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Vatican Says Trans Catholics Cannot Be Godparents

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My oldest son's godfather Wolf was a wonderful FTM friend who was amongst the first to get full bottom surgery. He and my son grew quite close and had a beautiful times together. He was also quite positively influential in my son's life. It's a pity that the Vatican has taken this path.

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Charlize

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Minorities are at risk from majorities. When an organisation that can influence many speaks out against a few in a manner which is damaging them, then that is a work of wrong doing. That, in my book, spiritually speaking, is a basic definition of an evil act. When it is difficult to speak out against the controllers of such an organisation because it may offend the followers in some fashion then they benefit from a level of protection that allows them to continue. When the followers of such an organisation speak out against the wrong dong of their leaders then we have courage and hope rather than subjugation.

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