It just gets better. At about 4 months or so I found it more comfortable to wear a sports bra than to go without, and now can wear a push up bra. This really helps especially if there are mirrors around.
Can I say triple baloney! I started hrt at age 58 and lots of good things have happened. I have had a couple of minor detours along the way but progress continues. It’s been said before that it’s not a race as the first one there wins, it’s more of a way to help you see that life is worth the struggle and good things will happen.
I will say you have a good boss who is open minded and willing to help. Bravo.
Regardless of your profession some people you tell will be "uncomfortable" and they will tend to ignore you which is much better than them getting aggressive. Reaching out in a friendly manner might just break the ice. Let us know how it works out.
DenimAndLace , it is difficult when people choose to have nothing to do with us. It’s good to hear that some of your family supports you.
My mother In law has not talked to me 4 times since my sister in law told her at New Years. In the time since Patti (my wife) died we had talked on the phone 6 nights a week and went to lunch on sundays.
If they are still talking to you ask them this;
If I was in a car crash and my face dis figured would you still love me?
If I was suffering from a life threatening disease would you still love me?
I (we) are still the same person I just look different. So since I look different you no longer wish to talk to me. Why?
Look for a Pflag group near you. Groups help I go to three different groups they help a lot. The common theme that I can see is no one says they are going to give up. Just being with people helps and gives me support.
I hope things get better for you.
I'm not going to beat up on you but you should know that there is no such thing as a "typical" hormone regime. What may be good for one could be lethal to another. Something you should think about.
Was wondering if anyone else out there in LE or EMS field up for talking about stuff. Any positive experiences? Maybe suggestions to deal with neg experiences or how you delt with certain situations?
Last year when I started my hrt, I talked to my boss and let him know I started taking T. I felt obligated because of mand. random drug testing. Not to mention the physical changes.
I was really nervous not knowing what the reaction was going to be. My mouth became really dry. But I mustard up enough guts to talk to him and I was pleasantly suprised.
Long story short, my boss was supportive and said I could have a locker in the mens locker room next to his. I was like wow!! I chose not to have a locker in either locker room but the gesture was really nice and is open ended.
So my boss was like ... so what do we do now? I was like ... I don't know since it's new to me too. We chuckled over it. I told my boss I will get in touch with HR and it seemed to be important to let my LT know as well so we are all on the same page.
I also changed my first and middle name which took some time for everone to get use to. I have to say, not very many people asked "why" which I guess suprised me. I thought I would have to explain over and over again but that wasn't the case. Im sure people wondered but kept the question to themselves.
Every now and then I come across someone I havent seen in a long time and have to let them know. Some whom I've known for a long time seemed to avoid me. Maybe I'm inadvertently avoiding them which from my view, feels like they avoid me. I'll have to make a concience effort to reach out to them and see what happens. That may alleviate some of my insecurities.
My next challenge is to address the pronoun hurdle. I've been having a really hard time getting over that wall. A name change is one thing but a pronoun change?
To be continued ...
Awesome. What you end up with hard to predict. I don't carry much body fat so what I have is tissue with little added fat cushion. As time moves on growth with occur then rest. Don't be alarmed. Remember puberty is a multi year event!