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Guest Luuceee

Cant stop buying clothes

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Guest Luuceee

Why is buying dresses and heels so addictive. I just cant help myself recently ive now got more shoes and clothes than i have mans clothing and i have twice the amount of tights than i do socks. I wouldnt mind but i have run out of space in my hiding place. My parents are away this weekend so the urge to get more in is going to be hard to resist. Maybe one more dress wouldnt hurt. Does anybody else have urges like these?

Lucy

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Guest Sarah Faith

Yup, I know how that is! I don't really have the cash at the moment to replace my male wardrobe but I sometimes cant help my self from running down and browsing. My closet is filling up with shoes.. soooo many shoes!

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Guest Guest_

I had never bought a dress until recently. I bought two more within just a couple of days. Its what we girls do!. Amber L.

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Guest Claire_H

Hi Lucy

It's funny that you should ask this as over the weekend I asked my mum what did they put on womens clothes that makes buying them so addictive. Din't get an answer.

Love

Claire

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Guest JeepGirl90

I'm a shopaholic lol. however I have to watch my finances right now, however I still manage to sneak something off the clearance rack once in a while lol

-Christina

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Guest SusanB

Have two walk in closets and they're both getting full LOL

Shoes are all over the apartment

Need more hangers

Thankfull i dont have to hide it from anyone

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Guest BrenGirl

I've actually restrained myself from going too overboard pretty well so far. But my closet IS starting to fill up... Shopping is really fun!

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Guest Edina

I've actually restrained myself from going too overboard pretty well so far. But my closet IS starting to fill up... Shopping is really fun!

Clothes/Shoe shopping = "better than sex"

and of course "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun" :D

It's just how girls brains are wired, just have to get the rest of the body to go along with it.

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Guest Luuceee

I really dont have the willpower to stop myself. Im going online dress hunting :)

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Guest BrenGirl

After saying I have some restraint, I've had two consecutive bad days at work and and am REALLY tempted for some retail therapy... lol

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Guest Sarah Faith

Well I certainly don't seem to have any self control.. I just bought a pair of pumps, and some more boots, plus a winter coat for next year (though its still suppose to snow this weekend). I really cant stop my self... lol

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Guest Amber Lynn

I definitely know where you're coming from! I'm really broke this month, so to save up money, I decided to skip my normal monthly grocery shopping trip and have been scrounging on whatever food I personally have left over, and any food my roommates have left over. I was catching up...and then I decided to just take a harmless little peek in a local shoe store having a sale. A couple pairs of heels and a few tops/skirts (to go with them) later, I realized I blew the money that would allow me to shop for food when next month hits.

Soooo, in essence, I'd rather buy clothes than eat.

I may have a problem... :P

Gina

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Guest Megan_Lynn

I definitely know where you're coming from! I'm really broke this month, so to save up money, I decided to skip my normal monthly grocery shopping trip and have been scrounging on whatever food I personally have left over, and any food my roommates have left over. I was catching up...and then I decided to just take a harmless little peek in a local shoe store having a sale. A couple pairs of heels and a few tops/skirts (to go with them) later, I realized I blew the money that would allow me to shop for food when next month hits.

Soooo, in essence, I'd rather buy clothes than eat.

I may have a problem... :P

Gina

I try to make sure every bill is paid for the month before I do any shopping. I make sure I keep some moneys for just in case and what left is MAD money. Mad money meaning to loose my mind spending it on cloths...lol..Usually I avoid most all retail places except clearance racks. Am a huge fan of thrift stores and have found some of the best cloths one could imagine. Am to the point were my amount of clothing has gone way past omg to straight up insane collection.. What can I say cloths rock.....

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Guest Jaques

Ive never known a woman yet who doesnt love buying clothes. My missus wardrobe's bulging, she has more shoes than Imelda Markos - get used to it, its a woman thing, lol!

