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The Lord Looks at the Heart: When My Son Became My Daughter


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Guest Jennifer T

Wow, that made me cry. What I would give to love who I am and have another love that too.

I had to get into a conversation last night with relatives (family evening sitting around a campfire) and rebut the same arguments that the author addresses in the article. I had to defend being TG without them knowing that I am. I did so calmly and rationally. And Jennifer came to the forefront very quickly. I think my answers to their questions actually may have positively impacted their ideas, but I also felt like it left them wondering, "why does T know so much about this issue?"

I am so tired.

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"My God taught us to love one another. Jesus sought out those that others rejected. Some people choose to embrace Biblical verses that seem to say being transgender is wrong. I choose to focus on verses like First Samuel 16:7, which says, "But the Lord said to Samuel, 'Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.'" My daughter is a girl in her heart. She knows it. God knows it. That's good enough for me."


I particularly like this passage. I think she has hit on a reality many of us must know. Our higher power sees within us. It is people who judge and throw stones. Unfortunately we often through those stones at ourselves forgetting that we are are created by that higher power who also guides our every step.


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Charlize





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Guest ~Sara~

Thank you for sharing Carla!

Charlize, i really like that passage and it is one that gives me hope, it's true, we can see a person only by what they decide to show us, but god is the one that really knows who we are,we can't hide from or lie to him, it's comforting to know that.

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Guest LizMarie

About four months before I came out, my family had a discussion about Jenna Talackova. During that discussion, I saw one side of my family. My spouse seemed supportive. My youngest son seemed fairly supportive. My daughter was ambivalent. And my eldest son displayed a depth of bigotry that shocked me.

After I came out, my eldest son's bigotry deepened. My youngest son's support for Jenna Talackova and transgender people generally vanished. My daughter's ambivalence vanished and became support. And my spouse's support for other people who were trans turned into disgust, outrage, and into one episode of random violence directed at me. (I moved to one of our guest bedrooms at her insistence and a few weeks later woke up at 1am to her standing over me, hitting me, and screaming at me. Fortunately, it never happened again.)

I relate that to show that people discussing an issue in the abstract may appear to express one set of feelings but actually develop very different feelings when the issue comes close to home. And yes, my eldest son has referred to me as "it".

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