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Hi everyone, I am a long time crossdressèr who lives alone after a 30 year failed marriage. I am medically retired and also too old to start hormone therapy so crossdressing and make up is the only way I can be the woman I was meant to be. Living in Ireland was a difficult situation for someone with thoughts of having a sex change. Even condoms were illegal until the 70s. I threw myself into marriage and had five wonderful children who are now aware of my situation. My ex wife was a tyrant and it saved my life when I separated from her. As I live alone I dress up each day as soon as I come home. It changes my attitude immediately and I honestly become a woman for 80% of my life now. I'd love to chat with people here about all things and look forward to hearing from you all. The picture I uploaded is me in the office with light makeup and lippy. 

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Welcome, Lisa!  I'm glad you have joined us.

 

I don't know your situation regarding access to transgender medical treatment, but your picture doesn't indicate that you're too old to start hormone therapy.  Many of us (myself included) began it late in life.

 

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I began living full time at age 63 and had GCS a few days after 65, which was five years ago.  My GCS surgeon has had one patient who was 80+, and at that not the oldest person on record.  I got called a liar the other day for telling someone my age and they had me pegged at 20 years younger and would not budge on it.  (SMILE).  Never too old to live your truth and be happy. 

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Welcome to our forums Lisa. Finding your personal comfort zone is where it's at.

 

Lot's of us enjoying our later years here. I started transition in my early 50's. Living comfortably and life is indeed good.

 

Hugs

 

Cyndi -

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Welcome Lisa. I began my transition last year at 69. Looking forward to getting to know you.

 

hug,

Bramdi

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Hi Lisa,

No, you're not too old. But whatever makes your feel like yourself and happy is great. Not all of us have gone the route of HRT and GCS, myself included. It's ok either way!

 

Welcome to TransPulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf?

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I always look at things as never too old for change. Apart from any trans issues, I have made positive changes several times in my life. It's a bit unnerving but it can work well.  Whatever you do - welcome Lisa :) x

 

Tracy

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Welcome Lisa.  I was also one of those who transitioned late in life.  I was 63 when i went full time and now that i'm almost 70 i have no regrets.  I'm living the life i had in my dreams and every day is a treat.  Many of us can't have every surgery and some can't even get hormone treatment but simply living as myself without the shame and fear i  lived with makes life wonderful.

You are not alone!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Hi, Lisa!

 

I'm new to TransPulse and agree with everyone else that you are not (even close) to being too old to transition.  I am just beginning my transition this year and am turning 60.  Like you and many others, I thought it was too late.  After devouring tons of research, what everyone "up there" says is true:  LOTS of us are doing it.  Watch "Gender Revolution" on Netflix, if you can; it shows older folks and mentions a surgeon with an 86 year old patient. 

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Hi Lisa having started the process myself here are a few tips,

 

First talk to your Gp get refered to a mental health person, they will refer you to a phychiatrist  who deals with gender issues,  generally they make you speak to two of them and if they feel you are in the spectrum then you can get refered to get hormones through a endocrinologist there is a really good one in galway she is Dr Marcia Bell and she deals with transgendered persons. unlike uk they do not expect you to live in the role for 2 years to start hormones but they do expect it if you want surgery, I suppose everyone is more androgunous these days but I did come across a "old school" phychiatrist who expected me to present as female.

 

On top pf that you can legally change your gender and name https://www.welfare.ie/en/Pages/GRC1.aspx

 

Its a simple process its what I did first.

 

Good look with your journey and if you need any advice look me up

 

Love Keira

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Just now, KeiraC said:

Hi Lisa having started the process myself here are a few tips,

 

First talk to your Gp get refered to a mental health person, they will refer you to a phychiatrist  who deals with gender issues,  generally they make you speak to two of them and if they feel you are in the spectrum then you can get refered to get hormones through a endocrinologist there is a really good one in galway she is Dr Marcia Bell and she deals with transgendered persons. unlike uk they do not expect you to live in the role for 2 years to start hormones but they do expect it if you want surgery, I suppose everyone is more androgunous these days but I did come across a "old school" phychiatrist who expected me to present as female.

 

On top pf that you can legally change your gender and name https://www.welfare.ie/en/Pages/GRC1.aspx

 

Its a simple process its what I did first.

 

Good look with your journey and if you need any advice look me up

 

Love Keira

much the same in wales

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On 4/24/2018 at 1:39 AM, StrainAsylum said:

Hi, Lisa!

 

I'm new to TransPulse and agree with everyone else that you are not (even close) to being too old to transition.  I am just beginning my transition this year and am turning 60.  Like you and many others, I thought it was too late.  After devouring tons of research, what everyone "up there" says is true:  LOTS of us are doing it.  Watch "Gender Revolution" on Netflix, if you can; it shows older folks and mentions a surgeon with an 86 year old patient. 

 

On 4/24/2018 at 1:39 AM, StrainAsylum said:

Hi, Lisa!

 

I'm new to TransPulse and agree with everyone else that you are not (even close) to being too old to transition.  I am just beginning my transition this year and am turning 60.  Like you and many others, I thought it was too late.  After devouring tons of research, what everyone "up there" says is true:  LOTS of us are doing it.  Watch "Gender Revolution" on Netflix, if you can; it shows older folks and mentions a surgeon with an 86 year old patient. 

hi lisa you never too old to transition just enjoy the journey to becoming you

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