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Male-To-Female Transgender Woman Crossdressing For A Beginner Trans Woman

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Belladonnakarapinskia

Okay, fellow trans guys and fellow trans girls, this is like my introduction, my coming out and my journey into being a bubbly, brazen and bold trans woman, I am, through assisting me on crossdressing, I started with panties, bras and jewellery, bras are hard to strap-on, cis girls are sssooo right, men don't know what its like to apply it and to wear it, jewellery, such as earrings are hard to maintain, especially at home with my parents, wearing woman's pants, woman's tops and stockings were sssooo right and sssooo comfortable, but I can't go full-time at home, being a girl is harder to maintain since, my parents know me as a guy, they want me to stay as a guy, maintaining myself as a girl is hard, yet I feel sssooo much more in-tune with my natural environment, I'm a calmer, sweeter and gentler individual person, I can't date guys and love find a future husband, so general hygiene, parents concern and societal pressure to conform to being a man are all aspects we as trans girls go through, I once wore a red wooly sweater and my hobo bag into the city, on a bus and other cis individual persons stood away from me, I was deeply embarassed and very hurt by the experience, I started to cry, but maintained my composure and straightened my slouching upper-body, this isn't a coherent post, but help with a procedure I should follow, clothes I should start with and what I should be like when dressed as a trans girl, kind of a stupid point to address, but mannerisms are everything to pre-estrogen supplement and to pre-testosterone blockers, I know this post is a bit of a ramble, rant and rave, but I don't know what to do to become to full-fledged lady I am, I'm going to see a gender therapist in the city, but the last time I went I was dressed as a man, I don't think the girl interviewing me took me seriously and I never followed-up, this was on either the 4th may 2016 or the 5th may 2016, possibly immediately after those dates, I bought a mesh-mash of clothes that do bit my fat waist, a blue sparkly t-shirt, a size twelve pair of black pants, various panties, all fit my genitalia/appendage, some snugger than others, fake diamond earrings, which are all broken and stockings, some are broken and some are not broken, any advice for any clothes I should buy, that would be smart-casual for a young woman entering the workplace, which will make me look legitimate in her/his eyes?, even if I have to buy them from a thrift shop, I'll bend-over backwards to start my transition, please help me, my appointment is on the 31st january 2018, sorry about my inconsistent writing/typing

 

 

Love

B.K.D

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VickySGV

If this is a Gender Therapist you are going to see, what you wear will not be nearly as important as what you do discuss with the Therapist.  What you will discuss are feelings involving more than just how it feels to wear certain clothing.  I can dress in very male clothing and still feel that my authentic self is out in the open living her life, so the clothing to me is not the big deal.  I am a survivor of surgery and love it that I do fit into and  what people can be unafraid of.  The appointment on 31 January may be the first of many unless you quit, so don't over-think things.

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Guest Rachel Gia

Hi There!

I was not required to see a gender therapist but my first appointment was an intake with a health care professional at which time I also met and I believe assessed by another nurse at that time.. I am not sure as it was a bit of a blur of emotions for me.

I had been at work so I was not really dressed however at that time I had been wearing women's jeans for some time and had both my ears pierced. After a series of questions I just started telling my story and they let me run with it as it was clear they would get what they needed to know by doing so. I was unbridled and I would have say the most authentic I had ever been in my life..

When later my assessment started with my transition doctor I purchased a new pair of nice jeans and wore a top I felt comfortable in. I was going to a trans support group before and knew what I wanted to present in because the support group was a place I could be out and it gave me the opportunity to feel comfortable on the street. It was made easier as the meeting and the clinic I go to is basically in the Rainbow district of Vancouver which is incredibly safe to present in.

In agreement with what Vicky wrote I found it was more about being authentic  (there's that word again) and telling your truth rather than trying to convince them or saying or doing what you think they want to hear.

Rachel

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Belladonnakarapinskia

Thank you both for replying to me, when I did go initially in early-mid 2016, I got this girl who spoke with me for about two hours, I had thought I had covered all aspects that were necessary to begin my transition, we parted, a colleague of hers drove me to this charity shop, that has a lot of trans woman shoppers, I walked in, after a bit of a tissy, I was escorted-out by an older volunteer trans woman, since I hadn't dressed in feminine attire, we spoke for at least three hours, we then parted, I felt humiliated, I hadn't even got to see the gender therapist I had sought, the one who was there was leaving, another gender therapist was being sought, yet they would take three months before adjusting to the role, I came back toward the end of 2016, I wore a wooly red sweater and my hobo bag too and from, I was terrified, now I'm trying again at the same place, it is a gender clinic, I was interviewed by one of the receptionist and was hoping to see a gender therapist, this will be my third attempt, I hope all my affairs are smooth, they too have a young trans woman's support group, I didn't want to attend, since I want to be fairly independent of most other individual persons, I might attend now, I use to wear my woman's underwear under my men's clothing, but since I hadn't been able to maintain a routine, its been difficult to maintain my hygiene standards that I maintain when I'm studying, so I've stopped crossdressing since early february 2017, I'm just babbling, but I will just come in my woman's clothing, hopefully everything will be okay, thank you ladies for replying to my post

 

 

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B.D.K

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Guest Rachel Gia

Hi again:)

I really hope it works out for you !

You sound like you really want this to happen.

By the time I did my first intake I was already starting hair removal and when I saw my transition doctor for the first time I had switched to a very well known laser clinic looking for better results.

In some ways I think our community can display some unkind behavior to people beginning their journey and your experience at the thrift shop sounds awful!

After buying the wrong foundation shade I had a makeup clerk help me find a shade that matches my skin tone. At the time I did not state i was Trans but I do now in almost every purchase. This breaks the ice and in fact usually ends up in a goody bag full of samples including hi end scents.

I had also been shaving my legs and arms on a weekly basis for 12 years and had shaped what facial hair into female length side burns.

It sounds like you're a student so cash flow probably does not include hair removal but good foundation helps, however setting powders tend to highlight the shadow for some reason.

A matting agent helps a lot and gives a nice finish. Use a brush to remove the excess.

The routine is usually, shave and wash, use a toner and then a moisterizer that does not sting, a foundation after all this sets and then a matting lotion. By getting to know the clerks in the makeup dept you will not waste your money on stuff that clashes with your skin chemistry. in short "being out" saves cash and usually results in a better shopping experience.

Dermablend is kind of the "go to" foundation and concealer and there is a professional line as well which is what I use and it is amazing!

Pricey but it is a better value than anything else I have tried.

Remove all the gunk before you go to bed and apply a night cream.

This is what women do so its a good thing to get used to

 

Cheers Rachel

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Belladonnakarapinskia

I am trying to understand how make-up is applied rachel, its a journey, I will keep your thoughts and feelings in mind as I start to dress full-time and begin my estrogen supplements and testosterone blockers, thank you sweetie, for sharing your thoughts and feelings with me

 

 

Love

B.D.K

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I am still learning but it was a video by Andrea James and Calpurnia Adams that helped the most.

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