Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Archived

This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.

Guest DianeATL

Shoe Shopping

Recommended Posts

Guest DianeATL

So proud of myself, I went shoe shopping and had no problem outing myself without shame or guilt. And it went GREAT!

I went clothing shopping with a friend this week and borrowed a pair of casual shoes from her for the trip. I got a lot of great every day outfits but did not find any shoes. She suggested that Payless was a spot she liked so I decided to give it a try.

I think like most girls, I started with 5 inch heels and am working my way down to flats ;-). So I didn't have appropriate shoes to wear with my new outfits to go buy appropriate shoes. I said what the heck and just went to Payless in boy mode. I went when the store first opened hoping it wouldn't be too crowded and I was right.

The three great things about Payless are 1) lots of big shoe sizes, up to 13. 2) All of one size are together so you can camp out in one spot and not have to walk all over the store 3) prices are very reasonable, especially on sale.

I couldn't find any hose footies so I estimated my size based on previous purchases and bought 4 pair. Of course when I got home, they were all too big so I turned around and went back to exchange them. This time I asked the sales girl for a footie and took my time trying on lots of pairs. I did not try to hide or be super discrete with one exception. When a family with several small kids came to my aisle, I just turned 180 degrees and I was facing men's shoes until they passed. I did not want to put the parents into an awkward situation of explaining me.

So I purchased 5 pair and took back 4. When the sales girl set up on their frequent purchase program I proudly gave her my email which includes Diane and TG in it. She was very nice and hoped that these would work for me. She treated me just like any other customer and did not have any weird looks or anything even though I was in my mansuit buying womens' shoes.

I know we all fear doing this kind of stuff at first, the more I do, the more I wonder why I ever held back! Get out there girls!

This afternoon and evening I will be out and about in some of my new outfits and shoes, I can't wait.

Share this post


Link to post
Guest Kaylee234

Haha so it begins! Hide yo' checkbook, hide yo' wallet... your shoe addiction cometh! lol :D

~ Kay

Share this post


Link to post
Guest DianeATL

Kaylee - you are so right! I have always had a shoe fetish. Yesterday while jogging I passed a girl on the street and I just had to stop and tell her how hot her shoes were. ;-)

One of the interesting revelations in this journey is shopping. If you asked anyone who knows me they would say I hate to shop for clothes. My wife won't even do it anymore because I hate everything and won't try on anything, I buzz by the racks and say nothing there.

What I have discovered is that is how I was with man clothes. My inner girl was throwing up at the thought of having to buy those boring blah rags. I love shopping for girl clothes whether in person or on line. There is so much variety in cut and color I find myself totally absorbed in it. I am constantly commenting "oh that's cute" as I check out the dresses, tops and skirts and of course SHOES.

I just needed to be shopping for ME to make it fun. :thumbsup:

Share this post


Link to post
Guest DianeATL

new shoes



Couldn't resist one pair of heels when buying flats this morning.

Share this post


Link to post
VickySGV

Ah yes, the true fever!!

Share this post


Link to post
Guest

The fever has set.

Every one run for the hills!

Your story ring so true.

Hated buying him clothes.

Now! Can't stop, with the similar thoughts.

"I wonder if I could get away with wearing that?"

Happy you had a wonderful and successful shopping spree, Diane. :welldone::friends:

Huggs, :wub:

Joann

Share this post


Link to post
Guest Carla_Davis

Hi Diane

Payless is my favorite shoe store. As you mentioned they carry large sizes. I have a Size 12 Woman.

The prices are very reasonable and often have Buy 1 get 1 50% off.

I have a large collection of women's shoes from their.

All the salespeople know I am transgender and never had a problem. They want commission. :)

Kaylee, I have to agree. I must have at least 36 different styles from Payless. Not purchased all at once, but when on sale. :)

In NYC, 2 clothing stores I frequent that have very reasonable prices is Target and Burlington Coat Factory.

In Target, I know most of the sales people by their first name.

