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Ok, so I need some feedback here.

Is it wrong to present in public as a sis male with a girly hair-cut? ;)

Or is this simply going to mess too much with the binary population? :banghead:

I should elaborate as well that I managed to get my remaining 4 strands cut girly.

In the winter, in the Great White North, it's not too bad as i can "hide" under a toque.

There are however only so many places you can go indoors wearing a toque.

Thanx for your feedback.

Huggs, :wub:

Joann

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I think its fine as long as it doesn't bother you. Its really not so uncommon.

Hugs,

Charlie

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Had my hair permed last June and no one has made any derogatory remarks while in male mode. The only time someone thought I might be female was at the grocery store. I was walking into the men's restroom as another male was walking out. He looked at me was about to maybe say I was going into the wrong restroom. I was wearing a woman's top and women's jeans and carrying a purse over my left shoulder. Then he looked at me again and looked as to say oh OK your male. :Crylol:He didn't say anything at all. I suppose I could have used the women's restroom, but didn't that day.

Janet

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Thanx for your replies Girls.

I guess I was more concerned about "hurting our communal cause" more than anything.

@Charlie

I wouldn't be bothered at all.

Iggy Pop comes to mind immediately.

If the binary community has an issue with me it definitely would not be my issue.

@Janet

I love your restroom story.

Just wanted to take out my rod and reel to get some input.

Won't be going without my toque tomorrow though.

Supposed to get windchills of about minus 30degrees C.

That would be, let's see, 30 degrees minus 32 degrees times 5 divided by 8 -> that's not right?????

Well, it's going to be really cold tomorrow.lol

Huggs, :wub:

Joann

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Hi Joann,

I had to google Toque. Minus 30 on either scale says only one thing to me: Stay Indoors!!!

For a long time before transition, I permed my hair into a loose blonde Afro. It would confuse people sometimes. That was my androgyne presentation, even though I didn't know there was such a thing. But I don't believe that I caused anyone lasting harm from it!

After I started transition, I let my hair grow again, and let the natural curl bring it close to the old Afro. Wearing feminine/androgynous clothing and that hairstyle did make people stutter. I hope they recovered. To me, it was a good feeling to know I was going the right way.

To you, wear that girly hairstyle and toque proudly! Enjoy!

Love, Megan

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Joann, Any chance of posting a few pictures??? Hug. Jody

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Thanx for the information Megan.

Today is definitely a one match day.

You use one match in the morning to light the fire in the stove and keep it going all day.

@ Jody

I thought about posting pics. That's as far as I got.

Unfortunately I'm too far away from everybody to perform CPR.

As for others, don't worry about me I have a standing DNR.

I'm also somewhat logically challenged with pictures. :banghead:

I still use mostly Medium Format film.

Yep, I'm a dinosaur just refusing to die.

Huggs, :wub:

Joann

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Joann, I think and hope we are moving more and more into a world where it will not be wrong to present yourself as whoever you are and however you feel. In fact to my mind it is more wrong to try to hide our true natures but of course we aren't there yet. Sometimes we have no choice.

If you can dress to please yourself then I don't think that hurts our community. We really just want people to see us as individuals and as a community as the diverse people we are who express thenselves across a broad spectrum.

So if it will not cause unwanted personal repercussions I'd say just rock it.

Johnny

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As always thank you for your wisdom, Johnny.

I agree with what everyone has said.

Guess I just wanted a "second" opinion from the Community here.

Huggs to all, :wub:

Joann

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@ Jody

I thought about posting pics. That's as far as I got.

Unfortunately I'm too far away from everybody to perform CPR.

As for others, don't worry about me I have a standing DNR.

Huggs, :wub:

Joann

You are a hoot!!! OK, I was trying to be sneaky and con you for a picture, so I could see the lovely face of the girl that always makes me laugh so hard! Hug. JodyAnn

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I though it was you I saw with the rod and reel out, JodyAnn. :D

Catch anything? :doh1:

Thanx for the complement girl.

I do try to brighten peoples days, it may not always work though. :wacko:

Huggs, :wub:

Joann

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Joan. Im 48 and decided to have a go growing my hair out. JJ nails it in his first sentence and I would like to add that the more of us that move to fill the new territory the trailblazers gift really make the difference to increasing acceptability.

Its somewhat ironic that just after I decided to go long, my ex wife bought me electric hair clippers for xmas. I suppose if it looks terrible then I'll keep them just incase :)

As my old style was worthy of the Marine Corps Ive had a few comments about looking like Im just out of bed and the like. Its at the bottom of my ears now and entering the 'what the heck am I gonna do with it' phase while its too short to get to the ponytail my heart wants.

Ive got a lot of grey already too thanks to DNA so Im facing the colour or not hurdle too. Its still scary that change prompts herding behavior from surrounding lifeforms.

Hugs

Rachel.

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Thanx for the feedback Rachel. :friends:

Wish I had grey hair to completely cover the cue ball.lol

Lost that coverage decades ago. :doh1:

Huggs,

Joann

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I though it was you I saw with the rod and reel out, JodyAnn. :D

Catch anything? :doh1:

Thanx for the complement girl.

I do try to brighten peoples days, it may not always work though. :wacko:

Huggs, :wub:

Joann

I did catch a big laugh! Busted!!! :doh1: I tried a pork chop too and that didn't catch me anything either. :Crylol: Silliness and hugs. :wub: Jody

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