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The "quick And Dirty" On Being Ftm


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Guest Evan_J

Very recently, it was asked of me "wouldn't it be good to have the answer to certain basic/ repetative initial questions pertainent to FtMs pinned at the start of the FtM forum."

In trying to think of the best way to handle that, this post -containing links to those basic/ initial questions and their responses has been created. It is by no means a "complete guide" to what it is to be FtM nor have all topics relevant to an FtM been pulled out.

These are threads that have dealt with "common questions or topics" and "how to's".

Topics like "name changes" (though considered) were consciously not included in these thread lists since information regarding topics such as that may be found in many areas of the entire forum and are not FtM specific. Also , know that the information you seek (example: hysterectomy) might also have been addressed in another forum (example: the surgery foruim)and so that thread might not be listed here as these thread topics were only gathered from the FtM forum.

Its my hope that the reader will realize the value of the entirety of the FtM forum (social info, experiences, "details", and bonding) can never be compressed so easily, and that this listing of links is only as thorough as the date of compiling provides and is exactly what it professes to be.

But for those who need the "quick and dirty....."

packing and stps and urinating

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=5828

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=1790

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=1975

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2109

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2085

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2204

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2225

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2487

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2890

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2854

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2679

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=3352

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=3479

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=1680

http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=23445

Shaving

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=5223

binding

http://www.lauras-pl...p?showtopic=438

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=1947

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2571

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2459

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=4622

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=4834

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=5228

mannerisms

http://www.lauras-pl...p?showtopic=931

voice

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2643

Testosterone -Being prescribed, use, reactions to it and the effects of it

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=1395

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=3324

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=3224

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=3363

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=4348

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=4275

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=4255

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=3694

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=4327

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=3606

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=4865

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=4921

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=5107

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=5083

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=5686

Shoulders

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=5645

Baldness

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2621

Hormone blockage pre-T

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=4859

legalities

http://www.lauras-pl...p?showtopic=778

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=1930

hysterectomies

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2145

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=5475

top surgery

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=2124

http://www.lauras-pl...?showtopic=3074

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added another packing link
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Wow!

And at 8:04 AM - You were either up early or you should consider going to bed - you have posts on here from around 2 AM!

What a nice thing to do.

If I ever get caught up I might do this for the girls.

Since guys are notoriously short on social graces, I will thank you for them.

Thank you,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

Sally

If I ever get caught up I might do this for the girls.

'A promise made, is a debt unpaid, and the site has its own stern code.'

'In the days to come, though you're feeling dumb, you must travel that road.'

'In the long, long nite, by the lone fire light, while others dance and sing,'

'that list you must make, h'ever long it may take, Lord how we want that thing.'

[Apologies to Robert Service - Cremation of Sam McGee]

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Guest Donna Jean
Er...no offense meant, but why no links to info on bottom surgeries?

Hon.....

People post about things that they experience or understand really well.....

Everyone is welcome to add to the pinned posts what they can add...

Maybe no one has anything to add on this yet....

Donna Jean

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Guest Evan_J
Er...no offense meant, but why no links to info on bottom surgeries?

Amazingly, this thread is being created as I type.......

http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/in...c=18840&hl=

Little bit of challenge to include such a thread in the original "quick and dirty" since there were not so many accounts of pursuing bottom surgery by members of the board and so not a lot of threads. Those threads that existed had (usually) single links to an offsite resource and only addressed one type of FtM bottom surgery. The new thread attempts (work in progress as of today) to pull together all current methods of bottom surgery , give explanations or definitions , and where possible links to those places where illustrations or photographic representations can be seen. Basically a matter of pulling stuff from lot of different places outside of the board. The definitions and stuff was slightly tricky since board rules demand anything "quoted" from someplace else be able to cite the source/author. That eliminates random writtings and just a url as a source. So it was also a matter of qualifying the text and/or being able to "write it myself" -making me the author- based on understanding/regurgitation. That also holds true of some things that are not so readily texted out as they apply to transguys specifically.

The loss of transster.com of course played a part in having some results represented, even though there has been a replacement for that resource in the community. And that replacement resource is intentionally left out of this thread as opposed to putting "everything" on blast realizing that there are opponents. It might however be found other places on the board.

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Guest Cowboy

I think i just spent the last hour reading through all these topics.

Not only did i learn a lot and get a lot of answers, i think i only have maybe 5 questions now.

(Im sure thatll change.)

but WOW. i read more tonight than i have in the last year.

...no wonder i have a headache. :lol:

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Guest alexjean1963

Thank you so very much Evan, you just answered quite a few questions of mine with this info you've supplied, it's very much appreciated.

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Guest toastedsandwich

Wow I'm finding out more and more and more...this is great, at least I can find my way with some good knowledge. Wish I had discovered Laura's playground sooner!

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