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Life Begins at the End of Your Comfort Zone

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Jani423

This is a short 9 minute TED Talk that I recently found.  While it is not specifically about Trans* experience, you can see how it fits in many of the scenarios the presenter describes.  All of us that have taken the plunge and proceeded with transition have been forced to the edge of our comfort zone.  I know I have found that its where life begins.  Enjoy.   

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cmN4xOGkxGo

 

Jani

 

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Charlize

Thanks Jani.  I certainly enjoyed that and will try to keep it in mind.  Fear has so often ruled my life.  Letting go takes practice!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Gwen

Jani, this is so true. I've lived in a "safe" zone for most of my adult years, but now feel myself bumping up against my comfort zone weekly. I think most of it is anticipatory anxiety keeping me check and as I move through the fear I feel a sense of liberation. And life on the other side of it is much more enjoyable.

 

Yay to letting go :)

 

Gwen

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Jani423

Yes we are all ruled by fear.  We all like to be comfortable and stress free but as we have all seen life doesn't always work that way.  

4 hours ago, Gwen said:

And life on the other side of it is much more enjoyable.

So true! 

 

Jani

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SugarMagnolia

This was REALLY good. Thank you. 

It reminded me of another one, somewhat similar, that touches on how being vulnerable is a key requirement for being able to feel connected. 
 

 

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TessaOKC
4 hours ago, SugarMagnolia said:

It reminded me of another one, somewhat similar, that touches on how being vulnerable is a key requirement for being able to feel connected. 

I watched both videos and both are profound in their own ways. I was especially intrigued with the vulnerable video and never realized that remaining vulnerable is a necessary ingredient for happiness.

 

Thank you Jani for getting this conversation started. Well worth it!!!

 

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Jani423

Sugar, this was a wonderful talk.  It touched upon many things that I knew but didn't want to admit, or was afraid to.  I liked that she spoke of something I have said for years, that we cannot be compassionate towards others until we can be kind to ourselves.  That is we need to love ourselves, and who we are.  Thanks. 

 

Jani 

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Charlize

I loved this conversation.  I remember coming into recovery in the rooms of AA.  I was told: "welcome, we will love you until you can love yourself"  Finding that knowledge that i'm ok simply being myself is well worth striving for.

This took me time, just as it did the speaker, and it is something i must remember each day.

 

Thanks for sharing it Sugar

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Jani423

To all my friends here.

12 hours ago, Charlize said:

"welcome, we will love you until you can love yourself"

And I will add "then we will love you some more."

 

Jani

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