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Will I Ever Pass (I've been told I won't)


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Guest Back2Square1

I get told by lots of people that don't and will never look like a girl/pass?

Do you think I pass or will ever pass? Are these people just being horrible? I only ask because passing is important to me, and I'm sure I'm not the only one

Me - No Make-Up and Bed Hair

And two with Make-Up and Straightened Hair

So, what do you think?

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Guest ashleynikole

I think they're lying. Can you pass straight up right now, probably not, but rarely can any male pass as a female without doing something about it.

Now with that being said, you've got a lot of greatness to work with and there is no telling where the future will take you. If you end using HRT, then your face will change a bit as it rounds out, fat changes locations and skin thins out, smoothes out and glows. Then if you choose you always have FFS as an option if you "really" need it. I personally am waiting for a while to see where my hormones take me. Of course makeup can go a long way as well. The human brain is actually quite interesting as it will take key clues and fill in the rest of the gaps and I've seen it happen where people have ma'am-ed me simply because of a few clues and their brain filling in the rest.

All physical aside, passing is more than looks (although it makes up a good chunk). Confidence is very important as well as your speaking voice and your mannerisms. Take time out to sit and watch ciswomen interact with each other. The mall is a good place for this. Look at how they walk, how they talk, hand movements, etc. Some of this may come naturally for you.

Don't be afraid to practice. After all, we've spent years forcing ourselves to be something we weren't and now we're having to learn everything all over again. You are very young and have a lot of life ahead of you (Lord willing) so take your time, focus on what you can do now, now what you don't have now. One day you'll look up 3 yrs from now and realize how far you've come.

God bless

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I think that with a few other clues you would pass. Earrings, plucked brow line and some makeup and go for it. Have you tried in the real world? Give it a try and keep at it. Eventually those who don't 'know' won't have a clue. Those that have known you as male will take longer. don't forget women come in all shapes and sizes so it is really up to you.

Give it a try. It's fun to live as yourself at least at times if not full time.

Hugs,

Charlize

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Guest NatashaJade

I heard similar words from some self-appointed Gandalfs along the way. They were right. I don't pass.

I am.

Don't concern yourself with passing. Learn to be who you are. It takes work and you have to know some will think they see who you pretended to be for all those years. It's hard to shake that persona off. But you can do it.

Tasha

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Guest sarajayne

hi hun

I have learned a long time ago that one of the main things to successfully pass is to be able to project your feminisation from within both in your deportment and facial movements. There are many quite ugly gg women out there but from their aura they are clearly women. From the pics you show the first one reflects you best as a female. I would suggest that you wear your hair a bit more over your cheeks to blend with your chin like on your right side in your first picture. Most of all I would suggest you don't worry so much about whether you pass now go out there gain self confidence in who you are and you will find your feminine ambiance will improve naturally. You could try a fringed wig that frames your face might suit you best. I would agree with the comments others have made above all experiment with your make up and accessories to achieve what suits you best.

Hope this helps.

Huggs

Sarah

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Guest Melissa~

Cameras can lie so I try not to make a big deal of "do I pass?" threads. That said you look cute on there to me. The real test is what people treat you like in every day interaction. Are you still "mam" or "she" if, for example, wearing male clothes. I used to be annoyed at wearing a male work uniform, until I realized it didn't matter. I was still "mam" at lunch restaurants in full uniform or not. This is an enlightening detail for me understanding FtMs etc.

As stated before: I part time CDed for many years, including in public before moving forward with transition.

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Guest Kalie Aowynn

Hey girl,

I did not read the other comments before me so please forgive me if I say something already said.Very simply put what does a girl look like?Tell me.

Because I am a driver and I see so many different women out there. Some tall, short, skinny, and fat. Long hair, short hair, and some with no hair.

Some are lithe and look like Goddess's and some not so much I have even seen woman whom Look Like Men, I kid you not . so tell me what does a woman look like?

A woman is a creature of many different characteristics and as long as you keep that in my you have got it made. Not to mention we have a lady who worked for us a

couple of months who looked a lot like you.So hun don't sweat it. If you feel like a girl and let the feeling show most folks will see a girl. Just be you. By the way you look great.

Kalier

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