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One thing I have learn from coming out at LGBTQ meetings


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It's a great experiance and people accept you unconditionally for the most part. My fourth meeting and after coming out, I am coming out of myself and not only connecting with the rainbow crowd but other alcoholics who are new and still raw.

i am so glad I went back for a fourth time last night to the Trans Queer meeting as I was a little unsure. There were a few more trans people there and I chatted with someone I had seen before but never talked to who was trans. Every week the world is opening up and the secrets I have kept hidden are finding their light.

I signed up for being on the committee for a Queer Trans roundup that might happen again this year. I have never been to an AA roundup and this will be a first if it happens. Being out however is becoming an addiction but it's a healthy addiction, like good movies, socializing and playing guitar.

All made possible by going through fears with my HP holding my hand and in some cases and brow beating me , ( there goes the white dove analogy)..

One of the things I talk about as well as others is being "spiritually topped up".

i feel that today.

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That is wonderful to hear.  Very very wonderful!  Doing service of any kind, and being part of it even if we are not PERFECTLY qualified for it is a high point of recovery.  We try it and become good (but not perfect) in time and with help and clear headed enthusiasm and yes, even joy.

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That sounds wonderful.  Thank you for sharing.  I've grown to love my GLBTQ meeting and the folks who come there.

Finding service with those people has become a high point of my sobriety.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Good for you, cerise. I've done service work and it's always strengthened and enhanced my sobriety. I hope you experience the same.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

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I wondered about going to LGBT meetings when I came back after transitioning and graduating from my trans support group but it just didn't happen.  Actually when I came back to AA it was with the premise that I was bringing the son of an old friend.  I made it back but my prospect didn't arrive for 3 years.

So the group that I found was very service oriented.  that was what attracted me.  Now I am working in the Federal prison system.  Wow!  I am learning more than I ever dreamed possible.  Not because I ever spent time in a prison or jail, because I didn't.  In fact I was sort of nervous about it at first, but apparently I was hand picked to handle this position.

But back to the trans-queer groups, I'm kinda glad I didn't end up there.  I thought I was different and confided in my being intersex/trans and they just continued to insist that we are all the same here.  And we are because we're all here for our sobriety.  We just all have different journeys.  Our journeys become our story.  I share mine whenever I get the chance.  Doing it has made me feel so much better about me.

Erin (Thtufus)

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Thanks for your share Erin.  Doing service in AA has helped me as well.  Often that happens in ways i don't even know.  A share or having coffee made might help another find sobriety.  When others simply reached out at the right time i opened a door.  We try to open that door to others.

As you mentioned we are not unique as trans folks.  I'm just another drunk in recovery.  I got sober in straight, cis  groups.  Perhaps that was best for me.  Now i enjoy the honesty that i am provided in GLBT or trans* meetings where sharing is often easier for many.  Being at those meeting and sharing experience , strength and hope with a "unique" community helps me and hopefully helps others.  Perhaps the shame and guilt so many feel for being themselves can be relieved by honesty in an accepting environment.  

I am grateful for being able to attend all kinds of meetings.  Without the fellowship and the HP i've found there i wouldn't be sober today.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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I did go once to a gay group when I was in the middle of my transition.  I didn't feel comfortable but maybe it's worth trying again.  Only I don't think there is a trans group in my area.  I'll look into it.  I'm coming up to my 38th birthday in June.  I keep thinking maybe I'd like to talk about me more, but I don't know if I can do it.

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Erinanita if you are ever interested please take a look at the pinned topic about the trans* online meeting.which meets on Zoom.  There are several folks from Canada as well and a real mix of folks new and with years of sobriety. 

I know it helps me to be there and i feel it as a wonderful place to extend the hand of sobriety and acceptance to others.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Hi all, 

Back on the grid again for a little while. It's nice to see the thread still going.

i go to to two groups now on a regular basis and although there is a noticeable age differance in one of them I go because there are some connections that I have made with some youger members that are coming back. 

Its important to be there for even one if they are in need of conection.

it doesn't matter if they are Trans or not and us being out shows to them that they are safe as we have given them our trust.

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