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My Family has been waiting 3 years for Me Too Appoligise / Appoligise for What ?


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Just Over 3 Years ago , My Family that once was always their in good times and Bad . Found Out thru my Late wifes social Media site and StacieLeelahs Connected Site , That stacieLeelah was in fact Me , My Other self , Which Never has had & doesn't want a social media site , Still does not and as far as I am concerned never Will . However when Pamela Jean was in her final months of Life . My Family and Than Most of hers , And some close Family Friends as well , All went Hostile towards Me , Why ? , Well because thru social Media my sister , who first found out who StacieLeelah was . Told My Family , They told Pamela's Family & Some of our Closest Family Friends . And to this Day , Now well over the 3 Year Plus Mark , They did discuss it with Pamela in a Negative context , Before she passed away 2 years and 5 months ago . But too this Day they still Haven't discussed it Directly with Me Yet . Sent Me a Threatening Extortion Letter with No Return address & no one signed it . Are Praying for my Supposed Lost Soul in the ST. Judes Prayer of & For Lost Souls , They are waiting for an Apology to every Member of both Sides of the Family & offended Family Friends . Accussing Me Of False Hoods lies and Deception . Why ? You maybe Asking . Well all Because I am Trans MTF , That's what my Family and some Friends , Mostly my Family . Are Waiting for me now , For over 3 years plus too A[[oligise too All of them , Because they found out , I never told them , They went Bezerk told Everyone they could . Except have never talked directly too Me yet . Pamela before she Died , Set her Family straight , And tried to explain it too my Family , Who didn't want too hear anything . But an overall apology from Me . And Refuse any attempts from Pamelas Family Now still . Unless I Apoligise too them  . I knew how they would react , Holier than thou Catholics & Far Right Conservative TED CRUZ Christians . Who think they have the right too Judge Me & All of Us . Which they DON'T  & I am not Now nor do I Plan on Apoligising  : I am Proud of my LBGT roots and Family that care about me . And I care about all of You , Thank You :

 

StacieLeelah

Reagan Jean

Shelby'Anne Kelcee

 

GOD Bless : 

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In my opinion this is probably one of the worst times of finding out.

 

Aside from many of the 'local to you' society and family issues, in times of grief people often naturally look for something to blame the taking of a good life on. They wish to vent their inner rage. I feel you may have been in the wrong place at the wrong time. Likely there may have still been rejection, but I think the situation may have made things far worse. To some extent there is always family rivalry involved too. Your family may be thinking, to some extent, 'why should we hear this from our son's wife and family, not himself. Why did they know first and not us!' I just think of my mother and how snappy she gets about such things.

 

With your family, they maybe deserve an apology for you hiding things, with an explanation of why's. Not an apology for who you are. You are all upset at the moment. Only you know your family, so I cannot predict, in any way, a result but in time, at least with some of the family, things should improve.

 

Good luck

 

Tracy x

 

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Time Will Tell & We Will See , I like Most of you're Response and Appreciate it , But I am NOT Apoligising for anything at the Moment , And they took something very Private and Personal to Me & When I came Out an Who I Told was My Decision Not Theirs . And this isn't about them , Its my Life & they have choosen too basically Kick Me Out , Only because I am Transgender and feel now, I have been all of my Life : But again Thank YOU :

 

StacieLeelah 

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Most of my extended family found out because of an acquaintance who saw me filling up our car at a gas station.  I had one cousin come to the house with her girlfriend angry because she is gay and i didn't tell her first.  I also have cousins who i haven't seen for years.  I miss them as we used to share Thanksgivings and Christmas together.  At the same time i'll say that slowly we are beginning to communicate again.  I don't and can't find this their fault.  They like me are a product of a society that is only beginning to show some tolerance for diversity.  I broke the mold and wasn't "supposed" to do that.  I'm also beginning to forgive myself for years of dishonesty.  It seemed impossible to do otherwise for most of my life.  Fear and shame ruled my life.  I can only feel grateful for the freedom i've found.  Others including my relatives must live their lives.  It is difficult that they are slow or unable to find acceptance.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Thanks Charlize , Like Tracy_J , I Appreciate You're Comments , Feedback & Interaction - You're All very Knowledgeable and I appreciate that very Much :

 

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I think the only person I had to apologize to is my ex. While my understanding of why we got divorced had changed, the fact is she got blindsided by something I was repressing that would affect our relationship. Her reaction though, not so much.  I feel no need to apologize to anyone else.

