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Jcs2017

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Hello everyone,

I started my career as a police officer about 10yrs ago and b4 that I was a 911 dispatcher with the same company. I started my transition on the job and officially 1yr on T.   I can honestly say for the first time in a long time I LOVE WHO I AM!!  I started my transition later in life at 41 (about to be 42 yikes!!).  Ive always been a "late bloomer".  

 

My experience so far has been interesting since I've never done this b4 (lol) and it seems to be rare to transition on the job in the emergency field ... at least in the area where I live.  

 

I feel blessed so far that my experiences with coworkers has been good for the most part.  My reputation was good b4 I started my transition and I think that helped a lot.  Its all so new... kind of uncharted territory so far.  I know of one other ofcr who is transitioning on the job but he's about 2yrs into it and has taken steps I have taken yet.  He's brave and succeeding very well so far.  

 

There is much to talk about.  As LE/EMS, we can help each other with unique issues that come along with transitioning in this particular line of work.

 

Lets stay positive and encourage each other to be the best we can be.  This will translate to our work with the public and have a positive impact in our society.

 

Jcs2017

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Drea

I know quite a few LEOs who have transitioned.  Some with more issues than others but most seemed to be making it work.

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Timber Wolf

I'm glad to hear things are going well with work and transition. 

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf🐾

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Jani

Hello JCS and welcome.  At your young age, you're not a late bloomer!  There have been several good articles in the press over the last couple years about LEO/EMS transitioners and the stories were positive.  IIRC the last one I read was in either AZ or CO.  What kind of specific issues did you run into?    That's great that someone was ahead of you to open doors so to say.  

 

Jani

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Jcs2017

Issues I've run into:

 

Squad mate: Can you search my female prisoner?

Me:  You'll have to ask for a female ofcr 

Squad mate: huh?  Uuhh...ok.  

 

Citizen: Hello Officer. Listen sir I got this problem ...

Me and citizen:  (problem solving)

My backup arrives and partakes in convo...

My backup: Like she (refering to me) said it's a civil issue best handled through the courts.

Citizen: expression of "uh?" and looks at me. 

Me with a smile out of embarrassment:  is there anything else we can help with? (I got called out - I'm ready to leave and crawl in a hole).

Citizen:  Naw man.  You've been helpful bruh.  

Citizen looks at my squad mate like hes the confused one.  

 

Me: collecting personal stuff from locker assigned years ago in womans locker room.

Squad mate:  Where you goin? 

Me: just clearing some stuff out...spring cleaning.

Squad mate: cool

Me: (my car has become my locker)

Squad mate next shift:  looks at me a little puzzled while im getting dressed out from my car in the parking lot. 

 

Me: too much coffee today and i have to pee.  Go through my mental map of places in the area with single stall bathrooms used by males and females and pray I find one soon.  Otherwise I hold it until I pretty much cant anymore.  

 

Me:  This color of tie is perfect for court. 

Acquaintance ofcrs:  When did females start wearing ties to court?

 

Its interesting how everday things a person would not think twice about can be a trigger. I have a lot of internal anxiety.  I've found myself feeling secluded but I've recognized its self induced so I can avoid interactions like above.  Its not healthy though.  One, its lonely.  Two, your squad mates know somethings going on but they arent quite sure.

 

I hope over time scenarios like above will cease once I either out myself or I pass 100%.  

 

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Jani

Concerning lockers and finding a place to release yourself, has your department offered any support in these areas? 

 

13 minutes ago, Jcs2017 said:

I've found myself feeling secluded

Unfortunately this can be quite common as other folks may be uncomfortable and we may also be uncomfortable with others.  Sometimes it's best just to get it out there and move on confidently.  Sounds hard but once the initial fear is broached it gets easier.  In that regard your career choice is no different than others, although there may be macho behaviors to contend with.  But with the inclusion of more diversity training this might change.  

 

Thanks for your thoughts on this subject. 

 

Jani

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Jcs2017

Fortunately the precincts have a "decon" room where its a single bathroom/shower accessible to everyone.  This is the bathroom I use.  I'm thankful I noticed it one day because I never used it...never had to. That was my solution to using a restroom at work.  Works out great :)

 

Anyone else out there do something different?

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