Voice found :-) my technique and some issues

[Clara84]

Hi

I've found a voice that pass well.

My technique to reach this point was as follows :

I used an mobile app "voice pitch analyser". With this you can monitor  your voice, and the app will tell you the gender associated with your voice.

Speak with the most high pitch but not too much, remain natural. Don't speak too loud but remain loud enough to be audible.

Train your voice in everyday life and see people reaction. Having a passable voice in public is easier than on the phone. As long as your appearance pass, if you talk with an androgynous voice, it won't out you.

Smile while you're talking and try to have the sweetest possible voice. Think about like a girl who's talking to a little cat. You won't reach the same voice (and you shouldn't) but it will sound more sweet and girly.

 

Important! Use your new voice everywhere and with everybody. That was the KEY for me. First I used new voice in public and switched back to original male voice at home and with friends. Don't do this!

Your new voice should become a part of you and not just a tool to improve your passing.

When I (tried to) switch to female voice everywhere, I began to have some results.

Some people will react but don't mind you're doing this for you.. (once my wife told "with me you can talk with your normal voice " I just said no and explained).

Now.. the serious things... test your voice passing on the phone!

On the phone you shouldn't sound androgynous, you should sound female. That's the ultimate test.

Call some hotlines! It's often toll free numbers. And ask for a basic information.

The call agent should gender you (I worked as call agent and gendering customers was mandatory)

You will go through following steps.

1. You will directly be called "sir" - you still need some work

2. The agents don't gender you anymore or ask if you are "sir" or "madam" - you're on the right way.

3. You will directly be called "madam" :-) :-) :-) 

Do as many calls you need. And don't forget to smile when you're talking, even on the phone.

I personally made 2-3 calls each day during one month before reaching step 3 last week. First time I have had a natural "Madam" without hesitation from the call agent, I couldn't believe it. I just made 5 other calls to different companies to be sure.. and everytime "Madam" :-) 

Voice training can be hard for your vocal chords... you can help them with some tricks:

-drink a lot, to reach female voice your mouth should never be dry. Never stay more than 1 hour without drinking. And drink min. 3 liters each day

-sleep enough, if you spend a too short night you will have a bad voice for the whole next day

-avoid smoking and alcohol

I hope this can help some of you.

I am satisfied with that voice but it still need some improvement. My voice is not beautiful but it sounds FEMALE. Making it beautiful is not urgent.

The issues I am still facing...

- in the morning I don't have my voice directly after wake up, it takes me 1-2 hours to recover it. At wakeup I've deep voice

- same issue in the evening. My voice become deeper on late hours. Sometimes I must use my male voice because the female one results in no more sound.

Now my girl voice is only available from about 9am to 8pm. Naturally I need it 24/24.

- I can't speak loud

- I can't shout

- coughing, sneezing and laughing still sounds male