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Thank You , MarcieMarie :

Look I Didn't Tell Them , I don't Feel I did them Wrong And I Did tell My Spouse - 5 years into a 29 Year Relationship , 2 Years into our Marriage - Did she Struggle with it YES , Was she Happy , That I was Transgender MTF at First NO , But let Me tell You , After she came too Terms with it Personally & She never even left or Separated even One day or Night - Our Love Life & Our Respect for each Other was Better & Stronger - Should I have told Her During Our Dating , Yes , Should I have Told her During Our Engagement , Before We got married , Absolutely YES , Did I , No unfortunately , Did I Appoligise too Her over the Years Many times YES - My Family Tried to destroy Me Literally , My Own Brother told my Inlaws & Others , That if I wanted to be transgender , He wanted too seriously hurt me , As My Sister inlaw put it , He said I should be Dead - Quote Un Quote , They sent Me an Extortion Letter , Utah to California using the United States Mail . Sending extortion letters , As ina Letter that Demands I do certain things against my will or they will do certain things to destroy Me Personally . That is what they did & When you use the U.S. Mail Service to send an extortion / demand letter with Consquences acrossed state lines . You are Breaking a Number of Federal laws all at the same time - Anyone who thinks that I am going to appoligise too anyone just because I Am Trans and I am not sorry I am Trans , Dosen't really get or Understand what my FAMILY , Did to My Late Wife and Me , During our Darkest hours . She Pamela Jean needed My Undivided Attention , Not be dealing with Family BS -

 

StacieLeelah

Reagan Jean

Shelby'Anne Kelcee

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List of Current Family Member's

 

Mom - In Denial - Want s an Appoligy -Don't feel they have Done Anything Wrong - OMG

Sister - Thinks I Need Christian Conversion Therapy - Wants an Appoligy - OMG

Brother in law - Thinks and agrees with My Sister

Brother - Want's to Physically Hurt Me - Wants An Appology with no Thought of any Wrong Doing - OMG

Sister inlaw - Feels Exactly the way my Brother Does - Self Confessed Author of Said Extortion Letter , No Appoligy / No Guilt - OMG

Uncle - Praying for my Lost Soul , With the Saint Judes Prayer of Lost Souls , Devout Catholic

Aunt # 1 - Wants Nothing to Do with Me - Never Said One Word Too Her ? - Regarding the Transgender Issue

Cousin of Aunt # 1- Hates Me also & I Never have said one word to Her either

Aunt # 2 - Neutral

Aunt # 3 - Is Accepting & Apoligising to me for our Family

Cousin of Aunt # 3 - Supportive & Understanding

Niece # 2 of 3 of brother & Sister inlaw - Supportive & Understanding - However my other 2 Nieces want nothing to do with Me 

Rest of the family is taking a No Contact Approach

 

this is Just My Family or should I say ? - My Ex Family Mostly

 

Inlaws

Mother inlaw - Devout Mormon - Wasn't accepting until Pamela Jean & Her had a Heart to Heart Discussions just Months before Pamela Jean's Untimely Passing - Now Supportive

Pam's Oldest Sister - wants Almost nothing to do with Me

Her Husband - Devout TED CRUZ right Wing Conservative - Wants Nothing to do with Me

Pam's Middle Sister - Is mostly Supportive

Her Boyfriend - is also Supportive

Niece - Very Supportive

Aunt - Awesomely And Wonderfully Supportive

Rest of the Family is all over the Scale , From A little Supportive too Not supportive At ALL

 

StacieLeelah

Reagan Jean

Shelby'Anne Kelcee

 

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It certainly sounds like you need to consider distancing yourself from a number of these people.  They don't contribute to your health in any way.  

 

Jani

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Their has been virtually NO contact , with Almost ALL OF THE negative Family MEMBERS , N

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