidates use a 100% negative campaign tactic. That is our saddest commentary of our voting system. I wish there was a grass roots way to turn that around, something like if you use negativity instead of your own merits you loose votes. The computer age affords us all the ability to look at candidates track records, That makes electoral college obsolete. Yet it is the trump card that is still used as a device to take the power away from the voter. There should be transparency instead of lobbying and dirty deals behind closed doors. There is so much farce in out political system it is heartbreaking to admit we are not the great country and humanitarian world examples we used to be. The greed exceeds the needs. Jody

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I don't believe that people should vote for a presidential candidate based on one issue. There is a lot more at stake in this, nationally and internationally, than who likes transfolk better. Should it be a factor, sure. Should it be the only factor, I don't think so.

The folks at Fox News seem to think that half the country, the half that vote Democratic, are crazy America-haters who are communists, socialists and slackers. I wouldn't want to be accused of the same kind of vitriol towards Republicans than those folks spew at Democrats.

There are good people on both sides of the isle, and once upon a time, the Democrats and Republicans in Congress actually worked together to get things done. There is a reason that several moderate Congress members and Senators have left office in dismay. Working across the isle appears to be the kiss of death to a political career these days. We the People need to elect members to Congress who do want to work together. We only need to look in the mirror, if we want to find someone to blame.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Lacey Lynne -  Free Spirit

In my lifetime I have seen the complete degradation of politics into a constantly attacking mud sling. Now all candidates use a 100% negative campaign tactic. That is our saddest commentary of our voting system. I wish there was a grass roots way to turn that around, something like if you use negativity instead of your own merits you loose votes. The computer age affords us all the ability to look at candidates track records, That makes electoral college obsolete. Yet it is the trump card that is still used as a device to take the power away from the voter. There should be transparency instead of lobbying and dirty deals behind closed doors. There is so much farce in out political system it is heartbreaking to admit we are not the great country and humanitarian world examples we used to be. The greed exceeds the needs. Jody

Agreed, Jody!

You may want to read something by somebody with gilt-edged credentials who writes about these very issues. Go to the AMAZON website, choose the BOOKS category, and then search for books by author David C. Korten, especially "Agenda for a New Economy" which details exactly what you're talking about. I have that book and have read it through 5 times. His other books are well worth buying too.

I stand my my assertion that voting is fundamentally cosmetic. It makes SOME difference, but not nearly enough. The true ruling class will have their say and their way. Elected officials take orders. Just my opinion.

Peace & Joy :friends: Lacey Lynne

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Guest MsGsptlsnz

I'd guess they were watching two unqualified people stretch the truth and be uncivil towards each other while talking of unity, just like just about any other debate.

Now it's unfair to call them unqualified. The do meet the Constitutional requirements after all. Unless you beleive Donald Trump.

What they were watching was the equivalent of a pair of show dogs who were trained to do a number of tricks. Every word, every movement, every gesture was choreographed by a team of profesional marketing people. If there was any real diffferance it was in who had the better trainers...

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Guest MsGsptlsnz

There is so much farce in out political system it is heartbreaking to admit we are not the great country and humanitarian world examples we used to be.

Christopher Hitchens wrote a biography of Jefferson "Thomas Jefferson, Authorof America" and he often comments on the lowered quality of our presidential stock. On the subject of the election between Adams and Jefferson he says, "Adams, for example, was a founder of the American Academy of Arts and Sciences, and Jefferson served as president of the American Philosophical Society. Compared to politicians of today, standards seem to have slipped."

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Guest MsGsptlsnz

You've missed the point of my post. It's unfair to paint all Republicans as racist, just as it's unfair to go around saying "all those transpeople are freaks."

The subgroup of Republicans we are talking about are the ones who can watch Mitt Romney be a flip flopping fool who hasn't stood firm on a single announced policy and still tell a polster with a strait face that they are going to vote for him. The only reason left is they don't want Obama in the White House. Now why would that be? Could it be his golf game sucks? Maybe it's because he can't dance? Could it be that they don't like the fact that we haven't spriraled into economic doom yet? I have my doubts about those. I suspect it's because he doesn't sunburn. I'll tell you why I think that. I've got some freinds who joined the Republcian party to support Ron Paul for President. They were working the caucus system. After a day of dealing with a bunch of old Republicans at these caucuses they felt the need for a shower. Phrases like "we gotta get that (n word) out of the white house!" were said frequently without anyone complaining. Seems to me that if the bigots were a minority the leadership would call them out on the carpet for giving the rest of them a bad name. But they don't. That is rather telling.