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Guest Nicole Thrace

I am guilty as charged! I can not stop buying clothes, shoes, and now makeup!!! ...lol. I own more clothes now then when I was a "guy". I think it is because as a guy I felt I could not express my true slef and feelings like I do now. As a guy my clothes were just something to cover my body and now as a woman I see them as an expression of Me :rolleyes: .

Hugs,

Nicole

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I went to Ulta for the first time this weekend to find Dermablend. Oh my Gawd! That is my new candy store!!! Clothes gottem', shoes gottem', purses gottem', make-up always running out. Lotza money? No gottem'. I hope I don't find a new job just to support Ulta... Oh, the life of the pretty girl.

Like Megan, I'm a thrift store junkie. As I weed out some of my clothes in our move, I think I will regift a lot of them. If they go back to the thrift store, I guess they were just a rental. Giggle.

Hug. JodyAnn

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Guest Kattja

Oh my, I to am a thrift store junky, always have been.....but now there is a whole new part of them I can shop in, uh oh. My thing isnt shoes but skirts and bras and hair ties with bows. This week I had to brake down and buy a 2nd dresser as I was out of room. Originally the two smaller half drawers at the top was going to house bras and camys in one and panties in the other......quickly found out that bras need to be moved down to a larger drawer. camys stayed in there own drawer, uh oh filled up the bra drawer....what to do with the two that are still in the bag sitting on my bed that I just bought *hangs head in shame* as for my skirts.....if I don't stop I will have to make this new dresser that I just bought on Wed, exclusively bras and skirts......Do I think I have a shopping problem just because the ladys at all the thrift stores in town know me by name? Or because my new dresser is almost full already? Nope hehe The only shopping problem I have is I didn't have time to go today hehe

Kattja Katt >^..^< Mew

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Guest Angelica Alice

Oh girl! I would have done the same... except online!

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Guest rikkicd64

This need for retail therapy is an addiction sometimes for me, yesterday I bought three new pairs of earrings at walmart, to go along with the 30 or so pairs I already own. But it sure is fun and it does validate the woman that I am.

Rikki.....

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Guest Nicole9

arr the joys of retail therapy. I remember the day i had spent more on my girl wardrobe than my boy one (granted i hated shopping for boy stuff and usually ended up buying the cheapest stuff) and then i had to buy a suite for job interviews. This turned out to be a great excuse to spend more yay. However moving interstate in the near future and thinking i may have to cull some of my stuff aww. But yes shopping is addictive watch out :)

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Guest crissy_oakley

I love to shop, as well. My shopping (and buying) has changed quite a bit. I did a lot of thrift store shopping, early in my transition. I did allow me to save money when building my wardrobe. The great thing about thrift store shopping was that when i made horrific fashion mistakes, they are cheap horrific fashion mistakes.

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Guest sophia.gentry58

Guitly as charge, I too am addictive to buying female clothes. When I was very much undercover and had to hide everything, I became very much addicted to buying all kinds of colorful and very feminine and sexy panties. I had bought many other clothing but not as many since it was more difficult to hide. Since my marriage is essentially over I will begin to buy all matter of female clothing; I will have to watch my finances. :)

Sophia

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Guest LoveBeingMe

Isn't it a wonderful addiction? :thumbsup:

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Guest kimberly c

I love to shop also, just cant stay away from Kohl`s and my new favorite Dressbarn. My new love are dresses and skirts.

Love Kim

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Guest Sherryleigh

Shopping for clothes is something I can't stop doing. Back in my younger days when I'd go into denial I'd purge and have to start all over again.

Good Grief the money that went into the garbage still breaks my heart. I will not do that again and I have quite an extensive wardrobe now. I only throw away damaged items, stockings panties etc.

I don't even get rid of clothing I don't particularly like because who knows I may change my mind. :) Like I've never done that before! :)

I'm kinda poor now so have to cut down on shopping and I hate it, I need more shoes, stocking, skirts , blouses , make-up , sad isn't it! :)

Hugs

Sherry Leigh

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