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Hello.

I have surfed the Webb looking for a place where I can find people similar to me, with the hope that they will help me understand myself a little better.

Ever since I can remember I enjoyed wearing my sister’s clothes. This is no news to anyone, although when you don’t know better you think you are unique. For years I have tried to tell someone about what I would really like, and how I would like people to see me, I must add there is so much prejudice around this issue and usually people just laughs about cross dressers or transgender people. To me this is sad because I have always been afraid to be a burden or a motif for shame to my family and friends.

How can you live happy if you have to live with a secret? In my case, I keep deeply secretive about this and usually transform only at home, however in recent times I have felt the need for more. I have gone out in my car at night wearing a dress and out in the road, but somehow I am afraid someone will recognize me.

My attempt by approaching this group, is to find some support for the first time in my life, I speak to someone about my reality. I will close this introduction telling you that no matter how hard it is, I would not want not to stop being this way. I believe that if that would ever change I would stop being myself

Thanks for your time; I will wait for your comments.

P.S. I am not an English native speaker, so please forgive my grammar mistakes

Sincerely

Robin

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Hi Robin,

Welcome to the playground.

We want you to feel right at home, come on in and sit in that comfy chair by the fire, I'll get you some hot coco and some cookies, don't worry virtual foods are non fattening, :D

Just a way of saying hi, you are among frienda, feel free to ask questions and look around, don't be afraid to answer a post, we value your opinion as well.

Your grammer is just fine, I would never have known that English wasn't your first language if you hadn't said anything.

You have found a place to fit in so why not stay a while, let me know if you need more coco.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

I have surfed the Webb looking for a place where I can find people similar to me, with the hope that they will help me understand myself a little better.

WELCOME TO LAURA'S :D

...when you don’t know better you think you are unique. If you are as you describe, you aren't necessarily a commonly found person and are unique in a sense, but there are many more of us in the world than people know. but For years I have tried to tell someone about what I would really like, and how I would like people to see me, I must add there is so much prejudice around this issue and usually people just laughs about cross dressers or transgender people. We won't laugh at you here at Laura's. To me this is sad because I have always been afraid to be a burden or a motif for shame to my family and friends. Although it is difficult, it's best if you lose that shame.

How can you live happy if you have to live with a secret? No secrets are necessary here, my dear. :P

My attempt by approaching this group, is to find some support for the first time in my life, I speak to someone about my reality. You may have found a home. WELCOME. I will close this introduction telling you that no matter how hard it is, I would not want not to stop being this way. I believe that if that would ever change I would stop being myself. That is the point of existance for people like us - you fit right in. ;)

I am not an English native speaker, so please forgive my grammar mistakes. Ha - I didn't see much in the way of mistakes - you speak and write better than I do! Please ask if there is an 'americanism" or slang phrase you do not understand - welcome! :rolleyes:

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Spot on with one phrase........."How can you live happy if you have to live with a secret?

You can't Rob06 you can't so that is why you are here and that is why we welcome you. No secrets with us and you have found a home to call your own.

So glad you havve made it here...................Mia.

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Guest Donna Jean

Rob,

May I through a welcome your way, too.?

I see that you have met some of the most beautiful people here..oh, you don't have to see them...they're beautiful inside....where it counts!

You'll feel very comfortable here in no time and be sure to enjoy the goodies that Sally offered you..it's very soothing, you know?

Hey Sally, could you freshen my coco, too?...Thanks...

Kick off your shoes and relax!!

XXOO

Donna Jean

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Guest Amanda L Richards

Hi Robin

I would like to assure you that you will be pleasantly surprised by your coming to this forum. I know that I was. You said the key word in your opening, Support, that is exactly what you will find here. There couldn't be a more compassionate group of people than there is here.

You will also find since you said another word that bears a heavy weight, "keeping it secret" and living with a secret of this magnitude only wears you down. By coming here you can feel assured that you no longer have to bear that weight on you anymore. You will also find that when you unload more, you will start to feel more like yourself again. You will have support, encouragement, and a shoulder to cry on for that matter if you need. There is no judgement here, this is as safe as you will ever find.

Because of this safety you will start to feel more confident in yourself, and by rights, you should be confident in yourself because you deserve to believe that you are worthy of being in this world as you are or want to be.

This is how I feel now after being here for awhile.

It would also seem that no matter what issue that you have, there is a place for you to go here, and there is someone that understands, and can readily answer your questions or at least direct you in the right direction.

Robin this is what I would call a Dream Home, so enjoy it and get comfy, cause you are in for a treat.

Luv

Amanda LR :D

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