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Advice I gave myself about style


Guest Lizzie McTrucker

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

This worked for me, so I'm hoping it will work for others.

"Try to look hot.

If you can't do hot, try to look pretty.

If you can't do pretty, try to look cute.

Never settle for less than cute. Never."

Also when it comes to shopping for clothes, if you are looking at a potential article of clothing and you cannot wait to get home and wear it, then buy it. If you are looking at it and thinking "well, maybe I'll wear it some day" do not get it! You'll never wear it. I threw out half a closet full of "well, maybe I'll wear it some day." I never ended up wearing it because I knew it was my last resort clothes and it didn't make me look cute, so I didn't want to wear something that didn't at least make me look cute.

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I can relate to that , especially your comment about 'maybe I'll wear it some day' - it never happens.

I would extend things to include buying an article of clothing that looks good and like it would fit in to make a complete outfit. Unless you have a clear picture in mind of that outfit don't buy. I have several items which look really nice but I have great difficulty in matching into outfits.

Tracy x

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Guest Jamie_cd

I would extend things to include buying an article of clothing that looks good and like it would fit in to make a complete outfit. Unless you have a clear picture in mind of that outfit don't buy. I have several items which look really nice but I have great difficulty in matching into outfits.

Tracy x

Agreed! Probably half the shirts I own are really nice but a total pain in the butt to match with anything else. Although I've bought a lot of clothes to try and fit into this image of what I should look like as opposed to what I want to look like. So my advice, only buy clothes that fit your personal style!
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Guest ~Brenda~

Hi Lizzie,

Good advice, and so true. I have some dresses that I have only worn once and thought eh... last resort.

I also have some clothes that, I admit, were too ambitious. But I chalk all of that up to learning what works for you.

Thanks hon

Love

Brenda

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Guest wildwolf94

It's funny that you mention only buying what I know you can use for an outfit, the other day my little sister was rummaging through my closet (which btw makes me soooooo happy) and every once in a while she'd pull some thing out and say "when/where the heck do you wear this!?!" Holding up thugs that alone looked like they belong on the streets or jn an adult club, and my awnser to her would be "grab *lists off several random pieces of clothing* and lay them out together on the bed" curious shed do as I said and found that the items she questioned me on often made very cute/hot outfits when joined with their appropriate partners and no longer looked as if they were the cloths of a street walker, soon she just stopped questioning me and would try piecing things together her self to see what went with what. It was quite entertaining hehe

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Yes Wildwolf - I can relate to that :) - one of the garments that I wear at the moment describes itself as a cami dress. I have worn during the summer underneath a loosly buttoned shirt (good and airy - excellant for keeping cool but some sun protection) and recently under a polo necked top as a longline vest. On view it looks like a long top (comes halfway down thigh) or something very basic (skirt?). Women notice and realise but men either tend to be confused or are seldom concerned - I like it because it fits with what I wear and is feminine. Without any kind of top it would stop people in their tracks due to low cut and shoestring straps although I would love to wear like that (I look male).

Tracy x

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I go more for "sensible" than "cute", because the only thing that makes me look cute, is a burlap sack that covers my whole body, face included.

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I doubt that Mara, We all doubt ourselves. Confidence comes with time and a bit of effort. You certainly have a cute face.

Hugs,

Charlie

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Guest Carla_Davis

Hi Lizzie,

Very Helpful Advice and True.

It is one reason why I do not use credit cards anymore.

It WAS too easy to overbuy.

By paying with cash, I need to be more selective and no go over budget.

I wish you Continued Success and Happiness on your Journey.

Hugs,

Carla

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