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How does one feel about images of lust, sex, and things that go bump in the night?

I have been looking and as much as I have enjoyed reading all that this site covers, I find a few topics based on "hot coco" and a sense of its ok, were all here for you, I have not found posts on what others feel they like to see or what they enjoy when the topic is of a sexual nature?

Am I the only one who does enjoy from time to time full makeup, but finds peace in being just dressed? One may think that being dressed is the only way he/she can express oneself with a fem side.

Is this true?

I will say that I respect all who come and go in my life and here on this forum, I do not fit the whole mondo makeup, wig, and etc…that follows most “queens”.

As my avatar pic shows, I’m one who does enjoy being noticed, but for the inner beauty that I have, and that others have yet never show. I also am one to say that I enjoy looking up photos of others like myself in lace, and positions that are considered “erotic”.

My point……….

Its amazing how hard it is to express sexuality and not come across as a pervert or one who is only out for the pornographic side of who and what we are. Even if we (or if only a few) and others enjoy photos that are sexual, I find no spot to share, converse, and allow one to express his/her side that is so beautiful, and sensual without being classified as “dirty”, or a porn site to entrap others.

Is it not ok to show, talk, and experience the finer parts of what CDs/TVs/TGs have to offer that does not come across as a porn site?

If so where?

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Sorry, avatar image removed, breech of site T&C's.

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Well, lets just let others know that the photo that was taken down, or deleted, was not to "risky" or in poor taste. If anyone wishes to see what my avatar "was", please feel free to email me.

This touches on a something that I posted above...so with all the voices, emotions, feelings, love, lust, fear, that goes along with 75% of people who read and post here, how does one show sexuality in a proud, profound, and meaningful way here if he or she wishes to express? Do not get me wrong, I do not think a public forum is one place to post nudity, or anything in a sexual manner that is not suited for forums with guidelines. Is it not ok to view, and put one’s self out there to feel the enjoyment of being seen?

This is not a rant on my avatar or a rant on let me place photos up! Just more on the lines of what does one do if he or she wishes to view, or be viewed by others in a manner that is not "porn" or viewed by others as such? Is there not a clean atmosphere where adults can show, ask, hear what he/she has to say on ones body?

Sorry, I’m not one to post pictures of cute ferries, and animation of such. I’m more into raw, and the mental, physical, emotional, and sensual side when breaking down and getting a "it's ok" from others who just want to be seen. More important, not judged in a light that most can Google while looking up "crossdresser". That is so cold, and a false read on who we are. We are all so much more, with loved ones who are so important in our lives.

VelvetV

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Well, I'd offer you some hot coco and offer to chat, but it seems that you are not interested in that so I'll drink my coco and enjoy my angel avatar myself.

This site is maintained in the fashion that it is for a reason.

Laura wants to supply a safe place for young transgendered and their parents (there is the key) to come and get information.

All boudoir photography is banned, so no one has to decide between tasteful, artistic or porn.

There are any number of sites that cater to more of the sensuality, you can google them and post or read all that you want, it might be fun for you.

I am in no way inviting you to leave, I want you to stay, but the reason for our rules is basically to help the younger folks and their parents.

Let's say that you are an uniformed parent in the Bible Belt and your teen aged son tells you that he is a transsexual and wants to transition to being the woman that he knows he is. Log onto a website for information and see nothing but lingerie shots, the first impression is so strong that they will not read any farther and now the shame and guilty factors are stepped up and the child doesn't get to a therapist, just lectured by the parents and told to never say such things again. By having this PG site, we are trying to give them a chance that their parents will stay here long enough to get some idea of the nature of the transgendered - they don't want to think of their child as having a sex life at all much less as a transgendered - the concept is bewildering to them.

You did notice that only the avatar was removed, we value your opinions, we want you here, but other sites supply those needs and as far as I have been able to tell Laura's is unique in it's family friendly nature.

Very Sincerely,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

WOW

I am usually considered one of those mild-mannered seriously senior 'great aunts,' that you read here - and I do like coco and cookies, but also a Manhatten and some stuffed cheese jalopeno' peppers once in a while. Wild Turkey oh my - deep fried breaded peppers - powwwwww

Jalopeno seems on the list for this topic! First, yes, Laura's is well monitored, and for very serious reasons. There are those out there who consider us an abomination in God's eyes and will do anything to destroy us (so what does that make them in God's eyes?) There are hackers who seem to think we are an easy target, one noone will defend as we are the scum of the earth anyway (what does that make them?) There are people out there who want to come in, pretend, then steal away some of our members, younger the better, for their sexual needs - even if it is virtual (these may be the worst). And most importantly, there are so many terribly DISTRESSED and DESPARATE people - innocent, blameless, all ages and all problems, but unfortunately, so many are very young.

So we moderate - and watch - and make rules - and hope for the best.

But Laura herself will tell you this site is rated PG-13. You can find plenty of hot subjects here - but they are in the proper forum - look in spirituality - look in politics. And what have you found in the cross dresser forums? Some of what you say needs to be discussed - not all.

I know about cross dressing although I am actually transsexual. I had 50 plus years of doing it , and frankly, the erotic aspect was also a very pleasant side advantage for a while. I was actually a cross dresser to express my femaleness, but I know about cross dressing to allow out the 'feminine side' and how exciting that is - I saw that in me too. When I went to my therapist the first time I talked about that. Well - it seemed there was more to me than cross dressing - but I do understand it.

So the erotic parts? Well - there seems to be discussion about the pleasurable side of cross dressing here at Laura's - just as there is discussion about the pleasurable sides of FINALLY being allowed to dress gender appropriate in transition, as we TS tend to do. The erotic parts seem to migrate to the PM (private message) discussions after we make friends here. That way, no rules are bent or broken, noone is eavesdropping. You may want to look into that. After 5 or more posts you are considered harmless enough to talk to your peers - ha - unless you seriously PO someone. I CERTAINLY would stay wih my age group and with people of my own interests.

I know about the 'hotter' sites - I have been to some more adult transgender sites too. But Laura's is so special! I LOVE it here.

Please work with that? We need those with a little jalopeno' in them. We aren't trying to chase you away - grin!

Lizzy

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Please please I did not mean to offend.

I do so enjoy the site and understand 100% where it and all the wonderful people come from. I did not mean to offend, and have to say I love the comments above! How wonderful it is to have people who do not blast away without any reason behind them. I love the maturity and the openness that so many here seem to have…Thank you.

Part I think comes down to myself trying to find balance between sensual and raw passion. Agree with all that over time, like with everything, each finds what they are looking for if he/she put their best foot forward and just give some time to meet, understand, and chat with others. =)

….would love to have that cup of coco too. =)

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Well, I understand comlpetely and that is why no one blasted you, we all want to do what is best for everyone.

I'll bring you some fresh coco, so be carefull, it is really hot.

I have some gingersnaps and some sugar cookies take your pick or some of each.

You have now posted five items - so you have won the grand prize selected especially for you - this living room set - no wait that was always the prize on the Newly Wed Game - your prize is that now the PM system is availale and you can have chats that go well beyond what the forums can allow, just find a like minded individual and send them a PM.

If they like it they'll answer and the next thing you know, you've got a friend.

Love ya,

SAlly

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