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Those of us blessed to have children - no matter what our relationship with them might be now - can take some pride in knowing we have made a contribution to the future of our societies.

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I am a dad of 3 and already a grandfather too.My 21 year old daughter,19 and 17 year old sons have been good to me and we do have a good relationship.I have a 3 year old grandson already from my daughter.

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 Hi Kenna,

 Happy Father’s Day to you too !

 I’m looking forward to going to my favorite breakfast place with my girls even if my wife and I are now legally separated. I often wonder what will we call Father’s Day in a few years when I’m no longer a man? I know that my wife worries that I will start to usurp anything that has something to do with the title mother, but that couldn’t be further from the truth, I was not a mother, I am not a mother now and I won’t be a mother in the future, so Father’s Day is what I have and I’m quite glad to keep it. I have two wonderful daughters, even if they’re both struggling with my identity, they both love me and with time I’m sure they will be able To continue having a good relationship with me. My oldest is nearly 30, and I think I’m going to call her this morning to see how she’s doing, she lives many miles away and we talk when we can, but things have been strained since I came out to her. My youngest struggles as well, but honestly I think she’s doing better than my older daughter, I worry greatly about how my decision to transition will affect her young Teenage life going forward. At any rate I’m going to order something yummy for myself at breakfast, enjoy the company and have a pleasant day. Then I plan on doing a little shopping, I need to make myself a list for target, as I need a lot of homeware and kitchenware needs, even if I’m on a very strict budget.

 Happy Father’s Day to everyone!

Hugs,

Jackie

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I'm sitting here with our surviving son and one of the two grandchildren.  I feel blessed to have them.  As to the day...... i guess i've always been both a dad to start things rolling and pretty good at being a nurturing mom as well.

 

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Charlize

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Today has been a great father's day for me,3 great gifts and cards.My 21 year old daughter including my 19 and 17 year old sons were over for breakfast.Included my 3 year old grandson.My daughter' fiancé was there too,found out he proposed to her Friday night and she said yes.They have been together for 5 years.Plus I am going to be a grandfather again,excited.My daughter and fiancé found out she is pregnant with their second child on Thursday.My 19 year old son and his girlfriend of 2 years found out she is pregnant on Friday,their first child.Good thing is my son is taking responsibility and stepping up,I raised my 2 sons right to be this way. 

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My daughter in law sent me a photo of her first scan for father's day. To have a grandchild - made my day. Fingers crossed! Have a lovely day everyone x

 

Tracy

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8 minutes ago, tracy_j said:

My daughter in law sent me a photo of her first scan for father's day. To have a grandchild - made my day. Fingers crossed! Have a lovely day everyone x

 

Tracy

It did for me too,My daughter and oldest son knew this would be a great father's day gift to me.Is in my post

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Congratulations Tracy and Korey!  My youngest grand daughter's birthday is this week so we all celebrated today at a BBQ at my son's house.  A nice time!!

 

Jani

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10 minutes ago, Jani said:

Congratulations Tracy and Korey!  My youngest grand daughter's birthday is this week so we all celebrated today at a BBQ at my son's house.  A nice time!!

 

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Thanks and my daughter says I am a very good grand parent spoiling her son.I am going to walk my daughter down the aisle too,wedding is going to be next year.Oldest son and his girlfriend did plan theirs out,said they wanted to have a child together.Learned from my mistakes,I was 18 when my daughter was born not being smart

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This was a nice family day for me, NO DYSPHORIA.

 

In the past this day observed would be one of the nastiest triggers for me. I now measure the effectiveness of my treatments and solutions against how well I do on this day.

 

I do not deny my daughters their "Dad", and now I can actually embrace this title once again (dad is a girl), it's been very hard to get to this point. There was a time, when I simply blocked out everything that might be construed in this context, how odd, social role dysphoria really sucks, and I've largely conquered it today. This was not easy.

 

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Father’s Day is weird now. My son told me the other day that even if I looked like a swimsuit model he’s still gonna call me dad. And I’ll always be dad. It’s the one part of my life I have always taken pride in. And I’m ok with that. 

But it does seem almost wrong to celebrate it. To work so hard to leave all of the male behind and still cling to this male only holiday is at best extremely confusing. We ended up calling it parents day instead of father’s day. But really it’s still father’s day. And I’d hate to loose my day. But for me, I just don’t see myself celebrating next year. 

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I don't like celebrating it either, but I never did.  I told my son years ago I will always be his dad and be here for him.  

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These two little guys are such a great part of my life.  Seeing them made it a happy day.  I'm lucky they live on the farm.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

Eric+Evan on tractor - 1.jpg

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Oh Charlize, they are just adorable ?

 

When you step back and look at things, and realize the differences in our world are because of you, your actions that have brought us here to the "here and now"

 

Hugs

 

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A lovely picture Charlize. It brings back memories of me  and my brother when we were young. We grew up around a farm too and our playground was the farm. That picture could have been taken of us many times, although I don't think one ever was. Cameras were far less used in those days, for daily life.

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