Benefits of Therapy

[Guest alexia]

Hi, originally my first post other then my introduction was going a question about self acceptance but I decided to make it a post of happiness. I've been seeing a pyschologist for about six months and had a great day yesterday. We agreed that my wanting to be a woman is a part of me and has always been. I always thought this but its nice to have it confirmed. I highly recommend seeing a therapist of some kind my life would be a lot different if I went earlier in life (in 40s now). I have made a lot of progress recently with controlling my anxiety, going through the process of choosing a female name (ie finding a female persona) and joining this forum. Before seeing the pyschologist I was happy but my desire to look like a woman caused conflict and self loathing. I still have a long way to go as I still do not intend to transition until my children become independent, living in a small farming community does not allow me to express my female self (even at home). But I see hope and a future.

Lots of love Alexia

[Guest Mia J]

It sounds like you have a good therapist. Can I assume they specialize in gender therapy? A good gender therapist can be a life saver in finding and accepting who we really are.

Mia

[Carolyn Marie]

I can sense your happiness and hope in your words, Alexia. The journeys don't often go in a nice, neat straight line. There are usually curves and bumps and roadblocks. But getting past them makes it all the more satisfying. Those accomplishments you mentioned are really big steps forward, and I know it had to be scary for you. I applaud your courage and determination. However long the path forward is, I know you will succeed.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest alexia]

Thank you for your kind words. My therapist is not a gender therapist. I don't have the opportunity to see a gender therapist as I live in a small country community. She makes the 100 mile journey to my major town a couple of days a week. Closest capital (major) city is 400 miles away. This also prevents joining a tg support group. I believe this forum will fulfil this role. Mentally I understand my road is a long and bumpy one but emotionally I want to climb the tallest tower and shout to the world I am transgender. However I have to be content with being female inside and virtually:) Also I am lucky that my wife and parents whom I told are uncomfortable but love me.