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Happy Turkey Day to our friends here in the US!  Happy Thursday to our friends elsewhere!  Just a quick note to say how thankful I am to be part of such a genuinely caring community!

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Thank you Dev.  Regardless of where we are being thankful is a great feeling.  Gratitude takes me away from concentrating on the negative to find whatever beauty and peace i can find in my life.

I echo the gratitude Dev shared for this caring community of folks with whom i share so many struggles, so much growth and so much joy at simply being ourselves.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Thank you.  I hope you have an enjoyable day with loved ones. 

 

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I’m Very thankful to be on this journey which I never dreamed to be possible And to have found such a warm and comforting community. The acceptance and compassion shown here has been an amazing experience And to that I say

Thank you ! May your day be filled with love and warmth 

             Happy Thanksgiving 

                             Sharon Aml

 

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Happy Thanksgiving right back at ya, and to everyone! When I found you all, you pulled me out of the emotional gutter I was in. I am very thankful to call all of you my family!

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf???

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Thank you, Dev, and Happy Thanksgiving to all our American members, and best wishes to all our members from around the world.  I hope that everyone has something to be thankful for.  I am thankful I belong to this wonderful community.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Thank you Dev. Happy thanksgiving everyone. I am thankful to be a part of this community and the journey I am on. I know I draw strength from the story's shared here and hope to help someone else with my stories. 

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This morning I realized this is the first time in 7 years I haven't wished all the people here Happy Thanksgiving!

I hope you all had a very Happy Thanksgiving. That thanksgiving I was first here wasn't actually a very happy one for me. I was essentially bedridden and dying. Couldn't walk unassisted even to the front of my own home. My granddaughter's father had just arrived and I was relieved because it meant I could let go and not fight the fast approaching end. Since then almost everyone who knew me then has told me they had not expected me to last mire than a few more weeks I didn't either. I was grateful to have discovered who I was at last and the good people here but it was just too late for me. I was too old and too physically broken to consider transition. It was in fact the worst Thanksgiving of my life. At an all time low physically and financially. We had also been without transportation living several miles in the country until he arrived.

 

But it rapidly became apparent with his arrival instead of someone in whose hands I could leave my family he had conned us and posed an enormous threat to both my daughter and granddaughter. By January I had decided I had to try to transition. I really didn't have anything to lose. I started hormones in March.

 

This year I was in a near accident when someone fell asleep at the wheel and injured my back and have a very bad cold but it is still a very good time. My granddaughter's father committed suicide 3 1/2 years ago after he had been out of our house for awhile. He was trying to go cold turkey off meth (Which we never knew he used till after he died) and drinking heavily at the time. Now my daughter is about to graduate from college with honors and my granddaughter will graduate this spring. After years of fighting to get her to work in school (She has an estimated IQ of 200 which is a curse rather than a blessing as far as school is concerned) we finally found the right path and she is making honor roll this year. We went to our beloved Texas Renaissance Festival a couple of weeks ago. I'm fit and active and enjoy directing plays though after months working on a very successful My Fair Lady I;m very much enjoying a break from theater for a few weeks anyway. Haven't been misgendered in years and have actually had to argue with people that I am me and not born male in a couple of instances where disclosure was necessary.

 

All in all I am very, very blessed. And none of it would have happened without the caring and support I found here in the dark times and in the stress and fear of transition. And I know that no matter how long I am gone or busy I get in my life there are people here who will welcome me and be there if I need them.

Thank you all. I didn't get by yesterday to say it but I remembered and I am very thankful for each of you.

My Renaissance Festival persona

 

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And everyday life in the woods

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I'm wearing the local uniform of plaid flannel even though I once swore Id never succumb. Life can be funny that way. 

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JJ you do look great; nice and comfortable.  As the saying goes, sometimes we have to hit bottom before we can rise up.  You certainly have made great strides.  Thanks for the update. 

 

Jani

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Happy Thanksgiving evryone!! Yesterday was so busy, I slept in until 9:00....BTW JJ-- Here is my Renfest persona: The merchants daughter:

 

 

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