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Transgender people are far “more spiritual,” claims Vancouver study

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VickySGV

I have happily copied this link from one of my Face Book feeds.

http://blogs.vancouversun.com/2015/04/15/transgender-people-far-more-spiritual-vancouver-study/

My response to it over there was:

You will not see a surprised look on my face about this. ONE of my spiritual paths is the Episcopal Church, but there are other paths that ADD to my experience of life, another is the path shown in 12 Step recovery for Alcoholism that I have needed to take and is not well explored by non-addicts, Gender Dysphoria itself also requires a personal journey to find what your real nature is, and lastly, for me is an issue of blood from both my Native American and Celtic family roots. No path I have found is un-holy, it was when I hid them from my life and would not journey on any that life was dark.

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Guest Charlotte J.

That's really interesting, Vicky. Thanks for sharing!

My spirituality is idiosyncratic--I've identified variously thorughout my life: first as Christian (early years, upbringing), then Agnostic, Pagan/New Agey, Atheist, and Buddhist. I haven't really stuck with any of these, as they all seem to degenerate into dogmatism at some point for me. I do feel very connected to nature. I've learned that my body and mind respond to certain practices or stimulus in predictable, positive ways. I don't have a regular meditation practice at this point, but know that if I sit in a certain way and breath mindfully, my body and mind will benefit. I've also always had a physiological response to many different pieces of music, and I have sets of songs that will help elevate my mood. I use these and similar techniques to cope with depression, feelings of being overwhelmed, and general stress. Music as a spiritual path relates to my trans identity in an interesting way. Although I have an emotional connection to lots of different songs, music performed by strong, feminist-leaning artists is particularly empowering to me.

This post is kinda tangential. Anyway, I really appreciate the link and have been impressed by the positive trans identities I've been exposed to in my brief time on these forums.

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Guest Faith gibson

Hi Vicky,

I haven't talked with you in awhile. I am going to try to respond to this thread. Please try to overlook any thing I say that seems out of your scope of acceptance.

I don't know about 12 steps or many things that you may have experienced. I do know the struggle of gender dysphoria. Can there possibly be anything that makes you question yourself, your life, your reason for being?

I have never been supportive of organized religion. (I'm sorry but I have seen and heard so many things that are distasteful to me with church going folk). I can't bring myself to be accepting of the things it offers.

I do thank 'My Friend'? everyday for the support I feel I receive and for allowing me to be me even though it causes me such heartache.

I don't think it's surprising for those that are not accepted by society as a whole are more likely to look for spiritual support.

As with most of these posts, I am probably not responding to exactly what you were intending and I'm sorry. I just felt that I wanted to share that I have a believe as well. Not totally sure what it is but I am thankful for it.

Faith

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StephanieVikingGirl

Thanks Vicky for posting this, I am also not at all surprised by the findings. I know that I give thanks for my blessings every day as a regular part of life, and that I venerate mother earth in all its bounteous glory. I always feel empathy for people, and I try to help. Not too surprising given that I am Heathen clergy, and a Norse shaman as well. I have also studied many other faiths, and their beliefs. I think it is good for me to understand other ways, after all there are many paths to the top of the mountain, I am just on one of them. :)

hugs,

Stephanie

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Guest Lara-Saphire

Interesting subject . It's late but I'll chime in with my thoughts. Makes perfect sense to me. My intuition says yes!

As a teenager I found myself confused about religion, unable to believe in the non existence of some kind of guiding force and at one point couldn't seem to believe in anything. That seemed to lead me deeper and deeper into a place of despair and emptiness . Finding a way to have a faith that was based on spiritual values but not conforming to any particular faith or religion freed me from myself and let me have a life and and inner strength. As I now have admitted that I had an inner conflict of self which I couldn't face until recently , I think being spiritually grounded was a salvation and a blessing for me. !

have always been troubled by affairs of the heart and of conscience. My 2 spirits , feminine and masculine are likely the driving force behind my need for Spiritual enlightenment and healing. Thanks for the topic Osmium :wub: I have to go find a path up mountain to now :)

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Charlize

Thanks for posting this Vicky. I was a religion major in college but gave all that up as life overwhelmed me and i turned to substances to find the peace i sought. Finding sobriety i began to develop a new relationship with a higher power. While not necessarily caused by my gender issues this relationship is certainly made deeper by the acceptance of my self and the world around me.

This woman's thesis is certainly interesting. I know that in a group of trans* individuals at an AA Skype meeting i attend there is a wonderful sense of the transcendent (no pun intended)

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Guest Raya

Thanks for the link, Vicky.

I happily read it, and was needing a little boost

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Guest Josy

This has been my experience. My spirituality has been my support and guide on my journey

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