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Dguzas01

I am in need of some help please. After a long time away I started dressing again.  I seem to have an issue now that I never used to have. I can’t get my tuck to stay. I constantly have one testicle pop out after being pushed in and my penis has a hard time staying up and behind. I am not much of a fan of taping because of hair that I have in the area. I am so frustrated. When I was young I was able to tuck my testies in and basically invert my penis and with a few pcs of tape (no hair then) i had my own puffy vagina. I never minded having a slight bulge from my large labia. I found it very attractive as well as some of my suiters. Now I just can’t get things to stay and I am constantly squishing one of my testies. That starts to give me a stomach ache after doing it a few times. :(  looking for any advice or products that could help. 

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jo jo

trying wearing foundation wear like girdles etc

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VickySGV

Tummy control women's underwear with a lot of spandex in the crotch area is all I can think of.   

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Dguzas01

Thank you. I will try them both. 

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Marbabar

Tucking is the absolute worst!!! Like the above posters I found some shape wear that I use. It’s like a one-piece leotard little thing that hooks together between the legs so that I don’t have to strip to pee. Straps over the shoulder keep it pulling super tight up between the legs, and actually holds it so well that I don’t actually need to do a real “tuck” most of the time, as it shapes the whole bulge into a smooth look that can pass pretty well. So much more comfortable for my testicles (though the trade off is tight shapewear squeezing my body and deep strap lines in my shoulders). Target for the win!

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JBfox

 Honestly, what are you wearing? If it just happens to be shorts, or jeans, you probably don't need to go do very much extra. A pair a fitting underwear, or maybe just a size smaller should hold everything in place enough, and the clothing will do the rest. For anything that might need a extra step, like say legging, I use a pair of underwear and a tight pair of compression shorts. Even if things slip out of place a little bit, in day to day clothing I don't think it matters to much. Also this leaves you with the convenience of being able to pee when youre out and about.

-Vaelyn

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Dguzas01
1 hour ago, Marbabar said:

Tucking is the absolute worst!!! Like the above posters I found some shape wear that I use. It’s like a one-piece leotard little thing that hooks together between the legs so that I don’t have to strip to pee. Straps over the shoulder keep it pulling super tight up between the legs, and actually holds it so well that I don’t actually need to do a real “tuck” most of the time, as it shapes the whole bulge into a smooth look that can pass pretty well. So much more comfortable for my testicles (though the trade off is tight shapewear squeezing my body and deep strap lines in my shoulders). Target for the win!

I love the sound of this. What brand is it and where did you find it?

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Dguzas01
1 hour ago, JBfox said:

 Honestly, what are you wearing? If it just happens to be shorts, or jeans, you probably don't need to go do very much extra. A pair a fitting underwear, or maybe just a size smaller should hold everything in place enough, and the clothing will do the rest. For anything that might need a extra step, like say legging, I use a pair of underwear and a tight pair of compression shorts. Even if things slip out of place a little bit, in day to day clothing I don't think it matters to much. Also this leaves you with the convenience of being able to pee when youre out and about.

-Vaelyn

Most of what I wear is form fitting. A lot of fitted mini dresses that end just under my butt cheeks. Any lumps and bumps show. I love love leggings and biking shorts. I definitely wear things to show off in. My biggest problem is the beach and bathing suits. I have a really hard time with keeping things in check at the beach. I love my bikinis and elaborate one Piece suits. I enjoy showing off but don’t want to show off everything. 

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Marbabar
3 hours ago, Dguzas01 said:

I love the sound of this. What brand is it and where did you find it?

The brand is MaidenForm, found it at Target. 

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Dguzas01
54 minutes ago, Marbabar said:

The brand is MaidenForm, found it at Target. 

Thank you!! I know where I’m going this weekend 😃

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Janeshannon

You might consider a gaff.  I like the bikini gaff from Glamour Boutique.

 

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PaulaPlaytex

"Janeshannon"...My Panty Girdle Works Great For Me...Don't Forget To Wear Your Bra !

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lauraincolumbia
On 7/13/2018 at 3:01 AM, Janeshannon said:

You might consider a gaff.  I like the bikini gaff from Glamour Boutique.

 

Glamour Boutiques gaffs work very well. 

Also they have wonderful customer service.

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