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Alex Skelton

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Hello guys! Im Alex. Im a new member here. For the past two years ive been identifying myself as a trans male and ive always have had a problem with picking a name. My friend helped me choose Alexander as my name but i still feel like there is a better name out there for me. We chose Alexander because Im a really big Hamilton fan but i still feel like i need another name? Do you guys have any suggestions? Here are some photos of me.

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I'll give you my old name since I don't use it anymore!

Very nice Pics! You even look like a younger male me!

Hugs,

Jackie

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I think that the name you choose should be a personal decision. Think of the names that you find that you like and find the one that feels right. I know I went through probably over a half dozen names before I settled on Brandi. You will know when you find that "right" name.

Your pics are great!

Hugs,

Brandi

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Yes a name that sounds like you is the best.  I can only say you will know it when you hear it.  Another option, if your parents are accepting is to ask what boys name(s) they had chosen at the time of your birth.  A lot of parents select a male and a female name, just in case.  

 

Jani

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Personally I went through a list of a thousand names and wrote down ones that I liked.  Then I narrowed that list down until I had just two.  Then I picked the one I liked the best for me .  That's the same way many people pick names for their children.  Take your time, don't try to do it in one day.  You'll find the perfect name if you give yourself a chance.

 

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Here's what I did:

I had just come out, and I was on an activism journey. I had a pretty large facebook following at the time and I had a very supportive circle of friends/followers. So I asked for ideas on a name. I had over 100 different suggestions. There was one that I read and it stuck out. I looked up what it meant: "ever blooming". That was it. I knew it was the name for me. 

I don't know if there are 100 different people you can ask, but you could always ask as many people as you know, as well as asking for suggestions here (although you may not get very many suggestions, as it's a very personal thing and everyone here knows this). Or you could just look up as many names as you can and go through each one of them until one sticks out and you just *know* it's the name for you. Sorry, I am absolutely terrible with naming things so I can't help you!

Whatever you decide to do, I thank you very much for feeling open enough to share with us. Good luck!

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Aiy

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On 6/19/2018 at 6:38 PM, Jani said:

I can only say you will know it when you hear it.

 I absolutely agree with this statement, I have been rolling around names for quite some time wondering if Jae was just a nickname, as it really was a nickname that I had in real life simply spelled differently . I’m not sure quite how Jacqueline came to be, but it just fit, for some reason I’m definitely a Jackie and feel quite proud of the idea that the name somehow came to me rather than I came to it.

 Hugs, 

 Jackie 

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Is there a name that you always thought of yourself as when you were growing up? That's the name my guy chose.

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For myself , I felt like I lived a 2nd private life inside . I didn't understand it and kept it very secret but it seemed like the real me when I was otherwise living an illusion.and my name was always Johnny for myself, even before age 5.

So in a way I had no choice. Johnny was always my name.

I ended up being called JJ during my transition by my 34 year old daughter who was really struggling and its stuck for her and spread out to the community. I can live with it, but I am, always have been and will be Johnny to myself.

Johnny

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I played around with names, but the main name is and was immediately, Scott.  Played around with middle names, but finally settled on the masculine version of my birth name (Stephen).  I get to keep my initials, which will be good.

 

Alexander is a great name.  If that's who you are to yourself, that's all that matters.

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Agreed with everyone else. Choosing a name is super personal and in the end it'll just be the one that ends up feeling right.

 

My first name I chose the masculine version of my birth name, but for my middle name I did a lot of research for it. I wanted something similar sounding to the middle name my dad chose for me but also with some meaning to it so I sort of went about it a bit backwards and looked up German names beginning with El and whittled it down from there.

 

There's no rush. Like the rest of the process you have to go at your own pace and when it feels right you'll know. If Alexander hasn't stuck after this time then keep looking. Check baby name registers or ask supportive friends or family and when something comes up that will stick you'll feel it.

 

Good luck, and I love your photos!

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Everyone has different requirements when choosing a name. For me, I wanted something that was unique without being unheard of and had a lot of meaning. I'm not fond of names like Adam or Micheal because there are too many guys with those names already, and I wanted to avoid names like Sky or Ash because those are both unisex and go-to names for trans guys. 

 

I, personally, draw meaning from pop culture a lot. So I named myself (middle name) after one of my favorite comic book characters. My first name has more of a spiritual meaning because I am a Universal Unitarian and I believe we can learn from all religions and cultures. Is there a book or movie character you relate heavily to, and if so, why? Or is religion more important to you? Or maybe a certain historical figure? 

 

These are all important questions, imo, to take into consideration when choosing a new name. 

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Until I start socially transitioning, I'm going by my nickname. Its a nickname I've had for a while, so my family and friends are used to it, but it has a more masculine tone and is a historical word that fits me to a T. My legal name when I transition is something I'm working on, but about 85% sure I'll go with what I've already picked out. Its a name that means a lot to me, keeps family ties, and is distinctly male. Its also different enough from my given name that I never have to hear my female name ever again (yay!!), but its very close to my nickname so people will have an easier time of suing my new name if they knew my nickname.

 

Name-choosing is hard, and I've sought out help from the few friends and family that know I'm trans. However, in the end, only you can know the right name for you. Good luck!

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I'm in the same kind of situation. First I really liked Jaden and now it's Mason. I feel like there is a better name out there that would take my breath away. 

I would love to help you though ^^

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For me, I went with a name that had been my nickname for years and years, and for my middle name followed the pattern my parents used for all the kids of middle names after a family member (I chose my paternal great-grandfather's first name for my middle name). I almost just changed the spelling of my birth name, and briefly considered the name my parents would have named me had I been assigned male at birth, but wanted my expensive new name to reflect my personal spirituality as well as gender.

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