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Hey Ladies,

Well i'm back again after a long time of being away. but not a lot has changed. I found a HRT specialist in Madison and am currently working with him to get on hrt. Though I've come up with a small list of questions that have been coming up over the past couple months. Would appreciate everyone's input.

1) what is the best way to wash shirts, and pants so they don't shrink or shrink very little?

2) What's the best way to wash bras, socks and panties?

3) what are good stores to shop at for clothes other than Walmart?

4) Where are good places to shop for shoes?

5) Are there good places to shop for specific items like Swimwear and Loungewear?

Anyone that feels like answering some of these your input is always greatly appreciated.

Thanks,

Stacy

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best way to wash bras and panties is in a lingerie bag, and thrift stores are really great places to find clothes, sometimes you even find brand new pieces of clothing for like 90% off their original price!! I love shopping at thrift stores! Sometimes you can find shoes that fit at thrift stores as well, but not often (keep in mind that women's shoe sizes are not standardized, so there could be a number of sizes that fit you, depending on the brand, you just have to try them on) But shoe stores and online are the easiest places to get shoes. Swimwear i would go to a clothing store, or boutique (sometimes boutiques carry them) I dont know much about not shrinking shirts, but washing them in cold water shouldnt shrink them, and either air dry them, or put them in the dryer at a very low heat setting. Hope i helped!

-Rose M

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Hi Stacy, welcome back Here goes--

1) what is the best way to wash shirts, and pants so they don't shrink or shrink very little?

Use cool or cold water for the wash, and cold rinse. Dry on normal settings or wash & wear setting.

2) What's the best way to wash bras, socks and panties?

Wash Less expensive bras panties and sox as above in the washer, use regular dryer setings-- do your expensive or really fragile stuff by hand, dry on a towel

3) what are good stores to shop at for clothes other than Walmart?

Lane Bryant and Dress Barn are my favorites followed by Dillard's if new is your thing. Thrift stores are great too.

4) Where are good places to shop for shoes?

Payless shoes has larger sizes on their web site, and also in ethnic communities where women do have larger feet such as African American and Pacific Islander women..

5) Are there good places to shop for specific items like Swimwear and Loungewear?

Same answer as number 3, especially Lane Bryant where I bought a new swim suit last week.

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Socks i never worry about they just go with the regular laundry. i remove my stockings and bra's from the wash before they reach the dryer. The elastic doesn't do well with high temperature.

If you know your size and it isn't + but fits in the 'normal' range you can shop almost anywhere. I love thrift stores but increasingly as i'm lazy get my clothes on line on e-bay or from Lands End or other decent stores. They are all on line now. Spending a day at the shops can be wonderful just watch the budget. It is too easy to spend a lot on an outfit you may only wear once. I am finding that i don't need party dresses but very everyday decent wear.

Large good, comfortable shoes can be hard. I love Merrill's but do have some heels for special occasions.

The biggest clue is to enjoy yourself.

Hugs,

Charlize

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Guest G_Unit

Hey Ladies,

I have a question..

I'm wondering if I should get a wig or not..

Why do i ask.. because my hair was thinning out pretty much, but now it's starting to grow itself back in so it seems. So should i get a wig to make up for the difference in hair length or do I wait to see how much hair wants to grow back in?

Because it seems to be filling itself back in over the course of a long period of time..

Stacy

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Hi Stacy,

Hair comes and goes on cycles, so it may be in a growth spurt right now. I've found that eating a good diet, rich in protein, is really good for retaining hair. Of course, HRT will help you keep what you have.

I went full time before my hair was really ready. It was in the barely passable range, and I had a stylist who did wonders with what little I had. But, up to that point, I was wearing wigs. I purchased them on line, the couple that I bought were synthetics, in the $50 range. Of course there are more expensive ones, human hair wigs can be very expensive. But, for a temporary solution, probably stay with the inexpensive ones.

Best of luck!

Love, Megan

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Guest G_Unit

I know this may seem impossible... But I'm actually regrowing hair... How do I know this. This may be the impossible part. I've actually seen 2 follicles coming out of my head where I kinda figured they would be. On another note I'm losing more weight. How much I'm not so sure. but all I've done is change the way I eat and how much I eat. I've lost a pretty substantial amount of weight just by doing that. Over time of course..Not all at once. Just thought a nice update would be nice..

Stacy

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