When I first started to Come-Out and did not pass well, I was treated so well that I sent a letter to the CEO of Target commending how well the store staff treated me.

I have never had any problem shopping at these stores either.

I use the female dressing rooms also rather than take home and then have to make a 2nd trip to return items that don't fit properly.

Vicky & Joann-You are right, the fever set in. :)

Also hated shopping as a male.

Hugs, :wub:

Carla

Share this post


Link to post
Guest Rosabella

It's so nice to read that others also go to Payless to purchase a lot of their shoes. I just recently bought three pair of shoes at Payless - Karmen Comfort Plus Predictions pumps, in Patent Navy, Patent Red (I've waited and waited for these!), and Patent Nude crocodile ones. I made use of two 25% off coupons. I went (in male mode) to exchange one a couple of days and some nervousness set it when I walked in and realized there was a man at the counter. This was my first experience of many at Payless when there was a male at the counter. It turns out that he was a manager of this and several other ones and was filling in. He was great and did the exchange as if I were exchanging males shoes. I always have a good experience in the many Payless stores I've visited. You know... not every one has the shoe and size you want, so you have to travel to the Payless to get the one that the online site says has it in stock.

Thank you, Diane, for starting this topic and sharing your story.

Share this post


Link to post
Guest Kaylee234

Count my vote for Payless too. I stop by every one I get within range of. I've probably bought 40-50% of my shoes there. No, I have no idea how many shoes I own lol :D

~ Kay

Share this post


Link to post
VickySGV

I have no idea how many shoes I own lol :D

~ Kay

As long as the number is divisible by 2 with no remainder, you're fine!! :harhar:

Payless is one of my candy stores too!!.

Share this post


Link to post
Guest Guest_

Hi Diane: Payless shoes is one of my favorite stores also. Like you I love shopping for my feminine side. I even shop with my S.O. even though she does not know Amber I am always checking the sales rack when she is in trying things on. Shopping is one of the best times a girl can have. Hugs Amber L.

Share this post


Link to post
Charlize

I'm always on the hunt for shoes and stop at every payless i can. As far as drab male clothes i was happy with any t and jeans. A sports jacket for formal wear and i actually owned ties and the such. One of the best days of my life was when i discovered that i didn't need any of that any more! I did keep a couple of clean t's to work in. What a day for the local clothes drive. And for me a chance to fill a closet with things that had been squirreled away for years. Unfortunately so many of them were not so great so i had to do some shopping. Poor me.

Hugs,

Charlie

Share this post


Link to post

  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    No registered users viewing this page.

  • Who's Online   1 Member, 0 Anonymous, 153 Guests (See full list)

    • Janeshannon
  • Topics With Zero Replies

  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      68,402
    • Total Posts
      618,914
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      5,374
    • Most Online
      8,356

    Avery Ann
    Newest Member
    Avery Ann
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Raider901234
      Raider901234
      (44 years old)
  • Posts

