Wife Found Me Out This Weekend . . .

[Guest Krystyna_Marie]

My wife was, uncharacteristically, putting my freshly washed (mens) underwear away for me on Friday morning, as she was expecting a friend from out of town later that day, and I was already at work, when she found a pair of my black lace hipsters that I had slipped into my drawer the night before. After her friend left yesterday afternoon, she confronted me, and asked who they belonged to - she suspected me of having an affair. When I knew I'd been caught cold, I told her the truth - "they're mine, they belong to me." At first she thought I was lying, that I had concocted a story to cover myself if I got caught, but then we had a pretty long conversation about what I've been up to, my dressing, the urge to do so, the urge to go out in public dressed, makeup, it explained my earring for her, and I showed her my stash of clothes and shoes to dispel any doubts that may have lingered.

She was a criminal justice major in college, and she took a lot of classes about abnormal psychology, and the like, so she understands that people can be "hard-wired" this way from birth or a very young age, and I told her about my history with cross-dressing, which goes back to feelings I had early, early on in childhood. She is accepting, she prefers I do it in the privacy of our home, rather than be out on the street (she's worried about someone wanting to hurt me), all in all I'm so glad I got pinched, because she now seems to understand me a little better. I told her how much I hated the deception, and apologized for not telling her long ago - she's relieved this is all it is, I was able to do a load of intimates last night that needed washing without fear of being busted. The best part is, she sat down, and went through her jewelry stash last night, and picked out a few things for me that she doesn't, and wouldn't wear because they're not her style, including some earrings, necklaces, and a pretty filigree pin!

OMG, what a relief this was for me - she understood why I kept it a secret, she was so loving, understanding and kind about this, and I told her she couldn't know what this meant to me, how it had lifted a burden from me.

Thought I'd share, I knew there was some possibility I'd get caught at some point, despite my best efforts to hide it, but I did not imagine my wife reacting positively the way she did, and being accepting of me dressing at home just like that.

Kisses, KM's been outed

[Petra Jane]

WOW! Look after her, she's an angel. You are so lucky to have an accepting wife.

[Guest Donna Jean]

Krystyna.

Hon...a loving, accepting partner is a hard to find commodity..Hang on tightly.

Isn't wonderful to finally be "Out"? No more hiding and worrying "Did I leave something out?" and I've only got two hours, etc....I'm happy for you! That is just so awesome!

Truthfully, Krystyna, my wife is my rock...I'm MTF and starting hormones shortly..therapist is writing letter in a week or so...and sometimes when reading posts here, with some people having no one to share, help and support them I get a tinge of guilt...there's so many hurting and sad people out there...

So...treat her right, hang on tightly, give all your love.....you have uncovered a diamond!

Good for you girl...and give her a hug for good 'ole Donna Jean, OK?

XXOO

Donna Jean

[Guest jaime_lynn]

Krystyna,

How absolutely wonderful for you that she not only can now share in your world, but is so supportive!

I too am blessed with a wife that understands, supports and even assists. We have been shopping together (as girlfriends - so much fun!!!) and she gives me tips and suggestions.

My heart aches for those that have to travel this path alone, I cannot imagine not having her support through this.

We are truly blessed people, share with her, confide in her; but as someone said to me before, follow her lead in walking this path it will make it much easier.

Hugs,

Jaime Lynn

[Guest mia 1]

Krystyna Talk about falling into the potential nightmare and coming out like the roses that you are. You have been truly blessed. Thank God no more motels in Raleigh and maybe your wife and you can go shopping for a decent wig...Ha ha,,just kidding on that note.

Very happy for you, it is so nice to share the deep hidden secrets and then when they hit the light of truth it seems so easy to live with..Wartm Hugs and congrats to coming out to the only person that matters most in these situations..........................Yeah for you,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Mia.

[Sally]

I am so happy that it worked out so well for you.

Most often and especialy when just caaught it does not.

Hold on to her and never neglect that lady for a second.

She is a pearl of great value, never forget that.

Love ya both,

Sally

[Guest Evan_J]

Like everyone has said; kiss her and hold on tight cuz they don't grow on trees.

[Guest Martin]

I'm so glad things turned out well for you and your wife.

[Guest Krystyna_Marie]

Thanks so much everyone, for all the support - I don't have to tell you how isolating the past two years have been, believing I had to hide who I am from my best friend, even as I was struggling with figuring it all out, by myself (hard to do!!!). Now I'm actually looking forward to seeing where this all leads, cuz my mate will be by my side.

I'll keep u posted -

Kisses! KM

[Guest Irielle]

Krystyna - all I can do is agree with everyone here, you are SO lucky. What a fantastic wife you have. Don't you DARE ever let her go! I'm lucky, too, I have a bf who is totally supportive. We are truly blessed.

[Guest Ashlee]

Krystyna,

Good for you! You are sooooooooooooooooo lucky! I am just tooooo jealous!

Have fun!

Ashlee

[gennee]

WOW! You're story is similar to mine. I'm sure you both are relieved. You're really blessed, Krystyna.

Gennee