Breakthrough (minor)

[Guest AshleighP]

I posted last week about losing a good friend, and how that made me realize how short life on earth actually is. My wife and I went wine tasting on Saturday, something we often do on the weekend. When we got home, she asked me why I never wear my women's clothes when she's home. I told her it was because I knew she didn't like it. Her response was "I think it would be ok for you to wear whatever you want around the house. I know it is one of the few things that makes you happy, and I want you to be happy." I wanted to dance with joy, but I managed a very low key "ok, thanks". I also wanted to jump off the couch and get dressed, but decided to wait for another time. I think baby steps would be the appropriate way to handle this so as to not freak her out. The occasional skirt or top, then on to more elaborate dressing.

This may seem like a small victory, but for me it was HUGE! I hope someday to be able to completely dress whenever the mood strikes, Without fear of judgement.

Thank you all for the support and advice y'all have offered in the past, and for this site where I can express my thoughts and feelings openly. It has made a big difference in my life.

[Charlize]

Thank you for the morning's smile.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest (S)hE-W0lf]

I hope this goes well for you, it certainly sounds like a breakthrough. May you have many wonderful femininity filled days.

I'm sure not everyone had the same or anyone even had a similar experiences but after my girlfriend initially said it would be alright if I dressed whenever we were at home together and she helped me with my makeup and hair and nails a few times I was relieved that I didn't have to hide this side of me, but after trying it several times I realised that I feel differently about the dressing around her then when I am on my own. It's not that I don't want to or don't have permission or don't think of it and my gender more often than I eat when she's here but when dressed around her I feel like a guy in drag and it just feels wrong. When she's not here and I go about my things I feel a lot more feminine and at ease, I can almost convince myself that I'm not weird for doing this.

But I digress, you are one lucky girl and your other half sounds like a superb, loving person.

Hugs

Lynn

[tracy_j]

A good step forward Ashleigh

I found it nice to get to the stage where I can be dressed very feminine when I want, which these days is mostly, without my partner raising her eyebrows. I found the secret in my case was to take it slowly (essentially by stealth) so there are no sudden shocks, although I do remember the 'You're wearing a dress!' a couple of years ago when we were on holiday and I came out of the bedroom in a dress. It was pretty much the first time I had presented to her as girly. That would get little comment these days, although a week ago I wore a short skirt with bare legs around the house and my partner said 'It's not summer yet!' I don't think she was impressed but it did not escalate at all. I have never had the Ok to wear things as such but to be sitting here without getting any kind of negative response is good. Just accepted

Tracy

[Guest]

Hi Ashleigh. That's wonderful news. Iam sorta in the same situation with my wife. I totaly agree that baby steps are the way to go. Good luck. Hugs. Amber L.

[Guest Eve Caillard]

Ashleigh, great news for you! I live for the day my wife would say the same, but she's not so easy-going. Well done and enjoy!

Hugs

Eve

[Guest AshleighP]

I always find encouragement here! Thank you all for taking time to reply.

[Christine]

Hi Ashleigh.Thats really good news that you are slowly being accepted by your partner,it must be an amazing feeling.It is so good to hear stories like this which gives the rest of us some hope.

Fond Regards

Christine