I'd say the Republicans who aren't bigoted are either sitting this one out, voting Libertarian or holding their nose and voting for Mitt because they are geneticly incapable of voting for anyone but a Republican. I can't see why any free thinking person with modern values would be voting for Mitt after all the two faced, backwards and plain stupid things that have come out of his mouth. I say this as someone who wont vote this year because I can't stand any of them. I just think Mitt is far more repulsive than Obama but I won't vote against someone just to keep the other out. I don't accept the logic of voting for the lesser of two evils.

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Oh would some power the gift give us, To see ourselves as others see us. (Robert Burns) Bigotry abounds here as well.

MaryEllen

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Guest KimberlyF

Dont quote me on this, but I read somewhere that Republicans hystorically vote for the Republican candidate. I think this trend pre-dates Obama by a few elections.

After 8 years of Bush, at least 30% of the country would have voted for him again because of the ®.

Obama and Romney are fighting for the 40% in the middle.

And before anyone mocks Republicans that Im sure would vote for a third Bush term, Jesse Jackson Jr.(D) is up by 31 points in the last poll. He has not campaigned a single day. He's been in and out of the Mayo clinic being treated for bipolar disorder and there are pending Federal investigations coming his way.

Party trumps policy even though they work together on more than they don't. It's just on issues like congressional pay raises and naming days after people.

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I hope that some day there will come a time where the person running will be more important than the party affiliation and the actual issues will be the center of the campaign not their looks or background and certainly not bank accounts.

In most elections the taller man won - not a great way to choose but it certainly did explain why Dukakis showed so poorly against George Bush in 1988.

We are apparently that superficial a people - never voting for the best candidate, just the better looking - Kennedy was seen as too young without enough experience to really do the job and he was Catholic (which at the time was not in his favor either) but he looked so much better than the incumbent Vice- President, Richard Nixon.

This was the first Televised Debate, 52 years ago - it changed politics in the US forever (maybe not for better).

Love ya,

Sally

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I just hope that whoever wins we can have healthcare fro everybody in a rational fashion. I would prefer it if we could stop burning as much to power our bloated lifestyles and do some more alternate power. NJ was doing great until our nationally popular Gov. took the programs apart. Do we really need to have a military that is bigger than the next 15 countries? Could we start to think that we have lost the war on drugs just like we lost the war on booze? Maybe we don't need to have so many in prison. Can we worry about how sending jobs away to the rest of the world doesn't help anyone but the folks with all the $. If you make your money in China live there and stay there with their laws and system and environment.

Sorry i didn't mean to kick the hive. Its just hard not to be frustrated. We all have different opinions. I'm not the king of the forest! Or queen for that matter. Thank goodness.

Hugs,

Charlie

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Guest MsGsptlsnz

Bigotry abounds here as well.

I think calling every judgement of a group bigotry diminsihes the value of the word. If someone judges a group of people based on things they have no control over such a skin tone, sexual orientation, gender issues or handicaps then that deserves a strong word like bigotry. If someone judges a group of people based on their voulentary assoications then it's differant. People who are voting for Mitt chose to associate with a group that has a very high percentage of real bigots. Pointing that out isn't bigoted.

If it is bigoted to say that about the GOP then we can't say bad things about cup cakes or Klansmen either because it would be bigoted to say they are all bigots. My grandparents met at a Klan meeting when their parents took them. My grandfather was a genius and he had no problem with anyone the Klan was against. My grandmother was the kindest woman you will ever meet and she too had nothing in common with the ideals of the Klan. Yet if you look at a picture of a Kansas clan meeting in the 20's you will see them in the picture. How many more were at the meeting for networking opportunities or that killer potato salad that Mrs. Henderson brought every time? Clearly not eveyone at the meetings is a bigot. So when we say bad things about the KKK are we bieng bigots? I don't think so, enough of the membership are pig ignorent bigots so it's ok to say it's an organization of bigots.

