I Have No Idea What To Do With My Hair

[Guest DaJe]

So for like the past 2 months, I started growing my hair out to be longer. It's been alright so far, but a lot of times it just doesn't look right. I'm know I'm going to probably have a few awkward phases with it, where I need to get it fixed up a little or just wait. I think I may need to do more though. I may be growing it out, but I still have no idea what sort of style I'm trying to go for. I just really don't know how I want it to look or what to do with it.

Any ideas or suggestions? Here's a picture of how it currently looks as of the time of me posting this thread

[Guest Elizabeth K]

I had the same problem, but mine was a little longer - looking raggedly. I FINALLY just went to a good hair salon, told them I was trans and wanted to grow my hair out. We worked out a plan and over the next two years I am taking it out to 14 inches - that will keep it looking good the entire time, they said.

Cost money but now I feel so good!

Just an idea! People serious about hair don't care if you are trans.

Lizzy

[Guest Jackson]

I think Elizabeth has a good idea.

Personally, I think your hair looks good that way. All you need to do is grow it out a little. I have noticed that when I've gone and gotten my hair cut, the ladies that have cut my hair really don't care either. They'll cut my hair anyway I want.

[Guest DaJe]

It's all confusing for me. I think I need to work on my face a bit more, and maybe try some makeup or something. I also want to get my eyebrows shaped. And it's not that my hair is too too bad right now, but I feel it could be better, but that may just mean it needs to grow more, though I also may want to try a shorter style. Ironically, I think longer hair starts to make me look older or more masculine (check out my gallery picture when my hair was short and you'll see).

And still, my face is one thing I really want to work on right now. I just don't know what looks good on me

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

Mine went through an awkward poufy stage before it was long enough to pull back into even a small pony tail. I just let it grow for a year or two. Didn't cut it but once or twice. Made sure I conditioned it. It became the lovely head o' hair I have now and it makes other women jealous.

But yeah, growing it out was awkward.

[Guest Little Sara]

Mine went through an awkward poufy stage before it was long enough to pull back into even a small pony tail. I just let it grow for a year or two. Didn't cut it but once or twice. Made sure I conditioned it. It became the lovely head o' hair I have now and it makes other women jealous.

But yeah, growing it out was awkward.

I started growing mine in 2000. I knew of transition existing in 2005. By that time I had tailbone-length semi-wavy hair.

Never cared about the awkward stage. Guys won't use much for it usually, but barettes and tons of implements exist for girls and women. I wear my hair loose 99.9% of the time (meaning always unless someone tied it for me and I liked it).

Sara, who has 32 inch long hair.

My hair as a guy:

[Guest Konnor]

Not that I have a lot of experience in looking great with girl hair, but there are occasions where my parents make me fix my hair. It's about the same length as yours. I think whether you look better with short or long hair really depends on the hairstyle... you could look great either way. Since all these ladies are giving you tips on growing it out, I'll play devil's advocate. The website www.short-hairstyles.com has many pictures of trendy women's short haircuts. If you want to keep your hair that length or shorter, check it out. Good luck to you!

[Guest DaJe]

Thanks, that'll probably help. It's nice to be able to find something I think looks good, and then just tell the stylist to make it look like that. They don't always do it right when I just give them a general idea. Especially since they seem to think I want a boy version of whatever I tell them to do. But I'll clarify that if I can show them a picture of exactly what I want.

I did manage to make my hair look more feminine a little bit, but it also looks short this way, and isn't feminine enough for me. My hair really shapes how my face looks, so I want something different.

[Guest Myldryd]

There used to be an ad on tv that only your hairdresser knew for sure. While it was cor coloring I took it to heart. I went to a hair salon that does men and women and told after a couple of months of getting familiar with one stylist told her that I was a crossdresser and needed to have a style tat I could wear long and use both ways. She helped me by developing a style that I can comb it one way for my man needs and brushing it for my female look. It has worked well and I am happy about the look.

By the way I also asked her to style my eyebrows so that they were more feminen but not too.

Now when I dress up there is a much more convincing and a fell of authenticity for myself