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I am nearing 5 years post and for the last three months I have been having a problem with some irritation and rawness in the skin at the upper part of my vulva that has been darn near as uncomfortable as it was in my first couple of months after my surgery. I had had it checked out three weeks ago by my Gynecologist who could not find a reason in either a bacterial or fungus infection nor did it appear to be eczema which I have in other body areas. I wear the plainest white cotton underpants most of the time and they were getting a discharge stain on them which she noticed, but said looked and smelled about normal for a woman my age. My internal moisture levels seemed good and the vaginal lining was in good shape, so the doctor was a puzzled as I was, but she was not the one with the discomfort.


Last Wednesday before U.S. Thanksgiving, I was in good old Wal-Mart and decided to pick up two 6 packs of the underwear I do use. I was in a hurry and thought I had grabbed my usual size, but had some other stuff that I needed with higher priority. On Friday I opened one of the packages and dumped the contents into my washer, as I do with new underwear, and Saturday grabbed one of the laundered new pants, put it on and noticed by the end of the day that I was feeling better down south. Sunday, I put on another pair of them, and things really seemed better and MUCH more comfortable. WOW!!


Yesterday (Monday) morning I ran across the packaging the new underwear came in and I discovered to my surprise that I had bought A SIZE LARGER THAN I HAD BEEN WEARING. Yep, I had put on some weight and the old ones had been causing the problem by being too tight!! I e-mailed my Gyno, and she may stop laughing in an hour or so. SIGH.

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We do live and learn.  The thing is, it's not obvious.  I hope you don't feel too bad for the delay in realizing the answer.

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34 minutes ago, Dev said:

I hope you don't feel too bad for the delay in realizing the answer.


Diet and more exercise time is upon me!!  I am actually laughing about the SOLUTION to the problem, humility is good for me.

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I am going to put this in the tickler file if I gain weight....starting to exercise again and watch what I eat. Because since becoming post op it seems that if I don't do both, I will gain weight.

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In the future hoping to laugh some more after you realise they are round your ankles in the mart after you have lost weight :o :D


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