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My First Steps to my New Wardrobe


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Hey everyone!

So I swung by Kohls on the way home tonight as a spur of the moment, and grabbed a couple of women's tank tops (1 blue, 1 pink). They're nothing special, but they are the first articles of clothing I've bought to help me feel more feminine. I really just wanted something I could change into when I get home from work/class and can relax for the night.

I was wondering if you all had any recommendations on other types of clothing to help me feel more like a woman. I am still under my parent's roof while I'm finishing my degree, and I don't plan on coming out to them while I am still living with them. The other option is leaving them with my girlfriend, who is completely accepting of who I am. However, she lives about 3 hours away, so I would not be able to wear them often.

Any advice and more than appreciated~!

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It was recommended to me at first to start wearing women's panties.Though not visible there was a feeling of comfort that I had made a small step forward.Gradually I began buying articles of women's clothing that I could wear at home as I am not full time yet but getting close, this has allowed me time to figure out what style works for me, and allows me to gain confidence in my presentation.I also recommend that you try shopping in charitable thrift stores like that of the Salvation Army or Goodwill stores, these stores allow to experiment with clothing that are different styles without spending a lot of money.

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It perhaps all depends a little on you intended style.

I really first started by wearing womens skinny jeans and very close fitting tops / tee shirts as they are fairly unisex. Except for dressing for modelling for my artwork, as I began I worked on a unisex approach so I could go outside at an early stage. I think it then progressed to Jeggings then leggings and on to thick tights etc. With underwear, it is a good start but I did find that many styles of female underwear do not fit well with male anatomy. I would suggest buying cheap at first to get a feel for styles. Check your measurements and womens size comparison tables to get a feel for your size. As things vary a bit it will take a while to gain experience but in time you will know what is likely to fit and what will not.

More for the future, but speaking as one who often dresses androgyne rather than fully female, I have found it easier / less attracting attention to dress fully female rather than androgye but that may change quite a bit on your age as androgyne works easier with younger people.

Tracy

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Jeans are a great idea. Often it is only the zipper that makes a difference and i've found that many of the jeans in the women's section have the zipper on the same side as men's jeans. I seriously doubt that your parents would notice.

Hugs,

Charlize

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I like my panties and tights. (I never ever wear mens underwear) I wear a tall/tight v-neck t-shirt, pulled down a little to kind of cover my junk. I also love cute low cut girl socks in various colors, to show off my ankles. If my hair was long enough I'd wear a hair clip (That makes me feel good, especially). When I figure out the HRT thing, that will be my going out all the time out-fit, for sure.

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Thanks for the suggestions ladies~! This will really help me out

I've been looking at some jeans online on zappos since I have a gift card leftover from the holidays. I think I'm gonna swing by a local thrift store over the weekend to check out what they got, too. I have to say, I was a bit overwhelmed by the women's section at Kohl's last night. Just so many different new styles and options to choose from. I'm just glad I didn't go overboard or anything. :D

I'm worried I may have some difficulty finding clothes that fit in stores for now. I'm a bit overweight, and I've already noticed the limited selection for big girls like me. Just more motivation to keep up my work outs!

P.S. Wearing my pink tank top under my shirt tonight~

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So I found myself back at Kohls today. I've been wearing my tank tops while going out under my shirts and loving it, so I decided to pick up a couple more. I also picked up a pack of panties today to try out. I figured the breathable ones would be best to try out first. If they work out, I might start trying them out underneath my men's boxers. This weekend my girlfriend is gonna take me out to look at some different jeans. I have never been this excited for cloths before~

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getting dressed certainly can take on a new dimension as we begin to express ourselves. After a few years of being full time i still feel better about dressing in the morning than i did when dressed in drab. I just feels right.

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Charlize

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