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A former coworker decided to out me with this It backfired

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A former coworker tried to out me with this http://www.newsoptimist.ca/news/local-news/transgender-day-of-remembrance-marked-1.23102077                         While I was off work for a surgery ans subsiquent DVT today I needed to drop off some papers at work and one of my coworkers said so you were in the paper I cautiously replied yes he said k------ sent us the picture so everyone at work knows and are fine with it my foreman said I cant wear shirts in the shop I still have to deal with HR but I was getting that in place already 

 

    bobbisue:)

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MaryEllen

LOL  Sure looks like it backfired on your ex coworker. I'm glad to hear that it went well for you. :)

 

MaryEllen

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Carolyn Marie

That's great, BobbiSue, that your colleagues are so supportive.  Congrats!

 

I had a similar experience.  My ex-supervisor found out about my pending transition before HR and I were ready to announce it.  He went to my former colleagues he thought would be of like mind and outed me.  Every single one he approached wouldn't bite, and in turn told HR and me what he was trying to do.  He got caught red handed, but management protected him and he didn't suffer for it.  But he, and I, found out who the staff was really loyal to.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Timber Wolf

I'm happy to hear things went as well as they did.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf🐾

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tracy_j

I'm glad Bobbisue :)

 

I think the one time it may have happened to me was when people at work and in my art group said that I had been caught on TV when in the city. As perhaps the first place 'Tracy' was mentioned by me by name was at work some time previous it was irrelevant no matter how I was dressed, but it shows that things can become public in an instant.

 

Tracy

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CyndiRae

Now you can be yourself at work Bobbisue, good for you.

 

Hugs

 

C -

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Charlize

That's wonderful!  Odd how accidents and the acts of others can bring us closer th being able to be ourselves as we wish.  I'm glad it went so well for you!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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bobbisue

    Thank you ladies for your support  When I return to work it will be with my head held high after all I am above all a lady

 

 

    bobbisue:)

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Gwen

This was a real milestone, Bobbiesue. And what a wonderful outcome! You now have one more area of your life where you can feel safe.

 

Hugs,

Gwen

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