I'm getting really worried I'm becoming dilatorphobic?

[Guest]

Not so long ago I was having a lot of fun down there but I tore myself up, literally. Lots of blood overnight anyway. I had huge pain and swelling. That subsided and I waited three days to dilate again. Now I can't get past the small size. Consequently it is not so pleasurable anymore.

I have been skipping days a lot. I suspect that only makes it worse. How long is too long? How do I get over the fear? I have studied a little about vaginismus and also Kegel exercises, does any of that apply to us? I really want my motor hum back and to get back to full size. Sorry, but I'm really freaked out about it and don't know what to do about it. I don't think Dear Abby can help. Hug. JodyAnn

[Charlize]

I am not able to comment from experience but i've had similar parallel procedures and have been amazed at how long it has taken to completely heal. That is from both a physical and emotional standpoint. After my first cardiac procedure i was weak for months. Each time since then has been similar. The orchiectomy has taken time to "normalize".

You might want to consider seeing a gynecologist if you aren't already. It is probably a good idea to make sure no big damage has been done. You will hopefully have a long and happy relationship with your little friend or his human inspiration so care for the old girl. You don't want any odd phobias.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest]

Thanks Charlize, I did get over the fear last night, the fear of loosing it being greater. So I did some maintenance. Maybe it helped to talk about it. I hope being hit and miss on my schedule isn't doing long term damage.

[VickySGV]

At your stage of things and calendar age, dilating is NOT pleasant, and at best it is tolerable, messy, and tedious. Too many people have romantic and erotic turn-on's when they think of us pushing a hard piece of plastic up in a surgical wound site, but that is a bunch of horse pucky in reality. My yeast infection early in the game had me scared of what was in store two more times on a given day. A day or maybe two at the outside will not do much as far as healing closed, but it does dry out "inside" and that makes things touchier to the touch.

I really think you should follow the lead of your older sister here, and find a gynecologist in the neighborhood who can possibly take a look at the "inner girl" and tell you what it looks like to her. If they can tell you what to expect on "the way in" so much the better.

It was five months before one scar inside of me smoothed out and I could get around it or, more the point, went to being a speed bump instead of being a piece of K-rail. Be gentle but firm, and play the dilator in as many directions as you can on the way in to gently stretch things. There can simply be skin wrinkles that need to be smoothed out, or they pinch. I too had some early "bloody" discharge, and one small hematoma, which may be what you had, that broke through and put out a lot of red goo, but was healed over within a few hours.

[Guest Ashley40]

IMO, you need to see your surgeon or your primary care physician as soon as possible. !!!!

[Guest]

I love my Gyno, but I don't want to bug her to death. Unfortunately seeing my surgeon in Thailand is not an inexpensive option. Last inspection after healing from my minor surgery, she said I was healing fine and my surgeon did a wonderful job.

If this still bothers me in a few days I think I will make another appointment. She does seem to be really transgender smart. GCS is not all peaches and cream.

Speaking of cream, the Estrace cream has helped a lot. That is a little messy too, but softens me and it's getting more natural looking.

[Guest]

It's a cycle for me, I enjoy dilation a lot some weeks, and so, so the next. I do take my Gynecologist advice and don't date Max every time. I like Max's little brother a lot. He's friendlier, we can sometimes have an interlude using just the moisture in my body. She is concerned in the long run Max will have me stretched out to big, thoughtful of any future partners. The slightly smaller one spreads the estrogen cream nicely after deeply inserting with the applicator. I'll save any other explanation, those who try it will understand.

New girls, follow your surgeon's instructions to the letter. Don't worry, I doubt nymphomania will set in. You will have a health normal female sexual appetite. Giggle.

Good news for me, at one year my labia, is completely healed and developed, She became gorgeous, completely normal looking. Wonderful things happened when I stopped obsessing and sort of forgot about the issue.