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OlyVersion1

One of my family members saw where I cut myself, and I don’t really know how to explain to them why I did it, because I am not out to them yet. What can I say to them?

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VickySGV

The truth that they need to know is that you did it in reaction to a stressful set of situations that you are discussing with competent medical personnel who are helping you to get out of the stress, and trying to help keep you safe.  You will tell them more of the story when the real root of the problem is better known, and when your medical team thinks you are ready.

 

If they go snooping further, shut up and get away from them. 

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Charlize

Oly, i reread the poem you posted earlier.  I know things may seem impossible at this point but that is only temporary.  The fact that someone saw a scar may well be an opportunity to ask to get some help from a medical professional who can help you deal with life's difficulties.  You don't have to be specific about the why's to a family member.   I was very self destructive for years but that has passed and life is generally really good.  I got professional help and also spent time here seeing how others were dealing with similar problems.

You might want to post an introduction in that forum.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Regn

I think it really depends on who the family member was, whether they're someone who you think will listen to you or just invalidate you more. If you don't think they're safe to say truth to, there are plenty of excuses... depending on what they look like... cats, gardens, clumsiness, shark bites. We've found that almost everyone doesn't really want to know so they accept excuses that sound implausible to us. 

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