    • Janeshannon
      Susan, you look smashing! Congratulations. 
    • Carolyn Marie
      https://www.kmbc.com/article/kansas-city-police-investigate-possible-murder-at-vacant-home/28182279   Not much info in this article.  I'll update it tomorrow.     Carolyn Marie
    • Carolyn Marie
      https://www.northcountrypublicradio.org/news/story/38975/20190625/vermont-insurers-can-t-deny-care-for-transgender-youth   Carolyn Marie
    • Ellora
      Happy Birthday! 💜
    • Ellora
      HAppy belated birthday! 💜
    • BerndB
      Thank you, I just think, that it does get to me, to have been going forward and backward the last two years. And then having a consultant, which is not very sensitive and not very forthcoming with information. Anyway, it is good to speak about it and getting it off my chest.
    • VickySGV
      Good going girl!!   For some of them it is following the herd of ants and not intentional meanness to you for others, their concepts of "reality" need to grow up, but for now you have done what was really left to do.
    • Ellora
      Go with your bad self! Woohoo! 🤗 Thats great that you had the strength and courage to rid the negative people from your life. No time for that nonsense. Very Happy for you! 💜
    • VickySGV
      Thank you for the additional info there, it does help to know what is going on.  My Endocrinologist explained one thing to me that may help a tiny bit.  It is not the levels in your blood that determine effectiveness.  Our bodies have receptor cells for the hormones that they need to pass through in order to work.  In my case, I did have constantly low doses and still they did a satisfactory, but not phenomenal job of bringing me to where I most likely  would have been if they had started at age 11 instead of age 60.  It did take me nearly 4 years to max out in most ways and longer in a couple of others.
    • BerndB
      Hi, looks like I've got a bit more explaining to do. In Scotland you see a specific clinic for transgender problems, but your local GP has to then write out the prescription orders, once the clinic got in contact with them. I had problems with the local GP and also there was a problem with the general supply of the prescription on and of for about  a year. The supply is now steady and I found eventually a surgery, which is prepared to write out the prescription, but still see the consultant from the transgender clinic. He did prescribe the various dosages. This is not something I have decided to do on my own. Sorry, if I came across wrongly there.
    • Raven1981
      Just want to share that today I had to do the hardest thing and that I had to get rid of 2 old friends off my social media and block there phone numbers.   These were friends that I grew up with since I was little and when I came out, they said that they were alright with me and that they support me.  But then I found out that they were posting hateful Trans things on social media, one of my friends told me that I will never be a real woman.  Both of my old friends I am finding out were actually hating and discrimating against the LGBTQ community.  So I deleted them from all my social media, blocked their numbers and told myself, that I don't need to be around this type of hate.  I am happy and confident to finally be me and I don't need these type of people in my life who are hurtful.   So I am feeing myself from negative people.
    • Jani
      Hi BerndB.  I think your doctor may have been a bit harsh there with that admonishment.   It seems obvious to me your levels are not consistent with you're dosages but I am not a doctor.  I assume being in the UK you are under care of the NHS.  Is there a better way to ensure a steady supply?  Is it a local issue or country wide problem?   I don't know anything about T methods of delivery so you should discuss this with your doctor or another medical professional.   Jani 
    • VickySGV
      Welcome to the Forums, I hope we can give you some direction here.   How are you getting your levels checked if the doctor is not ordering the tests and evaluating them as they are done?  If the doctor is evaluating the results and sees no problem, then there is not much to be done.  Trying the "various dosages" (which we cannot discuss on these forums) without the doctor's approving the change or monitoring it over a long period of time is very hazardous and will create some strange effects that are not going to be fun.  The fact that you have an unreliable source of the drug may indicate that another more certainly supplied medication is what is needed here so you do not get peaks and valleys.  You are looking at 3 to six years for full physical maturity of the HRT effects comes on and in that period things go fast and slow just as is.  By all means get a second doctor to review and consult with your doctor but do not become that consulting doctor by wishing. 
    • Charlize
      I have severe coronary artery disease and could never consider anything other than topical E.  Shots or pills would be risky at best.  It took a long time before Dr.  McGinn in consultation with my cardiologist worked out a plan for me.  They would never allow the other methods of using E as they are much more likely to have serious side effects including clotting which would be fatal for me.  Saying that injections are safest is totally incorrect!   I am not an MD and neither are other member here so please remember to speak to your doctor who knows your medical issues.  There are many false thoughts out there which is why we don't allow members to speak of dosages here.  What may work for one may cause terrible damage or death to another.  This site was started by a woman who suffered terrible damage but fortunately survived. If the pro and cons of various delivery devises continues to be discussed here this thread may be removed.   Hugs,   Charlize
    • Charlize
      Welcome Tammy Anne.  I think you will find you are not alone.  Anyone who tells you they don't live with at least occasional doubts is probably less than honest.   The trick for me was to find self acceptance.     Hugs,   Charlize
  • Upcoming Events

×
×
  • Create New...