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Dilating through pelvic floor

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Renae

I'm two weeks post op (yay!).  I just had surgical follow up and they say that I have some granulation tissue and areas where the graft didn't take, everything looks good and should heal well.  Nevertheless I am only dilating to, but not through, the pelvic floor.  I seem to be able to relax just fine, but no go.  I bounce off it like a trampoline.  We did another dilation in clinic and the surgery team says maybe I never will get that far, but to keep trying.  I bought the smallest (7/8") Soul Source dilator and I use it before starting in with my 1 1/8" .  I think, but I'm not sure, that the SS dilator gets through just at the tip.

 

It won't be the worst thing in the world if I don't have a 5-6" cavity, but I'm doing my best to achieve what I can.  Has anyone here had similar experience?  How did it play out in the long run?

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VickySGV

You are early in the game and it takes nearly six months to really find out how and what you are inside.  The term pelvic floor has several meanings so I cannot answer you exact question there.  The place that does cause some problems at first is a ring of tissue  at the entry to the vaginal cavity, and when you have permission, it is ok to stretch that ring with your dilator by playing with it.  Also, be careful of the angle you insert it at.  I would suggest putting a thick heavy folded beach towel under your hips to point you up a bit.  I actually had my dilator missing the V hole and ramming into my clitoral hood for a few times, that was no fun.

 

If you have the curved tip dilators, rotating them side to side will help smooth the skin inside which can get pinched if you slide straight in.  Good luck and patience are a girls best friend.

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Renae

By pelvic floor, I mean the pubococcygeal muscles.

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VickySGV
Just now, Renae said:

I mean the pubococcygeal muscles.

 

(And I thought I used big words)  --- I actually had to look that one up, but yes it refers to the "ring" around the vaginal opening inside you labia that I mentioned above.  Your surgeon split the muscle around your vaginal cavity and a combination of swelling and the fact that what you feel at the moment is not what you are actually dealing with can be confusing and you try pushing at the wrong angle on top of one side of the muscle or the other.  I have to wiggle my dilator around some times to move things apart, and that is at 5 years post op.  Gentle probing and some deep breathing with your fanny a little up will get you in and going.

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MarcieMarie12

I was thinking it was the pelvic bone, I can get it in that far--but my big limitations in terms of depth is just the size of my pelvic area.  My surgery was August first, so I am at about 9 months. It does get easier, it just takes a while for the swelling to go down. I would say I am 95+% healed at this point. Still get sore at times due to dilation.

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