My First GT Appointment

[Guest KatherineR]

My first gender therapy appointment is this weekend. I'm so excited, and nervous, and scared, and hopeful ?

[Jani]

You'll be fine.  Just be yourself, the real you.  I was terribly nervous and once I got into the office and introductions were made I started to feel better.  When I told my therapist why I was there and what I needed assistance with I started to really feel good.  The time passed in a flash and I walked out on air.  On the drive home my mind was spinning over what had happened and how great I felt, as if a giant weight had been lifted off me.  Enjoy it.

Jani

 

[TexasLibraryLady]

I'm really excited for you!

[Guest]

OH my! Good for you and good luck. My first, well......... LOL

 

[Cindy Truheart]

My first appointment with a therapist was me bawling my eyes out and completely freaking out! My therapist was a Saint! But seriously, just be yourself! They are there to help, so let them help. But if you don't get that connection from them, don't feel bad about finding a different one. It's nothing bad on them or you, but therapy works best when you can have a connection with your therapist and when you feel that they really understand you. Good luck!

[Charlize]

I really enjoyed my first appointment and left looking forward to the next!

Best of luck.  Just be open and as honest as you can be and you'll be fine.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Guest]

13 hours ago, Cindy Truheart said:

My first appointment with a therapist was me bawling my eyes out and completely freaking out! My therapist was a Saint! But seriously, just be yourself! They are there to help, so let them help. But if you don't get that connection from them, don't feel bad about finding a different one. It's nothing bad on them or you, but therapy works best when you can have a connection with your therapist and when you feel that they really understand you. Good luck!

Me too. And I remember saying in the beginning, that all the stuff that's happening now, wasn't going to happen. I learned to Never say Never Again. LOL

[Guest KatherineR]

Thanks for all of the support! ?

We'll see how it goes tomorrow. 

[Guest KatherineR]

Well, I just got back from my second session.  I have a headache from crying but I'm looking forward to a group meeting next Saturday. 

 

[Charlize]

The tears can help one to grow, kinda like watering a garden.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Aanzinaago'Stephanie]

Awwww. That is such a beautiful thing to say Charlize.

You couldn't have put it better!

[Cindy Truheart]

Yes! I like the garden analogy! Sounds like you are doing good Katherine! Being able to cry is important, I try to cry at least once a week to get it all out!

[Guest]

The first few appointments of mine, in fact the first year of counseling I cried quite a lot. Sometimes just out of the blue, didn’t even know why. Just felt the overwhelming need to do it. My therapist thought it was related to the fact that I didn’t allow myself to feel anything but anger in the past, so maybe I was learning these new emotions.

 

Today, watching TV, commercials or a movie or whatever, my cry reflex (for lack of a better word) is much more sensitive, and I don’t really care anymore. If I feel like crying, I do it and usually feel much better………..

[Cindy Truheart]

9 hours ago, Fiona said:

Today, watching TV, commercials or a movie or whatever, my cry reflex (for lack of a better word) is much more sensitive, and I don’t really care anymore. If I feel like crying, I do it and usually feel much better………..

I wish I could allow myself that freedom more. But my wife is sensitive to my emotions so I try to not cry around her. She wants me happy because I think she is afraid I will get depressed and do something. Okay, I contributed to that fear in her so it's my fault. So I can't cry at the drop of a hat for whatever reason. But I try to set up movies, books, whatever to give me reasons to let it out. And I cry in my car while at work a lot. I can be driving to and from for an hour or more sometimes. Perfect time for some tears.

[Guest]

15 hours ago, Cindy Truheart said:

I wish I could allow myself that freedom more. But my wife is sensitive to my emotions so I try to not cry around her. She wants me happy because I think she is afraid I will get depressed and do something. Okay, I contributed to that fear in her so it's my fault. So I can't cry at the drop of a hat for whatever reason. But I try to set up movies, books, whatever to give me reasons to let it out. And I cry in my car while at work a lot. I can be driving to and from for an hour or more sometimes. Perfect time for some tears.

While I generally try to do my crying away from my wife, she gets upset as well.

Sometimes I can't help it, but she is getting used to the fact that I'm sensitive. What I had to figure out is that I was always like this. How I dealt with it was to make myself angry.

[Cindy Truheart]

6 hours ago, Fiona said:

Sometimes I can't help it, but she is getting used to the fact that I'm sensitive. What I had to figure out is that I was always like this. How I dealt with it was to make myself angry.

Exactly. I wish I could get my wife to understand that.

[Guest]

4 minutes ago, Cindy Truheart said:

Exactly. I wish I could get my wife to understand that.

You did that too? Really?

[Cindy Truheart]

26 minutes ago, Fiona said:

You did that too? Really?

Anger is one emotion I was allowed. Nearly everything made me angry.

[Guest]

I'm sorry, but glad to hear it as well.