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Guest KimberlyF

This thread is stuffed with awesome! So today's lesson is it's OK to have potato salad w/the clan cause lots of sweet kind people will be there, but some can not understand how anybody with a brain would vote for Romney unless you're a hardcore Republican or a bigot. One has to wonder since both candidates are evil, which I agree with, do people who vote for Obama fall into the hardcore Dem or bigot camp??? Every day is an education. :)

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No, I got your point. My statement about Republicans may be a generalization, but sometimes generalizations are right. Women have breasts. Mostly true. Some percentage have bilateral mastectomies so its not 100% true but it's generaly true in the vast majority of cases. Men hate asking directions. Again, in most cases it's true. Children are full of energy. Dogs will eat anything. Cats wont play fetch. All true in the vast majority of cases. So generalizations have a value, not all are evil. The question then is at what percentage does a generalization have to be wrong for it to shift into bigotry of some sort? Blondes are stupid. Wrong. Plenty of smart people are blonde and plenty of stupid people aren't blonde. Mexicans are lazy. Wrong again. There are going to be lazy mexicans just like there are lazy people in all groups. There is no proof they are more lazy than any other group.

So we get to the generalization that started this dustup. Republicans are bigots. I think for the majority it is true. Their stated ideology attracts that kind of person. Gutting the social welfare programs sounds good to your typcial white power guy because he thinks it's only african americans and hispanic americans who are using the programs. The Drug War sells real well to that crowd because they know it is unfairly enforced against minorities. The list goes on. Very few planks of the Republican platform would offend a Neo-cup cake or KKK member. I seriously doubt you will find many of those bigoted types voting for Democrats with their support of affirmative action, integration of schools, support of GLBT rights and social welfare. So while not all Republican voters may be bigots, all bigots are likely voting Republican...

Sure there are those who came for the small government rhetoric and stayed for the lower taxes line. But they make a minority. You can tell because the Republicans spend very little effort on those things and instead keep trying to gut any program that might help an african american male to get a good education so they can join the workforce at something other than a worker at McDonnalds. Instead of moving the Log Cabin Republican agenda forward they continue to block any attempt to decriminlaize marijuana which would take away the best weapon in the bigots arsenal to marginalize african american males. One bust for pot and in a third of the states you can't vote for the rest of your life. Pretty simple way to keep them out of voting booths.

If the majority of Republican voters weren't bigots then they wouldn't run these guys who sound like throwbacks to the 1940's. They would run a more muticultural group of people. They don't because the base won't vote for anyone who isn't a pasty faced guy. Heck, putting Palin on the ticket all but guranteed Obama a win. Enough of their base balked at the idea of a woman in the Veep seat that they didn't cast their votes. They learned and now they are running two of the pastiest faced guys they could find. If the Joker was real I swear they would have run him.

