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Guest Jennifer T

If Only

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Guest Jennifer T

She dances on the edge of consciousness;

A flame's last attempt at life.

An incoherent whisper that pulls at distant memory...

If only.

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Guest miss kindheart

Short but sweet :)

<<< hug >>>

It is never too late to be who you might have been.~George Eliot

:wub: vanna

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Thought provoking, Jennifer. :welldone:

Huggs, :wub:


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If only is possible

if only we let it be



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Guest Jennifer T

Thanks Joann and Miss K.

Charlie, "If Only" represents more than it appears.


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Guest Brenda Hailey

Depends on how big the flame is in its last attempt at life,it could very well flicker the whole time we are here regardless.

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