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Guest Kelly-087

Any hair stylists former or current willing to help me out? :D

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Guest Kelly-087

I'll preface and say that~ I'd prefer some discussion in private PM but I don't realy care how the advice is given.

A few months ago, I had an awful hair trimming. Completely awful. I realize I made the mistake of going to a salon where I had a good trim once.. but I couldn't understand her name, got someone else that didn't speak english very well the last time which was about five months ago.

So naturally, my hair has developed in ways that aren't working in that it's becoming kind of bushy.

I really need help undertstanding just what to tell the stylist I want so I don't end up losing length again.

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Hi Kelly,

I'm no hair expert. But, I was lucky: I've been going to Hairmasters for nearly 10 years, always seeing the same stylist. She has helped me through from the very beginning of transition, four years ago.

So, my first recommendation: if you find a stylist with whom you can communicate, who doesn't give you anxiety attacks for weeks prior, then stick with them. Even if they're a few dollars more.

Best of luck!

Love, Megan

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VickySGV

To my knowledge, we have had ONE hair stylist on this site, and she has not posted in a couple of months, but we can hope. I was growing my hair out a few years ago, and got into a "family hair cutting salon" just as a whole gang of asian business men got in there for their "business power hair cuts", and as a result my request to trim split ends from my hair, and trim my front hair into an eyebrow length fringe got followed to the letter, but in a "business power haricut" for a man. I was a man, and I seem to have described that hair cut.

It was the last hair cut of any type that I had for over a year, and then I just went in to a womens salon with makeup on and asked for a womens split end trim of about 1/2 inch and some light layering, as well as about 10 highlights, and went home and put the wigs away. .

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Guest Kelly-087

yeah I remember someone mentioning being a hair stylist!

I might have to just do my research before I get a new cut.

Anybody who is decent with these things welcome to advise too but it's starting to gain that typical long haired male look which I hate.

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Until you are on hormones, you will get that "long haired man" look, because your hair itself is fueled by T. My hair changed drastically after taking E, and that outed me before my boobs ever had a chance.

A way I would use is to find a website for one of the beauty companies that allows you to do virtual make-overs, including hair. I think L'Oreal or Redken have them. and they let you photo shop a hair do on your own picture. There are a couple links to that stuff here, but I think they were a while ago. Check down in the Hair and Hair Systems forum too. When you get the look you want, print the page and take it to a stylist and say go for it. Don't be afraid to ask a shop owner if there is someone who can speak your brand of English, at least to get your wants across. Most of my spanish was learned from my barbers. It was survival of the hairyest.

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Guest Kelly-087

I've been on hormones since december.

Although maybe Im not quite E'd enough yet.

Or maybe my ability to style is poor lol.

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I've been on hormones since december.

Although maybe Im not quite E'd enough yet.

You have hit it there. Any hair follicles that began sprouting after your E started will have female hair texture like your family member females have, so there is about 5% of your new growing hair right now that is female, maybe a little more. Mine took two years before it was a uniform texture and body. Unfortunately for me that meant baby fine, and too doggon straight!! Not even my stylist can make it have body for more than a few hours. At least she got me a nice color to cover the gray!!

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I've been on hormones since december.

Although maybe Im not quite E'd enough yet.

You have hit it there. Any hair follicles that began sprouting after your E started will have female hair texture like your family member females have, so there is about 5% of your new growing hair right now that is female, maybe a little more. Mine took two years before it was a uniform texture and body. Unfortunately for me that meant baby fine, and too doggon straight!! Not even my stylist can make it have body for more than a few hours. At least she got me a nice color to cover the gray!!

Ouch that's not fair after I spent a year growing my hair.

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