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      Welcome to the forums, Violet! We glad you found us! No one here will judge you. Each of us is unique yet we all share some similarities. And many of us are in the relative early stages of self-discovery.   Take time to wander the sections of the forums. You’ll find lots of information and ideas.   Ask questions if you feel comfortable. You will find lots of people willing to share their experiences.   Is it possible for you to possibly work with a gender therapist? Many of us have found that to be extremely helpful in finding our identity and out true selves.   Just jump in. We don’t bite! We’ve all been in some version of where you are.
    • April Marie
      Literally. 
    • Abigail Genevieve
      Shameless plug for my "Taylor" story down in Stories You Write.  I am not Taylor and the experiences she goes through are not what has happened to me, but there is an emotional expression that I think is the best way to say some things that I don't know how to say otherwise.  I am not Bob, either.  But you might find out some things about me by reading it.  And I hope it is a good read and you enjoy it.  I am not done with it.  If you would like to comment on it, I would appreciate it.
    • Abigail Genevieve
      Tuesday night.  They had a quick supper together at a fast food place.  Bob went off to teach karate and Taylor locked herself inside her apartment and worked on her hiring plan.   First the web site problem.  The two guys who ran it were self-taught and knew little.  It currently had three pages, the Home page, the About page and the Contact page,  She asked them to work with Karen in terms of redesigning it and she needed three designs to show Gibbs tomorrow.  The problem was three fold: the two guys and Karen.  Millville was a small town and all three were relatives of members of the Board.  Millville, Millvale. She was doing it.  People here called it either way, sometimes in the space of a few seconds.  She thought it was Millville.  All three had complained about the work, because the two boys regarded it as done and untouchable, even though they actually had not worked on it at all for months.  Like a number of people, they showed up and collected generous pay checks and did nothing.  She had looked at a number of websites and she had been told the company wanted one both internal and external customers could log into.  Her chief difficulty at the moment there was that there was very little content.  She decided to send the three complainers out tomorrow to take numerous pictures of the thirty acres  Or was it forty?  No one seemed to care. She cared, because she needed to get it right.  She debated outsourcing the website to a company, but first she needed something to outsource, and before then she needed to decide whether to keep these people.  She didn't need to mess with them.  So she decided to recommend they hire an experienced website developer with management skills. Would such a person come to Millville?  The schools were good, because the company had poured money into them, and the streets were well paved.  The company had bought all the abandoned houses and maintained them, hoping someday they would be filled again. Millville was crime-free.  People did not lock their doors. Neighborly. Very conservative, but in a good way.  Hard working, ethical, honest. Maybe the Chinese money was corrupting the town?  Not sure.  So she thought they would hire someone, even if it were a remote position.  She would rather have them here, but she would take what she would get.  That would move the website out of her hair. Secondly, she needed an effective presenter.  She could not do all these presentations herself.  She had natural talent but a lot could be passed on. She needed another Mary and another Brenda, or their understudies, effective hardworking people.   Bob. Was he okay with this?  He said she was Management.  Was that a problem?  And she was now earning a ridiculous salary, which she put down to company dysfunction more than anything she had done.  Was that a problem? She was not sure.  He was highly competitive and he had that male ego.  She did not.  A feeling of guilt rose.   Her therapist had brought up her feelings of guilt about not making Dad's expectations, never being the man Dad wanted her to be.  She never could, and this physical evidence backed that up.  What would the doctor say?  She thought about it, and that her therapist said she needed to find a sexual assault survivor's group more than a transgender group right now. Was there one here?  She thought about serving in a women's shelter.  There was one here, oddly enough connected to the church they had visited.  That F on her drivers' license would help.  She was waiting until after she talked to the doctor again to move on that stuff.   Was Bob really buying 160 acres near the old air strip on speculation?  Much of the land around Millville had been for sale for a long time.  That land was being offered at a dollar an acre, the owners having inherited it and now living out of state. Common knowledge.  They would take the first offer, and it had been for sale since the airstrip closed twenty years ago. Airstrip.  That would help.  Not tonight. Focus, girl, she told herself, and read over her notes to do so, which were making less sense the further down she went. It was eleven, and she gave up and went to bed.
    • violet r
      .my name is violet. I'm new here and thus is my first try at forums. I'm 45 and just recently having came to terms of who I really am. Thought a lot of self discovery since I stopped drinking. Drinking was my coping mechanism to hide a lot of thing. There were plenty of signs though the years. As I look back. That i hid inside. Now really sure what made all of this bubble to the surface at this time in my life.  Mabye it was waiting for me to be open minded and ready to accept that I am trans. I have a very unhealthy environment at home that is anti trans. I really don't know what else to say but hi. I hope everyone here will be accepting of me and me work through my journey of finding the real me. I know that since I accepted it I have been much happier than I can remember. Being to real me makes me happy. I hate having to hide this all the the time at home. I work retail management and have no idea if I could even stay in this business if I am to fully come out. Wow that was scary saying all that. It's a first for me
    • Ivy
      It is a lifesaver for a lot of us.
    • Abigail Genevieve
      Thanks.  What I do as a man is what a woman would do if she were a man.  There is just something feminine about the way I act as a man.  It's not that being a woman is actually better, or something to aspire to, but it is just that I am one, while not being one.   If beating my head bloody to get rid off this stupid dysphoria would fix it I would find the nearest wall, but I know that if I did that, when I woke up, it would still be there.   If I did not have this struggle I would be someone else and I would be less of a person than I am.  They say an oak tree growing in an open field is far stronger than one in a forest.  The storms come and go and I stand.   This forum is the first time I have interacted with other people struggling with the same struggle and parallel struggles. It helps.
    • Ashley0616
      I'm sorry! :( Hopefully something better will come up
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