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Transgendered Day of Remembrance 2013


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Guest LilyRose

This day is so very important. I needed to write something so here it is.

Transgendered Day Of Remembrance 2013

Today, I am grateful to be alive; especially after

all of the horror that I have suffered throughout

the course of my entire life. This will be my first
day of remembrance I will take part in as myself.

For far too long, Lily has been crippled inside her
cage but she finally stands tall and she no longer
hides in the face of adversity. Especially this day,

when we remember the family who we have lost.

I weep for each of our brothers and sisters who

are no longer with us. I will never be able to

hug them and get to know them for the beauty

which radiated from deeply within their skins.

These journeys were cut short by malice, hate,

and worst of all… ignorance. But they died for a

noble cause that all of us want to feel every day,

becoming true to themselves as they really are.

Each day is a better day for us, as acceptance is
becoming stronger for our one truth. And yet, our

internal and external fight continues as we look

back and remember those who never lost the fight.

To every brother and sister whom I will never meet,

I want you to know that we unconditionally love you

even when society ended your lives too soon. You
are all beautiful and you will always be in our hearts.

Lily Rose

*bows head in silence in remembrance*

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Thank you Lily. For years i felt that the day of remberance was for the girls who were never able to acknowledge their true identities to the world, who only met at support groups in secret and then passed away unknown to the friends in support groups they had come to know. The day has grown in importance to me to include our trans community but i'll always feel for those girls who still meet in secret and never get to feel the life i've come to know.

Hugs,

Charlie

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Guest Succora

Sister,

I am Glad to have you, The Horsewoman of Famine into the family. We Will make the fallen proud, we will fight in their name. We will win the war.

The Horsewoman of Death,

Steph (Succora)

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Guest LauraJen

Thank you for sharing this, Lily. I have been observing TDOR since 2008 when I first knew about it (probably because that was the year I discovered Laura's) and the list never seems to get any shorter. I have, however, been grateful for discovering a community that pays its respects like this as there really is a sense of solidarity in seeing everybody pay their respects and stand up for what we believe in in one voice. It shocks me how many of these totally unnecessary deaths are concentrated in one or two particular areas of the world. There don't seem to be any deaths here, but I am not at all complacent about that.

I only hope that one year, in my lifetime, there won't be a TDOR list. May the souls of those who were needlessly murdered rest in peace.

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