Coming Out to Siblings

[Jani]

Hopefully "time to process" is a good sign.  It was for me for the very few who expressed that need. 

Good luck with number three!  Sounds as if you may need it.  

Jani 

[Charlize]

Great news.  Time will help as well.  Hugs and all the support i can offer.  You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

 

 

[JenniferB]

Being transgender is so complicated. My sisters, at worst, are tolerant. But at least I am still a part of their life. My brother, an evangelical conservative, is the one that causes the most trouble. But he hasn't disowned me. We keep our distance but still keep in touch. He tries not to be judgmental.

You don't know how people will react in these situations. It's very had to read. Plus I've seen many times one person being accepting until someone gets in their ear. Still...you are brave Timber Wolf. And at least now it will be in the open and you can move on. 

I hope it all works out for you.

With Love,

Jennifer

[tracy_j]

Steady as she goes x

 

[Guest]

I have been watching this thread,  not knowing what to comment. It took about two years and family crisis for my sister to get over her hate.

When my mother fell and broke her arm my sister came out from back east. She had warmed up to me considerably. We had a few heartfelt conversations in that day and a half.

A few months later my father passed and again she came out west for a week. The first trip was a bit awkward, from the second trip on we are the sisters I always wanted to be. We are closer now then ever. She gets that I am really a woman. Intersex yes, female none the less. She confided how much she had to research on her own to understand. I was naturally thrilled.

Those two long years were very painful for me. One cannot always predict a good outcome, but mostly it can get much better over time. I hope your family has the same great outcome with out all the pain.  Hug. JodyAnn

[Ravin]

I hope things go well with sister #3, if not immediately then eventually. My sisters have all been great. I've gotten everything from "I've always wanted a big brother, but I'm still taller than you," to honest, "I don't understand you but I still love you," which with that particular sister was nothing new, because we are in different universes when it comes to a LOT of things, including religion, sexual orientation, sexual mores, politics, etc. She's very conservative and I'm very liberal in thinking on all those categories. But she's very much a "judge not, lest ye be judged" sort.

[Briana]

Good to hear and good luck.  Those religious ones can be a tough nut to crack.  As much as they talk about love, acceptance, not judging, etc. many do it to the extreme believing it's the right thing to do based on their religious beliefs.  Been there...had enough of that.  Regardless, I hope it goes well.  That would be good to hear.

[Jani]

It's funny how people and family in particular react to our news.  I've often thought it would have been easier if I had come out as gay, although it would have really complicated my personal life.  And I don't need it any more difficult than it already is. 

[Timber Wolf]

Hi Everyone,

Sister #3 is a different one. There's just no predicting her really. If she were a baseball pitcher, her big pitches would be the curveball and the change up. None of us can figure her out. One thing I have got going for me is that my family has always been very close nit and loving. I've heard so many stories of broken or disfunctional families while attending NA meetings that I feel really fortunate to have the family I have. Sometimes it even makes me feel kind of guilty.

 

When I first accepted being trans, I thought I would never have the courage to do this. It seemed so terrifying. It's amazing how far along I've come. I can't keep pretending to be that man. When I went out to breakfast with sister #1 Thanksgiving morning, I felt so free of a burden. I'm me with her now!? No more hiding from her!

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

[MarcieMarie12]

I just talked to my brother and his wife that lives nearby. First time in over 6 months...not that we talked much beforehand. We just caught up with where we were, mostly how the nephews were doing. I avoided any trans discussion, and they avoided using my name. They've explained that they have been pretty much wrapped up in the kids sports.

[Timber Wolf]

Well, here it is. I just finished letter #3 to sister #3. Now trying to get the courage up to hit the send button. This is the last of my siblings. I'm a bit more nervous about this one. She's very religious. I've sort of had writer's block with this letter, but it's finally done. Keeping my fingers crossed.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

[Dakota16]

I hope it goes well!

[Timber Wolf]

Wow! I just discovered I forgot to say how it went. It went very well! Sorry for leaving it so open ended. All three siblings are very accepting of me. More than I dared expect.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

[Aanzinaago'Stephanie]

Wonderful news, Timber Wolf. Thank you for sharing.

[Dakota16]

That's awesome! I'm glad it went well!