Finally growing out hair!

[Guest KrissyB]

After seven years of fighting with my parents for anything feminine they are finally letting me let my hair grow out. I have REALLY thick, curly hair, and it has always been cut long on top and short on the sides (so I would have a fro'hawk when I woke up). Now when I stretch it on on the sides it is below my ears and just sitting its about halfway down. What should I do to grow it out without it looking too bad? I still need to kinda fit in as a guy and try to keep from getting made fun of. I do go to a stylist and not a barber though so that should help. My stylist has also mentioned how pretty a girl I would be, which you should see the look on my mom's face when she says that. Thanks for any advice in advance.

~Krissy

[Guest Sarah Faith]

Nice! When I grew my hair out there was this really awkward stage where it wasn't really short enough to be fine just leaving it be right out of bed.. Your best bet might just be to just comb it straight back and hold it with some hair gel, until you can get it tied into a pony tail. That would be a look that isn't too telling of your actual intentions.

[Guest KrissyB]

I've tried that but if I get something strong enough to actually hold my hair back it's too stiff to touch and otherwise it turns into an afro. I usually take a shower in the morning and get it wet. I wash it every few days and use a hair mask about once a month.

[Guest Sarah Faith]

Well if you are careful doing it you can always try using a flat iron to straighten your hair. I have naturally curly hair as well and if I don't blow dry my hair out of the shower it wants to go into curls and usually just blow drying is enough to keep it straight, but if your hair is really stubbornly curly and you want it to not be so curly flat ironing is likely your best bet.. You just gotta be careful too much heat can damage your hair and make it really frizzy.

[Charlize]

Doe your stylist understand you. Hopefully you can explain your situation to her and work out a style that can go either way depending on how you brush it or otherwise change the shape. If you can develop a shape like that you can go either way.

But above all enjoy your hair. Mine was long as a hippie but i had to hide that i had more than hippie style issues.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest Tamar]

A razor comb to thin it out was my best friend for a while.Or,like Sarah said,a straightener (flat iron) can be useful.Just keep it on the lowest setting that will do the job.

[Guest]

Hi Krissy,

My stylist was one of the first people I came out to. She had been cutting my guy hair for several years, and before she started, I told her "I am giving in to my transgender nature". She stopped for a moment, her next words were "Well, then, here's what we need to do." She's been a terrific supporter and help for the last 4 years since then - I'd be wearing a wig if not for her!

Anyway, if you can come out to your stylist - you might get the answer from someone who knows your hair almost as good as you do, with a lot of experience making hair look good.

Best of luck to you!

Love, Megan

[Guest KrissyB]

Coming out to my stylist isn't an option now and I doubt it will become one anytime soon. I don't have a car yet and Im not sure I would want her to know until I was full time. Since we all know stylists love to talk while they work and she knows people that can't know about me.

[Guest]

Coming out to my stylist isn't an option now and I doubt it will become one anytime soon. I don't have a car yet and Im not sure I would want her to know until I was full time. Since we all know stylists love to talk while they work and she knows people that can't know about me.

I understand that. I didn't ask my stylist for silence. But her coworker was shocked two years later when my mate told her. Apparently the talk didn't get around that salon!

Love, Megan

[Guest KrissyB]

Ok can anyone recommend some sort of style (pictures would be very appreciated) That would look good either way and that I can show my stylist without causing an issue? http://creativefan.com/hairstyles-for-men-with-thick-hair/ I found a pretty good picture of what my hair looks like now, it's the "Thick Curly Medium Hairstyle" near the bottom of the page. My bangs are a little bit longer and my sides aren't quite as long yet but it's pretty close. The texture and curls appear to be the same though. And my hairs a little bit lighter in color, not sure if anyone thinks that'd matter, but just in case.

[Guest KrissyB]

Also my stylist owns her own little shop, and she's the only one that's works there. My mom and I used to go to her when she worked at a biggish salon in town and she had a pretty good customer base do she told all of her customers she was opening her own salon, and apparently business is good. I just don't want mom to find out, but as soon as I get a way to get around I'll tell her, but probably start paying for the cuts myself. And when I do that I'll just get a feminine cut to save myself some time, no one likes my hair as long as it is now so I just tell them it isn't any of their d*** business, so they've laid off it now.

[Guest Cody76]

Well Krissy,

My hair is about the same as yours it sounds like I use John Freida calming creme and then I blow dry my hair. It doesn't change the way it looks too much but makes it easier to comb and just makes it look better somehow. My hair is still pretty short about 3 or 4 inches maybe. So this is something for you to do for now while your hair grows out. It's only like $6 a bottle I've had mine for about a month and it seems to still have a lot left.

I hope this helps you,

Hugs Cody