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Hi, I’m just over 60 transitioning - well trying to - my body doesn’t seem to want to play along. 

A year ago I was on estrogen pill, I took it for 7 months and everything seemed fine, breast development softer skin. 

Thrn I developed a DVT in my leg. (Thrombosis). Stopped estrogen. Took blood thinners - four months later I was clear. 

I read the patch was better for not causing clots. So started them **ml patches. Four weeks later I felt awful. There were nights I was getting heart fibrillation (I’ve had it before HRT, was told “avoid stress” but I was ok with no surgery and no medication). 

So I stopped again - the fibrillation is still somewhat there although not as bad. 

But now I’m thinking what to do? I desperately want to transition fully. 

Should I ask for less strength patches and then ramp up the dosage over a year? 

I haven’t had access to an endocrinologist (I’m in the Chicago area).

i don’t know how to move forward. Does anyone have any advice or experience? 

Thanks myka 

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It sounds like you have some health nuances that need to be taken into consideration.  If you can't find what you need in Chicago (surprising), is Mayo clinic in Rochester, MN an option (5 hour drive or 1 hour flight)?  They have an all-inclusive clinic for transgender people staffed by world renowned physicians including, but certainly not limited to, endocrinology.  If you need to be seen for other things in conjunction with your treatment, they can accommodate that as well.

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Our Resource Data Base has quite a number of listings for doctors and clinics in the Chicago area.  https://www.transgenderpulse.com/resource-locator/  .  DO NOT make any changes to your medications without consulting your current doctor.  I am 70, and also had a DVT two years ago after being on HRT fo six years.  From 60 to 63 I gained the average growth and body shape of the women in my family, and it did not reverse in the 8 months I was off estrogen a few years later.  Our bodies have limits and it is not the fault of the hormones.

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I would listen to your doctor first and fore most.  But it sounds like that you have some other health issues as well that need to be taken into account and looked at.  I would go to your doctor and let them know what's going on and let them first make the decision on your health with the hormones as well.  I also agree that there is a Mayo-Clinic up in Rochester MN about a 5 hour drive away.


I can say from my experience that my doctor and I am lucky to see a endocrinologist that I am a cancer survivor and my doctor is taking that into consideration.  I have started out on the patch and used the dose and amount of patches my doctor proscribed for me.  I recently switched to injections due to the patches were pre-maturely peeling off and was not getting the full use out of the patch and so I have not really noticed any change.  Now on injection, I am on a low mg right now to see how my body will be reacting and making sure keep my health in consideration as well to slowly ease me into everything.  


Hope that all helps out as well


Lots of Love



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