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Guest Faith gibson

Hi,

I'm sorry if it sounds repetitious, but it feels good to share the steps you take. Some people get to share name changes and number of years on hormones, but I'm just sharing the fact that I can go for a walk.

Six months ago, I was petrified to leave the house in my car and go out to some little used walking trails east of this town. I was so nervous driving out there that day. I practically ran around the shortest of the trails and quickly took a pic of myself to prove I did it, then hurried home and congratulated myself. Last night, before it had even got dark, I drove over to the town park which has about 4 km of paved walkway, and walked around it without a care I just enjoyed the experience.

I intend on going again today, a little after lunch. A small thing I suppose but feels big to me.

Faith

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Guest Kenna Dixon

Well done, Faith.

Confidence does grow, but it needs repetition and time.

Trust me on this: The sky won't fall, and the earth will remain on its axis. It took me so many steps like yours to accept that fact.

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:ThanxSmiley: for sharing Faith. :friends:

It is all in the baby steps. You have come a long way Girl. :goodjob::welldone:

Kenna has summed things up wonderfully.

You go Girl! Live each day to its fullest. It does get easier with experience.

Huggs, :wub:

Joann

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Guest JillyDeex_53_mtf

Thank you Faith for helping me gain my confidence,

I took my first baby steps yesterday, and it took a while to calm my nerves before I stepped out of my car to checkout the sidewalk sale at one of the local fashion outlets and actually buy something. But once I was out, the nerves faded away and to my pleasant surprise, the sky didn't fall!

Keep it up girl, Be confident to be yourself! :thumbsup:

Love and Peace,

Jilly Dee

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Guest Faith gibson

Thanks Jilly Dee,

Love your name! Your avatar looks great, as well. I would like my shoulders to be that narrow.

I went for another walk today. Wandered around the park for awhile. I'm not nervous about getting in the car anymore.

Congrats on your initial steps. Isn't it great? I think you took a pretty big step actually. It was awhile before I could go shopping, and then a couple of trips before I could go through the check-out line.

:thumbsup:

Best Wishes

Faith

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Guest LizMarie

Faith, baby steps are how I got to where I am today. It's been 31 months at this point since I began therapy which is where I mark the beginning of my transition process. First I had to get my head straight. Then I began the physical changes. And this is still ongoing and will be ongoing for me for several more years.

So in the end, it's always about baby steps. But if you take enough baby steps, you'll someday look over your shoulder and realize just how far you've gone down that road.

*hugs*

Good luck to you and God bless, Faith.

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Guest Faith gibson

Thank you LizMarie.

Everyday seems to change me in some way. I agree, over time I will look back and see the distance covered. I also agree, that I have to get my head straight. I am all over the place right now. Way too sensitive, way too insecure and I'm trying to be more forgiving and open minded. So far to go. And so many roadblocks. I am in transition though.

Faith

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Faith i remember those baby steps and i remember beginning to actually enjoy small the small encounters with clerks and eventually with a waitress or ticket sales person at the theater. I started to go to as many stores as i could and would relive the stops and encounters as i drifted off to sleep. Each was important and each gave a bit more information. Slowly i became unable to put myself back in the bottle. Enjoy your freedom you are becoming the genie who lives her own wishes and achieves freedom.

Hugs,

Charlize

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Guest Faith gibson

I know Charlize :) It is so enjoyable and feels so right. I'm feeling a little frightened by it all though. It's always been a little safe being in hiding.

Hard to erase the years of barriers I have constructed and ways to protect myself. Plus, there is all those beliefs of others that are less than accepting.

I guess that's why the small steps are so important.

Thanks for your support.

Faith

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It's amazing how baby steps lead to more baby steps. Before you know it you're out there enjoying and living life.

:goodjob: :thumbsup:

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