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Guest Rebecca A

Dating, Searching and finding our 'one'

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Guest Rebecca A

Dating, Searching and finding our 'one'

Dating,

Love and Confusion,

Were do we find ourselves,

How do we know who to trust,

A few who just want a 'ride',

A few who are insincere,

A few who are confused themselves,

And a few who outright reject you,

We hold to ourselves,

And want others to see us as we are,

To be loved,

As we are,

Not some potential of what we could be,

But genuinely as we are,

The feeling of being accepted,

Opening up and having someone say 'yes,'

That they want to be with you,

They value you,

Cherish you,

And treat you like the princess you are,

So,

We go out in the world,

Searching,

Sometimes feeling like someone will come to us,

Other times craving that companionship,

We all have someone we match with,

Likely more than one for some people,

As they say,

You are the 'one,'

So I hope well all find our 'one,'

To be with,

To Cherish,

And to treat as a prince or princess.

-Becca

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Guest LilyRose

Dating is tough sometimes. I think that everyone has "the one" as you said, but we always have a hard time finding them. I also believe that it is also never easy even if we find them. I believe my fiance is the one for me, but she doesn't want to treat me like a princess, but like a prince. I tell her all of the time that I never wanted to be a prince. That's everything I am not. But alas, even through our struggles with our loved ones and future loved ones, acceptance is key. Hope that everything works out for you!

Hugs a plenty!
Lily Rose

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Guest DianeATL

Very nice Becca - you hit the nail on the head.

I wrote something on the subject just yesterday on another site. It is cruel to be a passionate loving woman with no one to share it with and little hope of finding someone.

Hugs,

Diane

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Guest Carla_Davis

Very Nice Becca,

So many true facts.

It is always nice to enjoy life with someone you love and loves you in return.

I wish you Continued Success and Happiness on your Journey and hope you find "The One"

Hugs,

Carla

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Guest miss kindheart

Their is some one for everyone :Crylol:

Patience is a virtue :agreed:

I am sure they are comming as fast as they can :superman:

the question is will you be ready when they get there :dunno:

:wub: vanna

PS Nice poem :friends:

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Charlize

Thank you for your poem dear. May your search find the one. I was blessed in my search, i hope it comes for you.

Hugs,

Charlie

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