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Guest veltiro

How do I get a girly face

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Guest veltiro

so yeah how do i get one. when i start hrt when i'm 18 and i parents no longer have control over me will my face change due to hrt? i'm just wondering. or do i have to wear makeup 24/7 to convince people i'm a girl so i don't get bashed and people won't look twice. do i need exoensive, painful and irritating surgery to fix it? just curious. when i look at the other girls at school i get so jealous. what should i do?

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Guest Carla_Davis

HRT will not change your facial features other than possibly softening your facial features.

Unless you go for FFS (Facial Feminization Surgery) you will have to use make-up 24/7.

Welcome to the world of being a transgender woman. :)

Hugs,

Carla

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Guest Sarah Faith

HRT will not change your facial features other than possibly softening your facial features.

Unless you go for FFS (Facial Feminization Surgery) you will have to use make-up 24/7.

Welcome to the world of being a transgender woman. :)

Hugs,

Carla

What? That isn't universally true at all. I have not had FFS and I have as far as I know never had a problem passing while not wearing make up.

Veltiro, while Carla is right in the fact that HRT won't radically change your established facial structure.. You are also quite young and the masculinization of the face at your age is usually not all that strong. I started HRT at 28 and all I've really had to do to pass was laser hair removal for my facial hair, and nobody thought Id pass in a million years when I came out years ago. The fact is all you can really do is start HRT, and see how things turn out and play the rest by ear, but like I said you're young and the chances are pretty high that you'll do fine with out much if any FFS at all. :)

Hugs,

Sarah

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VickySGV

Not in full disagreement, but tempering Carla's ideas a bit. With electrolysis to get rid of any stubborn beard, you can wear light makeup for some part of the day just out of wanting to do something girly. There may be times or activities where you can scrap it all together. Good point is that most good makeup has a Skin Protection Factor that will keep your face from sun damage that will harm your complexion and make it look more rugged and male-ish. My normal day make-up takes less than 15 minutes to put on, and part of that is an enjoyable self facial with moisturizing cream. I clean my make-up off carefully at bed time to save on laundry issues, and getting the make-up into odd places on my body or my nighty.

As noted, hormones will change your skin texture a bit, and re-arrange your sub cutaneous fat from forehead to cheeks. (In most guys, there is a large deposit of fat above the eyebrows -- thus calling them fatheads is a scientific fact, and not a comment on their character -- (use with discretion!!). The idea of FFS is going to be in your hands, but a surprising number of my Trans* friends have been told to save their money by the surgeons, it happened to me as well. As long as you eat a healthy diet and get normal skin issues cared for promptly, you should be able to minimize any negatives with little true effort.

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Guest Kontessa

so yeah how do i get one. when i start hrt when i'm 18 and i parents no longer have control over me will my face change due to hrt? i'm just wondering. or do i have to wear makeup 24/7 to convince people i'm a girl so i don't get bashed and people won't look twice. do i need exoensive, painful and irritating surgery to fix it? just curious. when i look at the other girls at school i get so jealous. what should i do?

Hi Veltiro,

Before going thru the pain of expensive surgery, there are some things you can do that should help immensely:

First - get rid of your beard, either thru electrolysis (that is my choice) or lasar, no beard means less makeup needed.

Second - go to a good hair dresser and have your hair styled and brows shaped and trimed (it will do wonders).

Thirdly - everyday moisturize your face at least once, if not twice a day, to help it remain some smooth and subtle.

And finally - hold off on doing any type of cosmetic surgery for at least two years and let the HRT do its stuff.

If you follow thru on the above, I think that you will be rather pleased with results and not want the expensive, painful surgery - even thou it still is an option - and that money for better things. Like SHOPPING!!!

Best of Luck! Many hugs and best wishes to you, and your loved ones!

Kontessa

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VickySGV

Forgot to mention one thing above --- SMILE MORE, that is a truly girl thing to do, and smile lines are better.

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Guest KathleenMarie27

I have watched a ton of transition videos on youtube and in all of them there is a very noticable non ffs facial change...just sayin

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Guest Jaques

you look very young and quite feminine already, to me, smile and think "girly" - it will help you on your journey..............till you get to the place you want to be

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Guest veltiro

ha thanks guys. i'm probably gonna get uglier from now on because i'm only 14.

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Guest KathleenMarie27

14 wow if only I could rewind. Look at 14, even 17, seriously no one will ever no your not a girl.

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Guest Jaques

and kathleenmarie, you have a lovely smile

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Guest melanie maritz

Wow you're so young. Can't she get hormone blockers without her parents consent?

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Guest Sarah Faith

Wow you're so young. Can't she get hormone blockers without her parents consent?

Sadly not with out gaining legal emancipation. And I believe you have to be 16 to legally emancipate from your parents.

Sarah

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Guest KathleenMarie27

Ty Jaques

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Jani

Veltiro, You're not ugly and you won't get ugly! Stop those thoughts. You're beautiful.

As suggested, smile a lot. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Think of yourself and Smile. You're young with a bright future ahead of you.

Jani

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Guest Megan_Lynn

HRT will not change your facial features other than possibly softening your facial features.

Unless you go for FFS (Facial Feminization Surgery) you will have to use make-up 24/7.

Welcome to the world of being a transgender woman. :)

Hugs,

Carla

What? That isn't universally true at all. I have not had FFS and I have as far as I know never had a problem passing while not wearing make up.

Veltiro, while Carla is right in the fact that HRT won't radically change your established facial structure.. You are also quite young and the masculinization of the face at your age is usually not all that strong. I started HRT at 28 and all I've really had to do to pass was laser hair removal for my facial hair, and nobody thought Id pass in a million years when I came out years ago. The fact is all you can really do is start HRT, and see how things turn out and play the rest by ear, but like I said you're young and the chances are pretty high that you'll do fine with out much if any FFS at all. :)

Hugs,

Sarah

I have to totally agree with Sarah. I was 38 when I first started HRT and am 45 now. Not a spec of makeup ever go's on my face ever. HRT did wonders for me as I now look way younger then I did 15 years ago. Am always excepted as female. Never once questioned on my gender, no weird looks form a single person . My facial features were softened alot by HRT.

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Guest Raya

oh, to be young again!

I'm counting on some facial softening and rounding from HRT even at 52. Whatever I get I will work with, FFS is not feasible. I did very simple foundation and powder to hide beard shadow, got pretty good comments from my dinner group. Should get quicker and easier as I go along.

I think you will be fine, best advice I have is to stay healthy (no smoking, (of anything) keep a healthy diet)

-start with your skin care now, keep up the sun block, hopefully built into a good moisturizer, and keep that face clean at night

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Guest Raya

oh, forgot to add;

those other girls at school? study how they do life, befriend as many as you can, hang out as much as possible. the socialization is important, and well, they are just cool to hang out with

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Guest Razilee

My Al-Anon group is all women, the rest cis, I think. They accept me as one of them. I do wear some make-up and am often the only one in a skirt, which perhaps makes me look less like a cis. If you look at women they come in all sizes, shapes and ages. Not all are "girly". I don't like what I see as my big nose, but then Streisand was a girl, though she played a girl playing a boy in "Yentl". Smiling and confidence goes a long way which ever your gender flows.

Love :wub:

Raz

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