First Time Coming Out!

[Guest ixiolirion]

Whew. I joined this forum back in April thinking that I'd be starting to come out soon after...and here we are approaching mid-July lol.

 

Anyway, I just came out to someone for the first time. She's one of my oldest, closest friends, so I figured that would be a good starting place. She took it extremely well and the last hour has just been an out-pouring of support from her and I just feel awesome, so I wanted to share. I plan to talk to my other friends over the next few days about it before moving on to my family. All of my friends are some degree of LGBT, so it's going to go just as well and it'll give me some practice and confidence to approach my family with the topic (I need to do it soon. It's been a really hot Summer here and I think my Mom is getting suspicious as to why I haven't been wearing shorts or planned a beach day yet. Psst, it's because I haven't shaved my legs since March). I'm happy to be starting this. It's just been making me sick and anxious to keep this all in and not be able to present as male like I want to.

 

I might document how this all goes. My parents are fairly accepting, so at the worst they might be weird about it for a while. Well, actually, I shouldn't lump my Mom in with how I see my Dad reacting, seeing as she's the most awesome, pro-LGBT straight baby boomer I've ever known. But, yeah, wish me luck!

 

- Monty

[tracy_j]

Hi Monty, Thanks for the update. I glad things went well with your friend. I hope things keep going so well. With parents, it does get somewhat more complicated. I agree with your mum being likely to be better accepting, as mums often are anyway. Just be aware that accepting and understanding takes time and it is easier to be understanding of someone else's child than your own. Don't worry though as I am just saying that it generally takes a little time for the understanding to seep in. Be close to your mum and take it gently. Don't make assumptions about how anyone may react, just be ready with answers and patience. I am not trying to put a damper on things, or worry you, just preparing you for the deeper discussions you will have with your parents. It sometimes takes a while for parents to change from having a daughter to having a son (or vice versa). They love you. Remember that.

 

Good luck

 

Tracy

[jo jo]

it all takes time kidda things will fall into place when you are good and ready no good rushing things otherwise youll be stressed but all in all good luck